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WHY WE ALL NEED TO PRACTICE
EMOTIONAL FIRST AID
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Guy Winch is a licensed
psychologist who works with
individuals, couples and
families. His most recent
book is Emotional First Aid:
Healing Rejection, Guilt,
Failure, and Other Everyday
Hurts. He writes the popular
Squeaky Wheel Blog on
PsychologyToday.com, and is
the author of The Squeaky
Wheel: Complaining the Right
Way to Get Results, Improve
Your Relationships and
Enhance Self-Esteem.
We all know how
to maintain our
physical
health and how to
practice dental
hygiene.
But what do we know about maintaining our
psychological health? 
What do we teach our children about emotional
hygiene? 
How is it that we spend more time taking care of our
teeth than we do our minds?
Why is it that our physical health is so much more
important to us than our psychological health?
We sustain psychological
injuries even more often
than we do physical
ones, injuries like failure
or rejection or loneliness. 
And they can also get
worse if we ignore
them, and they can impact
our lives in dramatic ways. 
Even though there are scientifically proven
techniques we could use to treat these kinds of
psychological injuries, we don't. It doesn't even occur to
us that we should. 
"Oh, you're feeling depressed? Just shake it off; it's all in
your head." 
Can you imagine saying that to somebody with a broken
leg: 
"Oh, just walk it off; it's all in your leg." 
It is time we closed the gap between our
physical and our psychological health. It's
time we made them more equal, more like
twins.
Loneliness creates a deep
psychological wound, one
that distorts our
perceptions and scrambles
our thinking. 
 It make us really afraid to
reach out, because why set
yourself up for rejection and
heartache when your heart
is already aching more than
you can stand? 
It makes us believe that
those around us care much
less than they actually do.
	
  
Loneliness won't just make you miserable,
it will kill you 
Chronic loneliness increases your likelihood
of an early death by 14 percent
Scientists have concluded that taken together, chronic loneliness
poses as significant a risk for your long-term health and longevity
as cigarette smoking. Now cigarette packs come with warnings
saying, "This could kill you." But loneliness doesn't. 
	
  
Failure does that as well.
Are you aware of how your mind reacts to
failure? 
You need to be. Because if your mind tries
to convince you you're incapable of
something and you believe it, then like
those two toddlers, you'll begin to feel
helpless and you'll stop trying too soon,
or you won't even try at all. 
And then you'll be even more convinced
you can't succeed. You see, that's why so
many people function below their actual
potential. Because somewhere along the
way, sometimes a single failure convinced
them that they couldn't succeed, and they
believed it.
Our mind is hard to change once we become
convinced. So it might be very natural to feel
demoralized and defeated after you fail. 
But you cannot allow yourself to become
convinced you can't succeed. You have to fight
feelings of helplessness. You have to gain
control over the situation. And you have to
break this kind of negative cycle before it
begins. 
Another example of one of the unhealthiest and most common
habits is called rumination. 
It's when your boss yells at you, or your professor makes you feel
stupid in class, or you have big fight with a friend and you just
can't stop replaying the scene in your head for days, sometimes for
weeks on end. 
Spending so much time focused on upsetting and negative
thoughts, you are actually putting yourself at significant risk for
developing clinical depression, alcoholism, eating disorders, and
even cardiovascular disease.
We don't prioritize our psychological health. We know
from dozens of studies that when your self-esteem is
lower, you are more vulnerable to stress and to
anxiety, that failures and rejections hurt more and it
takes longer to recover from them. 
So when you get rejected, the first thing you should be doing is
to revive your self-esteem, not join Fight Club and beat it into a
pulp. When you're in emotional pain, treat yourself with the
same compassion you would expect from a truly good friend. 
By taking action when you're
lonely, by changing your responses to
failure, by protecting your self-
esteem, by battling negative
thinking, you won't just heal your
psychological wounds, you will build
emotional resilience, you will thrive. 
A hundred years ago, people began
practicing personal hygiene, and life
expectancy rates rose by over 50
percent in just a matter of
decades. Our quality of life could rise
just as dramatically if we all began
practicing emotional hygiene.
Can you imagine what the
world would be like if everyone
was psychologically healthier?
 
