Who are your mentors? Who changed your life? tutorial


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45 years ago, marks the release of The Beatles iconic Sgt Peppers album and album cover. It features people who influenced the Beatles. This activity by business coach Andrew Priestley gets you thinking about who influenced you for the better.

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Who are your mentors? Who changed your life? tutorial

  1. 1. “Thought provoking and inspiring.” ‘My mentors.’ Getting by with a little help from my friends. Sgt Peppers Sgt Peppers Lonely Hearts Club Band, Andrew Priestley
  2. 2. ‘My Mentors’ Activity This is a wonderful pause-for-though profound tutorial that will help you tap into who inspired and inspires you most. Enjoy! _________________ About 45 years ago the Beatles released Sgt Peppers which featured a list of ‘firsts’ including album artwork. They enlisted the help of friend Peter Blake who created the now iconic cover art. In the original 1967 work, the Beatles form the centerpiece wearing colourful militarystyle outfits standing next to wax models from Madame Tussauds. The Beatles were allowed to pick some of their favourites for the 1967 version, including Marilyn Monroe, Bob Dylan, Marlon Brando and Marlene Dietrich. © 2014 The Coaching Experience Ltd Lennon went for Hitler, Gandhi and Jesus, who were all dropped for being too controversial. However, in the 2012 piece, the faces of Ringo Starr and the late John Lennon and George Harrison have all been omitted. And even Sir Paul McCartney has been relegated to the third row – one behind his daughters Stella, the fashion designer, and Mary, the photographer. Sir Peter Blake, known as the Godfather of Pop Art, has put his own face and images of his family where the Fab Four once stood. Sir Peter said: ‘I’ve chosen people I admire, great people and some who are dear friends. I had a very long list of people who I wanted to go in but couldn’t fit everyone in. I think that shows how strong British culture is and its legacy over the last six decades.’ 1
  3. 3. This got me thinking about my own life. • • • • • • • • There was the kid who told me you get 5c refund on every Coke bottle you took back to the corner store. That kid ignited my passion for free enterprise, sales and business. There was my brother Pip who taught me how to sell the golf balls we found in the rough at the local golf course. There was my mum who gave me pocket money for and taught me to do a good job. There’s Arthur Davies who employed me to mow his lawns and climb ladders and do handyman jobs and fix stuff knowing full well a ten year old couldn’t do any of those well! There’s Father O’Brien who made me president of the St Bernard’s Catholic Youth Group when I wasn’t a Catholic. “God needs good leaders no matter what their faith.” There’s Des Picklum who gave me my first paid job as a storeman in his toy shop. And the forgotten teacher who nominated me for a scholarship which paid for me to complete high school. There is Pat and Doug Mann who gave me a renewed sense of home and taught me the value of family and a love for Christmas. • There is Dr Robert Schuller for his amazing interview with Napoleon Hill and Norman Vincent Peale on Hour of Power. • There was Phil Hergstrom who died tragically but switched me onto Jim Rohn. • There is the incredible Chris Newton and Paul Dunn who I believe single handedly changed the face of entrepreneurs in Australia by bringing top speakers like Jay Abraham downunder. There is Jim Alexander, Graham Alexander, Jim Moffatt – all amazing ad men. • • There are my martial arts instructors Gary Viccars, Mark King, Dieter Speilkamp, Anthony Brown and Sensi Budd. • There’s Darren Sprott, and Jock Nielsen and Vac Ubl who all shaped how I do business and life. • There’s Benny Tan and Charles Hammond who guide me spiritually. • And there is my wife Diane who continues to be the best thing in my life apart from our children Dan and Justine. Get the idea? So how did I compile this list? There are two options: a short and a longer version. _________________ There’s the amazing Jeff Dans who taught me so many great lessons about business, responsibility, excellence, pride, staying grounded, valuing your good name and reputation, the value of team and having fun. • • There is the Helen Hatton, Pat Castle, Marg Hergstrom, Mike Anderson, John Hopkins and the amazing Marva Collins who inspired me to be the best teacher I could be. © 2014 The Coaching Experience Ltd 2
