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The New ABnormal

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How to live your best life, gain value and learn while working from home.

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The New ABnormal

  1. 1. THE NEW ABNORMAL How to live your best life, gain value and learn while working from home. 1© 2020, Suzanne O'Brien. All rights reserved.
  2. 2. THE NEW ABNORMAL 1 It’s OK if you suck at working from home – you’ll get better at it with time 2 Working from home is a skill – and there’s more than one RIGHT way to do it 3 Listen to yourself, assess, adjust and try again 4 Tools and tips are helpful – read them, take what you like, and leave the rest 2 Let’s get some things clear *This is a picture of a cute dog, because sometimes we all just need to smile. © 2020, Suzanne O'Brien. All rights reserved.
  3. 3. • Meetings – ALL the time • People just show up at your desk • Social pressure – other people are working, so you work • Impromptu breaks The Office:What’s Normal The New ABNormal 3 © 2020, Suzanne O'Brien. All rights reserved.
  4. 4. • You have to get up every day and get to work • Meetings – ALL the time • People just show up at your desk • Social pressure – other people are working, so you work • Impromptu breaks The Office:What’s Normal The New ABNormal 4 EXTERNAL Motivators © 2020, Suzanne O'Brien. All rights reserved.
  5. 5. EXTERNAL MOTIVATORS Forces outside of you, that motivate you to get things done. Allow you to operate your life on autopilot during work hours. Limit decision fatigue. The New ABNormal © 2020, Suzanne O'Brien. All rights reserved.
  6. 6. EXTERNAL MOTIVATORS Forces outside of a person, that motivate a person to get things done. Allow every individual to operate their life on autopilot during work hours. Limit decision fatigue. The New ABNormal I have to walk to get to work, walk to get to the bathroom, walk to meetings, and walk to go out to lunch. Emotional distance from all the distractions at home. GEOGRAPHIC DISTANCE Everyone is working, so I should work too. SOCIAL PRESSURE Everyone shows up on time, and dresses a certain way, so I will too. The company has lunch in the cafeteria from 12 – 1, so I will eat because food appeared. CORPORATE NORMS Everyone is taking a break, so I will too. We’ll talk about work and other, non- work things. PEER INTERACTION 6 © 2020, Suzanne O'Brien. All rights reserved.
  7. 7. Results of External Motivators The New ABNormal You interact with other humans, and connect on a personal level with your colleagues.You build internal relationships up, across, and down, that support you in getting your work done now, and in the future. RELATIONSHIPS AND FRIENDSHIPS You walk a lot throughout the day, to meetings, to the office, to lunch and even to the bathroom.You eat and take breaks because everyone else is.You shower and get ready in the morning because you know people are going to see you. SELF-CARE ON AUTOPILOT The systems and social structure around the office are set up to ensure ongoing work, adequate breaks, and motivation throughout the day. JOB DONE EFFICIENTLY 7 1 2 3 © 2020, Suzanne O'Brien. All rights reserved.
  8. 8. External motivators drive work performance and self-care The New ABNormal 8 ExternalMotivators Social pressure Corporate norms Geographic distance Peer interaction Results Work gets done Relationships built Self-care and exercise © 2020, Suzanne O'Brien. All rights reserved.
  9. 9. 9 WHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE LOSE OUR EXTERNAL MOTIVATORS? ? © 2020, Suzanne O'Brien. All rights reserved.
  10. 10. WhenYou Lose Our External Motivators The New ABNormal You aren’t interacting with other humans as much, and you definitely aren’t connecting on a personal level (it may feel weird to just randomly bring up “Love is Blind in a vidcon).You don’t accidentally run into your boss or employee at the snack station, and you start to lose touch with how your team is doing. YOU GET LONELY, AND BORED When you finally hit your stride, you may forget to take breaks, and eat. In an effort to make sure you’re a good employee, you may even feel guilty taking breaks and time away from your desk. Your commute to work has gone from 2k steps to about 5 (from the bed to your desk), and you may opt against showering so you can sleep in. YOU STOP EATING,WALKING ANDTAKING BREAKS Try as you might, the systems and social structure around the office are no longer there, and it’s hard to stay focused and keep on keeping on. WORK SEEMS REALLY HARD ALL OF A SUDDEN 10 2 3 1 © 2020, Suzanne O'Brien. All rights reserved.
