Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn - Book Summary
Sometimes You win,
sometimes you (lose) learn
John C Maxwell
Life is about learning, and about
using those lessons to become a
better employee, employer, better
parent, better sibling, better
I have tried every day to learn
something new, to gain a new
perspective. That way of thinking
is what keeps a min young,
optimistic and joyful.
The lessons we learn from school
help us face the real world outside
the classroom walls. In a sense
learning starts after college.
While people are usually ready to
talk about their dreams, they are
not well prepared to answer a
question about their
Successful people approach losing
differently. They don’t try to brush
failure under the rug.
Sometimes you win, sometimes
you ( lose) but learn from it.
Les Brown said “ the good times
we put in our pocket, the bad
times we put in our heart”
The quality that distinguishes a
successful person from an
unsuccessful one is in the capacity
to manage disappointment and
loss. This is a challenge because
losses can defeat us mentally.
When we win, we gain
confidence. The more confidence
we have, the more action we take.
The inclination to move from
knowing to doing often brings
‘If you say that the morale of your
team is good after losing ten out
of twelve games, then your
intelligence is a little low.’ – Paul
Richards, Football manager
Learning is not easy during tough
times because it requires us to do
things that are not natural.
Pride goes before a fall. Pride is
about who is right, Humility is
about what is right – Ezra Taft
Negative impact of pride on
behavior of an individual – blame,
denial, closed mindedness,
rigidity, insecurity and isolation.
Such people are poor team players
People with a lot of talent often
perform at the highest level, but
the really best of the best –
achieve the highest heights
because they possess the spirit of
Ken Blanchard said – Humility
does not mean you think less of
yourself, it means you think of
Humility opens our eyes and
broadens our view. Because we
aren’t focused on justifying
ourselves or looking good, we
have better judgment.
Humility fosters an agenda of
seeing things the way they are, of
learning and the desire to
When we lose sight of reality, we
lose our way quickly. You cannot
improve yourself if you are
Life is difficult- somehow people
seem to believe that life is
supposed to be easy.
Some people never make an
intentional effort to grow, some
think they will grow automatically
just by attending meetings and
sitting at their desk.
One of the most striking things
that separate successful people
from those who aren’t is the way
People who get ahead think
differently and are constantly
thinking of improving their skill
Most people spend their entire
lives on a fantasy island called
They don’t live in the world of
reality and are always postponing
what they need to do today.
Lying to yourself is a hard habit to
People who don’t take
responsibility get into
Real success is a journey. We have
to hang in there, stay focused, and
keep moving forward.
Excuses are like exits along the
success road, those exits lead
If you are willing to put your name
on everything you do, that’s a high
level of integrity.
We live in a society with
destination disease. Too many
people want to do the minimum
to ‘arrive’ and then ‘retire’
Losers don’t lose because they
focus on losing, they lose because
they focus on getting by.
Improving everyday requires
intention and contemplation.
When people sense victory When people sense defeat
They sacrifice to succeed They give as little as possible
They look for ways to win They look for excuses
They become energized They become tired
They follow the game plan They forsake the game plan
They help other team members They hurt others
People with a teachable spirit
approach each day as an
opportunity for another learning
experience. They know that
success has less to do with natural
talent and more to do with
choosing to learn.
Being teachable depends on two
things- capacity and attitude.
While capacity could be fixed, our
attitude can change.
Winning via learning
• Everyone has something to teach me
• Everyday I have something to learn
• Every time I learn something, I benefit
How do we become more
Adversity is a better teacher than
success if we want to learn.
Many problems go unresolved or
are managed ineffectively because
we do not take them seriously
When looking at problems, always
split position clearly to say – here
is what I will do and here is what I
need you to do for us.
Why people resist change
• Change can feel like a personal loss
• Change feels awkward
• Change goes against tradition
People change when prompted with
• They hurt enough, they have to
• They learn enough, they have to
• They receive enough, they have to
One of life’s important question is
‘who am I”. But even more
important is ‘ who am I becoming?
’Most people don’t answer the
second question as they turn to
the path of cynicism, dishonesty
and getting by.
Successful people do two things
that many other people don’t.
They initiate action and they finish
what they start.
As a result, they form the habit of
doing things that unsuccessful
Maturity is the result of feeding
the right emotions at the right
time, anger, calm, encouragement,
push back etc. Maturity is the
result of developing good habits.
Maturity is the result of sacrificing
today to succeed tomorrow.
Learning decreases as winning
Bill gates said” Success is a lousy
teacher. It makes smart people
think they can’t lose. It also makes
them think they don’t need to
Learning is only possible when our
How we think when we lose
determines how long it will take
for us to win again. The right kind
of thinking is to remain positive.