  4. 4. The ‘My Mentors’ Activity: The Short Version Basically the goal here is to get a list of about 5-7 key people who have influenced or changed your life. This is probably not like Mitch Albom’s The Five People You Meet in Heaven which was about five people you know but didn’t realize that they changed your life for the better … but people you know and who you consider did change you for the better. You actually have a sense of gratitude when you think about them. has shown up in who you are today and how it shows up in how you operate as a person or a business. And leave me with a tip. So as Jeff would say, “If it was your business, what would you do?” _________________ The ‘My Mentors’ Activity: The Longer Version This activity is longer because it is more reflective and ore comprehensive and may take more than one session. OK? 1. Schedule 20 minutes i) Finish the sentence, “Someone who influenced me was …’ It’s important to schedule 20 uninterrupted minutes with yourself each time you do this. You’ll need your smart phone and voice recorder. Turn on the voice recorder and just start talking. Simply finish the statement, “Someone who influenced me was …” 2. Grab a coffee Just keep repeating the statement and include different endings. 3. Get a note pad and pen. “Someone else who influenced me was ....” Or tea. But something comforting and nonalcholic. i) OK the starting point is to write list of every year that you have been alive. In my case my lists starts from 1958. Get the idea? ii) Say why or how they influenced you. ii) Next to that write the corresponding ages: For example, Jeff Dans influenced me greatly because he gave me a job in his five-star restaurant when he knew I had no experience at all in hospitality. I do not know why he gave me a job but he did. Next he taught me how to be a great waiter … then a maître’d. Then how to run a restaurant … then a business … then how to run a high standard business … and why you should value high standards. Amongst other things – but great lessons that have stayed with me for over 35 years. iii) It’s sort of inbuilt into step ii) but give an example. Tell a story. Say what happened and why it was meaningful to you. And life changing. iv) Pass it on. Look for the nugget or the gem of wisdom or insight or the tip … for others. Say how this © 2014 The Coaching Experience Ltd • • • 1958 1959 1 year old 1960 2 years old If it helps write where you were living and what schools you went to and what grades you were in. • • 1968 – Grade 5 Swanston Street PS 1969 - Grade 6 Manifold Heights PS iii) It also helps to plug in any memories you have around that time. Start with any key words or phrases – you’ll be shocked at how quickly you start to remember stuff. 1966 – 8 years old, Swanston Street, Swanston Street PS Grade 3, First Shannons Own Scouts as a cub scout, Learn To Swim Campaign Eastern Beach etc. 3
  5. 5. iv) Write down any key things you remember like rock bands (i.e., The Beatles), TV shows (i.e., Shintaro the Samurai, Get Smart), legends (i.e., Roger Bannister, John Landy) and so on. Her triumph over adversity was so compelling. Her book was life changing. List anything that jogs your mind. 4. Say why or how they influenced you. For example, when I was eight James Bond was huge and Matel and Hasbro released trading cards and spy toys … which reminded me of where my mum worked … and school friends and … the Christmas pageant … falling off the garage roof … For example, Jeff Dans influenced me greatly because he gave me a job in his five-star restaurant when he knew I had no experience at all in hospitality. I do not know why he gave me a job but he did. v) Now start plugging in any names that come to mind. This can include immediate family, extended family, school teachers, friends, popular figures, authors, personalities, famous people. For example, I always admired and felt inspired by the first man to walk on the moon Neil Armstrong even though I never met him. I admired Walt Disney and Bruce Lee. vi) OK importantly, you are looking for people who didn’t just influence you but who came along side you and changed your life in a good way. Usually these people were not well known or huge success stories but something about them impacted your life. vii) It may help to consider any stress points in your life where good people showed up. I had several cross-road moments in my life where I could have gone off the rails in a bad direction. Doug Mann was the father of a friend who challenged me about drinking as a teenager. Jeff Dans challenged me to be responsible with his business. Helen Hatton challenged me to fully understand and appreciated the huge responsibility that goes with being a teacher. Marva Collins who I never met inspired me to learn and master the basics of reading and writing … and to be a great teacher for me kids. I got all that from a short 12-minute interview when I was seriously questioning if I was any good as a school teacher. © 2014 The Coaching Experience Ltd (You can watch this interview at http://vimeo.com/41399754 ) Next he taught me how to be a great waiter … then a maître’d. Then how to run a restaurant … then a business … then how to run a high standard business … and why you should value high standards. Amongst other things – but great lessons that have stayed with me for over 35 years. 5. Tell a story. Give a clear example. Say what happened and why it was meaningful to you. And life changing. 6. Pass it on. Look for the nugget or the gem of wisdom or insight or the tip … for others. Say how this has shown up in who you are today and how it shows up in how you operate as a person or a business. And how that might help others, too. I remember when I worked for Jeff that I double booking a wedding reception in the restaurant. I then realized my mistake and told Jeff. He said, “I know what we should do, but what do you think?” I said we should cancel the booking. Jeff got me to see that cancelling a wedding reception at short notice might help us out but be devastating for the happy couple. I said I didn’t know what to do and Jeff said, “Well you’d better start thinking and let me know once you’ve worked it out.” My solution was to find a reception centre of equal or near value close by and switch the booking to that venue, which they did. 4