  11. 11. WhenYou LoseYour External Motivators The New ABNormal You aren’t interacting with other humans as much, and you definitely aren’t connecting on a personal level (it may feel weird to just randomly bring up “Love is Blind in a vidcon).You don’t accidentally run into your boss or employee at the snack station, and you start to lose touch with how your team is doing. YOU GET LONELY, AND BORED When you finally hit your stride, you may forget to take breaks, and eat. In an effort to make sure you’re a good employee, you may even feel guilty taking breaks and time away from your desk. Your commute to work has gone from 2k steps to about 5 (from the bed to your desk), and you may opt against showering so you can sleep in. YOU STOP EATING,WALKING ANDTAKING BREAKS Try as you might, the systems and social structure around the office are no longer there, and it’s hard to stay focused and keep on keeping on. WORK SEEMS REALLY HARD ALL OF A SUDDEN 11 2 3 1 THIS IS ALL SUPER NORMAL!!! © 2020, Suzanne O'Brien. All rights reserved.
  12. 12. 12 External motivators disappear, and you might feel a little lost, untethered, or just not sure of how to navigate the new ABnormal. This is an amazing opportunity for self discovery, improved productivity, and MORE spare time. WORKING FROM HOME © 2020, Suzanne O'Brien. All rights reserved.
  13. 13. 13 WHAT IS THE ANSWER TO HELPYOU FIGURE OUTYOUR NEW NORMAL ? © 2020, Suzanne O'Brien. All rights reserved.
  14. 14. 14 Internal motivators are your innate tendencies, strengths and abilities. Internal motivators get ignored everyday, because external motivators are so strong.The new ABnormal is a perfect time for self discovery, improved productivity, and MORE spare time. INTERNAL MOTIVATORS © 2020, Suzanne O'Brien. All rights reserved.
  15. 15. INTERNAL MOTIVATORS Forces that are innate to you, that motivate you to get things done. Allow you to leverage your strengths, and become EVEN more productive, attuned to your passions and a better coworker. Need to be discovered, but over time can limit decision fatigue. The New ABNormal 15 © 2020, Suzanne O'Brien. All rights reserved.
  16. 16. EXAMPLES OF INTERNAL MOTIVATORS 1 Hunger 2 Likes and dislikes 3 Your productive peak 4 Finishing work so you can do something else (homeschool your kids, cook an amazing dinner, pursue a new hobby) 16*This is the same picture of a cute dog, because sometimes we all just need to smile.
  17. 17. DIFFERENCES BETWEEN EXTERNAL AND INTERNAL The New ABNormal 17 EXTERNAL • Automatic (you show up every morning) • Autopilot (you sit at your desk, you work) • They happen TO you (meetings, lunch gets delivered) • Just appear (friends suggesting a coffee break)
  18. 18. DIFFERENCES BETWEEN EXTERNAL AND INTERNAL The New ABNormal 18 EXTERNAL • Automatic (you show up every morning) • Autopilot (you sit at your desk, you work) • They happen TO you (meetings, lunch gets delivered) • Just appear (friends suggesting a coffee break) INTERNAL • You’ve likely never even thought about them • Require self-awareness • Take time, thought and attention to discover • Need supplementation, once you figure out what you’re missing VS.
  19. 19. 19 WHAT AREYOUR INTERNAL MOTIVATORS ? © 2020, Suzanne O'Brien. All rights reserved.
