Parental alienation involves behaviors from one parent that deliberately damage a child's relationship with the other parent, often leading to manipulation and hostility. The document outlines five main strategies for parental alienation, seven stages of alienating a child, and indicators that may suggest a child has been alienated. It also provides countermeasures for alienated parents, emphasizing the importance of exposing alienating patterns and strategic engagement with the alienating parent.

1. Parental Alienation and
Extreme Alignment
When Parents Break Children’s Loving Bonds
When Children choose the Other Parent
When the ‘Ex-Factor’ interferes
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What is Parental Alienation?
 Parental Alienation
 A set of processes and behaviours conducted and enacted by a parent to
deliberately and knowingly damage or sever the relationship between a child
and another parent with whom the child enjoyed a prior loving relationship
 Alienating Behaviour and/or Hostile Aggressive Parenting
 Various acts and omissions by a parent that damage the relationship between
the child and the other parent
 Hostile-Aggressive Parenting (HAP) may cause parental alienation.
 Alienating Processes
 A related set of acts, omissions and behaviours that together act as a system
or a process, the outcome of which is a particular alienating outcome or effect
upon the child
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5 Main Parental Alienation Strategies
Manipulating the
child to reject the
target parent
Demoting and
devaluing the
rejected parent’s role
in the child’s life
Sabotaging time
the child spends
with the target
parent
Displaced
anger, hurt
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7 Stages to Alienating a Child
Create a Loyalty ConflictStage 3
Force the Child to align strongly with
one parent against the other
Force The Child to
Resolve the Conflict
Manipulate the child to turn away from
the formerly loved parent
Stage 4
Create the Alienating EnvironmentStage 1
Discount the role of the other parent
Use isolation, conflict and power
Convince the Child to Contrary ‘Truth’Denigrate the target parent Stage 2
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7 Stages to Alienating a Child
The status quo for Legal, Social and Financial Services Stage 7 Enforce
Severance
Sever the Previously
Loving RelationshipStage 6Make the child unhappy and unwilling to be with
the target parent
Alienate the ChildStage 5Support the child to engage in irrational,
unfounded, exaggerated criticisms of the
rejected parent
When parents
often seek
help
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A Child or Children may be Alienated
Against a Parent if:
 Hatred by association-enmity towards the target parent’s extended family without
known reason
 No ambivalence
 Uses adult concepts beyond age and stage of understanding
 Parrots (a ‘mantra’) the favoured alienating parent without regard for their own
historical experience with the target parent
 The child asserts that their views have been independently formed but are unable
to explain or show evidence of how they came to such beliefs
 Refuses to spend time with visits or communicate with the rejected parent without
rational explanation
 Fixed negative beliefs about the rejected parent based upon past events that
would not ordinarily be warranted
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Help Alienated Parents-Counter Measures :
 Expose the alienating pattern
 Be STRATEGICALLY EMPATHETIC and EMPATHETICALLY STRATEGIC!
 Timing-wait until children are receptive
 Educate them about alienation processes and about the range of
countermeasures available to them
 Attempt to work constructively and strategically with the alienating parent-“Know
your enemy”
 Tailor the approach for the type of person
 Know when NOT to deal with the alienating parent-obsessive
 Take the HIGH ROAD
“The best revenge is to be unlike him who
performed the injury. “-Marcus Aurelius
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8. References and Resources
 Dialogue-In-Growth-Mens Action in Open
Thinking
W: www.dialogueingrowth.com.au
E: info@dialogueingrowth.com.au
T: 0414 888 413
 SpeakEASY Counselling and
Psychotherapy
W: www.speakeasycounselling.com.au
E: info@dialogueingrowth.com.au
T: 0414 888 413
 Other support groups & resources
 An Example of Parental Alienation AKA Extreme
Alignment-
http://www.familylawwebguide.com.au/spca/pg/news/
view/614/index.php&wide_print=1&max=1000
 Parental Alienation CENTRAL (Australia)-
http://bringingpeace2alienatedchildren.blogspot.com/
 Poison Parents-
http://www.parentalalienationcrisis.org/index.asp?pag
eid=64961
 Divorce Poison and Parental Alienation-
http://www.divorcepoison.com/
 Parental Alienation Programme 'Family Bridges' and
Blog-http://www.warshak.com/alienation/pluto-dvd-
2.html
 Hostile Aggressive Parenting and Parental Alienation-
http://www.hostile-aggressive-parenting.com/
 Parental Alienation-UK resources-http://www.parental-
alienation.info/
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