  6. 6. But this meant Jeff had to refund the deposit – money Jeff had already spent on preparations for that function. Jeff then asked me how I intended to repay his out-of -pockets. He asked me, “Tell me again why I need to pay for this mistake?’ I worked out how to repay Jeff that money … but I learned so much from this example and others like it about cross checking and confirming and being responsible. And how to treat staff. 6. Stop around 20-minutes. You know this is a great activity and you will get on a roll but don’t do more than 20minutes. Here’s why. 7. Listen back to the recording with a pen and paper (at a subsequent session). Listen back and make notes. Stop the recording if you get inspired. (You will get inspired!) Most of my clients actually gain new insights from the playback. Sometimes they are really important distinctions. Other times you will realize that you gained a lot more plus you will have the added advantage of more time having elapsed. This is a great time to reflect. And take action. Many clients arrive at action points as well. So list any ‘to-dos’ that come from this session. _________________ OK. Next steps? Repeat and Rinse – (as my nana would say). Do the activity again. Regularly. Archive – You will end up with an MP3 file. I recommend you archive these MP3 recordings. They make fascinating listening a year from today or five years from today. Transcribe – (optional) if you are creating collateral I recommend you jump on Elance and get the MP3 transcribed because … Collateral/IP – Turn it into collateral. There is a whole content management argument that goes hand in hand with social media and the need to be relational and create digital © 2014 The Coaching Experience Ltd downloadable relational content. Simon Sinek’s argument is that people by why you sell more than what you sell. You can edit and top and tail your authentic ‘I believe’ transcript and make it available as a digital downloadable PDF relational piece on your website, for example. Most people have an About page. This is a great About page piece! Repurpose – This is a big discussion for perhaps another tutorial but once you’ve got it you can repurpose this content into reports, tutorials, downloadable PDFs, embedded email links, YouTube videos, SlideShare uploads, Tweets, Facebook Posts, MP3 interviews and so on. (For your benefit, most online content can be repurposed into things people can watch, read, listen to and do.) Repackage – Again a big discussion for another tutorial but the big idea here is to use packaging and pricing structures to bundle or unbundle your IP. There is always a but … …but for now, do this just for you. The big danger in doing this for a wider audience in mind is that you miss the value in pausing for thought – for you. You cease to be authentic and start saying stuff you think others want you to say. You start to spin things. If you sense that you are spinning, then stop, get another coffee and start again or do it later. This is a hand on heart exercise. There is one more step. And its optional. If that person is still alive, say thank you. Rarely, do the right people get thanked. Better late than never. Andrew Priestley PS Testimonials and Feedback I would love to add some testimonials or feedback to the next revision so please email me at andrew@andrewpriestley.com 5
  7. 7. Contact Andrew Priestley About Andrew Priestley Email: andrew@andrewpriestley.com Andrew Priestley is an award-winning internationally recognised business coach, mentor, speaker and author. Web: www.andrewpriestley.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/TCE.HQ Twitter: @arpriestley Phone: +44 (0) 7879 330060 Through 1-2-1 coaching, workshops and training he works with owner/managers usually managing directors - running established mid-sized companies across the UK, Australia and the USA. Typical results are certainly increased revenues and profits and higher performing teams. And coaching definitely helps you resolve challenges or problems associated with managing or leading a business. Even more typical is that clients become much better people. Andrew is available for 121 coaching sessions worldwide on via the contact number above. Read more: about Peter Blake: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article2123734/Sir-Peter-Blake-recreates-The-BeatlesSgt-Pepper-album-cover-2012-style-celebrate80th-birthday.html#ixzz2tUJlR9rC ! © 2014 The Coaching Experience Ltd 6