  20. 20. TAKE 5 MINUTES AND THINK ABOUT The New ABNormal 02 WHAT PART OFYOUR ROLE DOYOU LOVE/NOT LOVE? The parts of your work that you are most passionate about can be drivers. Deciding how to plan your day and use your time mindfully and strategically, can help you feel less drained at the end of the day. Work you love is probably easier to get done when you’re nearing the end of the day and your energy levels are waning. Scheduling this for end of day gives you something to look forward to. 01 WHEN ISYOUR PRODUCTIVE PEAK? When are you most productive? When can you hit the ground running? When are you naturally most focused? Block out time for your most thought-provoking, focus-required work. 03 WHEN DOYOU GET HUNGRY?TIRED? UNFOCUSED? When do you naturally get hungry? Block those times out on your calendar. When are you naturally tired or unfocused? These are times you want to consciously bring in external motivators (1:1 meetings, accountability partners, scheduled breaks for coffee or tea). 04 WHENYOU FINISH WORK,WHAT DOYOU GETTO DO? What is the one thing that you can look forward to? If your social life has some gaps now, how do you fill them? Now’s the time to get through that watchlist, call your grandma or your old college roommate (it’s been awhile!) and take care of that project around the house. You can also start a new hobby or try a new recipe. Give yourself something to look forward to at the end of the day. 20
  21. 21. 21 IT’S FIVE MINUTES DO IT NOW! NOW’S THE TIME! © 2019, Suzanne O'Brien. All rights reserved. 5
  22. 22. IT ONLY TAKES 5 MINUTES – DO IT NOW! The New ABNormal 02 WHAT PART OFYOUR ROLE DOYOU LOVE/NOT LOVE? The parts of your work that you are most passionate about can be drivers. Deciding how to plan your day and use your time mindfully and strategically, can help you feel less drained at the end of the day. 01 WHEN ISYOUR PRODUCTIVE PEAK? When are you most productive? When can you hit the ground running? When are you naturally most focused? Block out time for your most thought-provoking, focus-required work. 03 WHEN DOYOU GET HUNGRY?TIRED? UNFOCUSED? When do you naturally get hungry? Block those times out on your calendar. When are you naturally tired or unfocused? These are times you want to consciously bring in external motivators (1:1 meetings, accountability partners, scheduled breaks for coffee or tea). 04 WHENYOU FINISH WORK,WHAT DOYOU GETTO DO? What is the one thing that you can look forward to? If your social life has some gaps now, how do you fill them? Now’s the time to get through that watchlist, call your grandma or your old college roommate (it’s been awhile!) and take care of that project around the house. You can also start a new hobby or try a new recipe. Give yourself something to look forward to at the end of the day. 22
  23. 23. 23 WHAT TO DO WHEN THERE ARE GAPS? © 2020, Suzanne O'Brien. All rights reserved. ?
  24. 24. 24 Identify new external motivators to support your productivity and motivation for work that you don’t love, and times of day that are harder to focus. LEVERAGE EXTERNAL MOTIVATORS © 2020, Suzanne O'Brien. All rights reserved.
  25. 25. 25 One person does not have all the motivation to maximize their own success.That’s 100% normal, and it’s ok.The key is to strategically leverage external motivators for your own support. YOU’RE NOT ALONE © 2020, Suzanne O'Brien. All rights reserved.
  26. 26. 3 Common challenges when external motivators disappear 26
  27. 27. CALENDAR INTRUSION SHIFTING MOTIVATIONS SCENARIO 1 27 When you work from home, meetings start appearing on your calendar at 7:30 AM or 6PM…you’re scheduled all the way through lunch. Family and friends are texting and calling – you’re home, so you must not be working, right?
  28. 28. CALENDAR INTRUSION SHIFTING MOTIVATIONS SCENARIO 1 28 When you work from home, meetings start appearing on your calendar at 7:30 AM or 6PM…you’re scheduled all the way through lunch. Family and friends are texting and calling – you’re home, so you must not be working, right? Creating external boundaries: • Suggest a new corporate standard, meetings are 50 minutes and 25 minutes long, to allow for breaks, and mental recovery. • Update your own calendar, block out time for lunch, and at least 2, 25 min breaks per day • Add some additional time blocks into your calendar for you to catch up on personal texts and family time. Set a timer for your kids so they know when they can expect to spend time with you.
  29. 29. CAN’T FOCUS SHIFTING MOTIVATIONS SCENARIO 2 29 When you work from home, you have a hard time focusing in the afternoons. You’ve been at this project for an hour and made very little progress. Leverage external motivators • Set up 1:1 meetings instead of thought provoking project work for the afternoons. • Schedule a daily walking break or “virtual coffee” with a colleague, and give your brain a chance to recover from all the hard work you’ve been doing. • Ask a colleague for help, set a smaller goal and agree that you’ll both focus for 25 min on your projects, and then check in.