If there were less loneliness
and less depression?
If people knew how to
overcome failure? 
If they felt better about
themselves and more
empowered?
If they were happier and more
fulfilled? 
If you just become informed and
change a few simple habits, that's the
world we can all live in.
TED Talk:
http://www.ted.com/talks/
guy_winch_the_case_for_emotional_hygiene

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Why we all need to practice emotional first aid

  • 1. WHY WE ALL NEED TO PRACTICE EMOTIONAL FIRST AID
  • 2. ABOUT THE SPEAKER Guy Winch is a licensed psychologist who works with individuals, couples and families. His most recent book is Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts. He writes the popular Squeaky Wheel Blog on PsychologyToday.com, and is the author of The Squeaky Wheel: Complaining the Right Way to Get Results, Improve Your Relationships and Enhance Self-Esteem.
  • 3. We all know how to maintain our physical health and how to practice dental hygiene.
  • 4. But what do we know about maintaining our psychological health?  What do we teach our children about emotional hygiene?  How is it that we spend more time taking care of our teeth than we do our minds? Why is it that our physical health is so much more important to us than our psychological health?
  • 5. We sustain psychological injuries even more often than we do physical ones, injuries like failure or rejection or loneliness.  And they can also get worse if we ignore them, and they can impact our lives in dramatic ways. 
  • 6. Even though there are scientifically proven techniques we could use to treat these kinds of psychological injuries, we don't. It doesn't even occur to us that we should.  "Oh, you're feeling depressed? Just shake it off; it's all in your head."  Can you imagine saying that to somebody with a broken leg:  "Oh, just walk it off; it's all in your leg." 
  • 7. It is time we closed the gap between our physical and our psychological health. It's time we made them more equal, more like twins.
  • 8. Loneliness creates a deep psychological wound, one that distorts our perceptions and scrambles our thinking.   It make us really afraid to reach out, because why set yourself up for rejection and heartache when your heart is already aching more than you can stand?  It makes us believe that those around us care much less than they actually do.  
  • 9. Loneliness won't just make you miserable, it will kill you  Chronic loneliness increases your likelihood of an early death by 14 percent Scientists have concluded that taken together, chronic loneliness poses as significant a risk for your long-term health and longevity as cigarette smoking. Now cigarette packs come with warnings saying, "This could kill you." But loneliness doesn't.   
  • 10. Failure does that as well. Are you aware of how your mind reacts to failure?  You need to be. Because if your mind tries to convince you you're incapable of something and you believe it, then like those two toddlers, you'll begin to feel helpless and you'll stop trying too soon, or you won't even try at all.  And then you'll be even more convinced you can't succeed. You see, that's why so many people function below their actual potential. Because somewhere along the way, sometimes a single failure convinced them that they couldn't succeed, and they believed it.
  • 11. Our mind is hard to change once we become convinced. So it might be very natural to feel demoralized and defeated after you fail.  But you cannot allow yourself to become convinced you can't succeed. You have to fight feelings of helplessness. You have to gain control over the situation. And you have to break this kind of negative cycle before it begins. 
  • 12. Another example of one of the unhealthiest and most common habits is called rumination.  It's when your boss yells at you, or your professor makes you feel stupid in class, or you have big fight with a friend and you just can't stop replaying the scene in your head for days, sometimes for weeks on end.  Spending so much time focused on upsetting and negative thoughts, you are actually putting yourself at significant risk for developing clinical depression, alcoholism, eating disorders, and even cardiovascular disease.
  • 13. We don't prioritize our psychological health. We know from dozens of studies that when your self-esteem is lower, you are more vulnerable to stress and to anxiety, that failures and rejections hurt more and it takes longer to recover from them.  So when you get rejected, the first thing you should be doing is to revive your self-esteem, not join Fight Club and beat it into a pulp. When you're in emotional pain, treat yourself with the same compassion you would expect from a truly good friend. 
  • 14. By taking action when you're lonely, by changing your responses to failure, by protecting your self- esteem, by battling negative thinking, you won't just heal your psychological wounds, you will build emotional resilience, you will thrive.  A hundred years ago, people began practicing personal hygiene, and life expectancy rates rose by over 50 percent in just a matter of decades. Our quality of life could rise just as dramatically if we all began practicing emotional hygiene.
  • 15. Can you imagine what the world would be like if everyone was psychologically healthier?   If there were less loneliness and less depression? If people knew how to overcome failure?  If they felt better about themselves and more empowered? If they were happier and more fulfilled?  If you just become informed and change a few simple habits, that's the world we can all live in.