  30. 30. CAN’T FOCUS SHIFTING MOTIVATIONS SCENARIO 2 30 When you work from home, you have a hard time focusing in the afternoons. You’ve been at this project for an hour and made very little progress. Leverage external motivators • Set up 1:1 meetings instead of thought provoking project work for the afternoons. • Schedule a daily walking break or “virtual coffee” with a colleague, and give your brain a chance to recover from all the hard work you’ve been doing. • Ask a colleague for help - set a smaller goal and agree that you’ll both focus for 25 min on your projects, and then check in.
  31. 31. THE SNOOZE BUTTON SHIFTING MOTIVATIONS SCENARIO 3 31 When you work from home, it’s hard to get out of bed and get started in the morning. Or maybe you have difficulty coming back to work after lunch…and watch a little more Netflix than you’d originally planned. Or maybe it’s hard to stop at the end of the day. Leverage external motivators • Set up 1:1 meetings instead of thought provoking project work for the afternoons. • Schedule a daily walking break or “virtual coffee” with a colleague, and give your brain a chance to recover from all the hard work you’ve been doing. • Ask a colleague for help, set a smaller goal and agree that you’ll both focus for 25 min on your projects, and then check in.
  32. 32. THE SNOOZE BUTTON SHIFTING MOTIVATIONS SCENARIO 3 32 When you work from home, it’s hard to get out of bed and get started in the morning. Or maybe you have difficulty coming back to work after lunch…and watch a little more Netflix than you’d originally planned. Or maybe it’s hard to stop at the end of the day. Leverage external motivators • Set up calls and meetings first thing in the morning, or after lunch, to make sure you get back to your desk. • Establish a “morning commute” and ”evening commute” routine, to mark the beginning and end of your day, remove yourself from your physical space, and get some movement in.Take a 10 minute walk around the block, call a friend and agree to “commute” together, so you have an accountability partner.
  33. 33. IDEAS FROM THE CAREER CONFIDENCE COMMUNITY THE NEW ABNORMAL 33 Thanks so much to all who joined the Career Happy Hour and for all of your suggestions! I am 100% certain I’ve missed some. Feel free to email me and I’ll add to this list. • Minimize stay at home anxiety: for an afternoon pickup, try tea instead of coffee (read more about the impact of L-Theanine on anxiety) • Change scenery: when you’re getting bored and restless, try moving to a new room or different chair. Just because you’re working from home doesn’t mean you have to be at your desk all day. • Schedule a team meeting first thing in the morning and set goals with your teammates for the day. • VIRTUAL HAPPY HOUR! Use Zoom or your video conferencing platform and get your team and friends together. • FITNESS: lots of options to get your fitness game on • Peloton is offering a free 90 day trial • Barre has a free trial • Chris Freytag: membership site + free 10-min workout videos https://www.gethealthyutv.com/ • Fitness Blender
  34. 34. IDEAS FROM THE CAREER CONFIDENCE COMMUNITY THE NEW ABNORMAL 34 Continued… • MEDITATION • Apps: Headspace, Calm and Whil • Justin Michael Williams suggests a Gratitude Walk, 10 minutes outside, focusing on what you’re grateful for (mind, body, spirit, and the world around you) • FRIENDSHIPS • Netflix watch party • Virtual happy hour and virtual lunches • Marco Polo • Ask your friends for help in staying focused during the day if their texts are disruptive to you meeting your goals • ACCOUNTABILITY (thanks to Sylvia for sharing her daily practice in detail!) • GAMs from JJVirgin. Having an Accountability Partner / Buddy helps to solidify this as a habit. • We text each other every night between 9-10pm to confirm that we’ve done them and that we’ve walked / exercised at least 10 min that day. We don’t share the details of the GAMs, just to encourage each other to do them. The nice thing about this habit is that, throughout the day, I look for Miracles. • G = Gratitude; 3 things you’re grateful for - ideally done in the morning • A = Appreciation; someone you appreciate and tell them why. • M = Miracle; 3 unexpected nice things that happened that day – ideally done in the evening. Ie: Someone told me that I had a nice smile – or – a friend texted me saying that I was “industrious”.
  35. 35. THANKYOU LET’S STAY INTOUCH SUZANNE O’BRIEN Sign up for workplace wisdom and career advice at www.thesuzanneobrien.com 35 Feel free to share this with friends, colleagues, peers, managers – the more we can all support each other, the better!

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