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What constitutes marriage

  1. 1. What Constitutes Marriage? Today there is much confusion about marriage, divorce and re-marriage. Before you dive into the deep study, there must be some understanding of how marriage and divorce are defined.
  2. 2. TODAY <ul><li>A lot of “fuzzy” thinking on this subject. </li></ul><ul><li>Many are living together without a legal liscense or ceremony. </li></ul><ul><li>Is marriage more than a piece of paper at the court house? </li></ul><ul><li>What does the Bible teach about marriage? </li></ul>
  3. 3. TODAY <ul><li>Think about these illustrations </li></ul><ul><li>#1 – Couple is engaged, set the date for their wedding, decide to begin living together. </li></ul><ul><li>Is this OK because they have made a commitment to each other? </li></ul><ul><li>Is this fornication? </li></ul>
  4. 4. TODAY <ul><li>Think about these illustrations </li></ul><ul><li>#2 – Married couple drifts apart, gets a legal divorce, later he marries again, she claims to have “just cause” and is free to marry with God's approval. </li></ul><ul><li>He is guilty of adultery because they are still married in the eyes of God. </li></ul><ul><li>The divorce ended the previous marriage and he is no longer her husband. </li></ul>
  5. 5. DEFINITIONS: <ul><li>MARRIAGE is the process by which two people who love each other make their relationship public, official, and permanent. It is the joining of two people in a bond that lasts until death, but in practice is increasingly cut short by divorce. (Psychology Today website) </li></ul><ul><li>DIVORCE is the leagal and formal dissolution of a marriage, to dissolve legally a marriage - dictionary </li></ul>
  6. 6. BIBLE STUDY: <ul><li>Genesis 2:22-24 22 Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. 23 And Adam said: &quot;This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.&quot; 24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. </li></ul><ul><li>This marriage involved – Leaving and Joining </li></ul>
  7. 7. BIBLE STUDY: <ul><li>Patriarchs “took” wives </li></ul><ul><li>Leviticus 21:14 A widow or a divorced woman or a defiled woman or a harlot--these he shall not marry ; but he shall take a virgin of his own people as wife. </li></ul><ul><li>Marry and Take = Marriage </li></ul><ul><li>There is a public declaration - “This person is now married.” </li></ul><ul><li>God does not specify – ceremony, ritual, or custom – but is part of the public declaration </li></ul>
  8. 8. BIBLE STUDY: <ul><li>Wedding includes: </li></ul><ul><li>Spiritual commitment before God – Matthew 19:6 </li></ul><ul><li>Compliance with government requirements </li></ul><ul><li>Public declaration (ceremony, notice in paper, wear wedding rings, follow customs of your culture) </li></ul>
  9. 9. BIBLE STUDY: <ul><li>LATER – Time of Moses and in NT </li></ul><ul><li>Engagement (betrothal) was considered binding and required a divorce to break off </li></ul><ul><li>But was NOT marriage. </li></ul><ul><li>Why was Mary's pregnancy a shame? </li></ul><ul><li>They were engaged (betrothed) but not married </li></ul>
  10. 10. BIBLE STUDY: <ul><li>DIVORCE – In the Law of Moses </li></ul><ul><li>Required a “certificate of divorce” - legal document </li></ul><ul><li>Deuteronomy 24:1 &quot;When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some uncleanness in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce , puts it in her hand, and sends her out of his house, </li></ul>
  11. 11. BIBLE STUDY: <ul><li>Mark 6:17-18 17 For Herod himself had sent and laid hold of John, and bound him in prison for the sake of Herodias, his brother Philip's wife; for he had married her. 18 For John had said to Herod, &quot;It is not lawful for you to have your brother's wife.&quot; </li></ul><ul><li>Was Herod married to Herodias? Yes. </li></ul><ul><li>Was it a legal marriage? Yes. </li></ul><ul><li>Was it approved of God? No. </li></ul>
  12. 12. CONCLUSIONS TO DRAW: <ul><li>Marriage included: </li></ul><ul><li>Intent, promise, engagement </li></ul><ul><li>Public acknowledgment </li></ul><ul><li>Illustration #1 – Living together before marriage is fornication </li></ul><ul><li>1 Corinthians 7:2 Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality (fornication), let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. </li></ul>
  13. 13. CONCLUSIONS TO DRAW: <ul><li>Marriage included: </li></ul><ul><li>Intent, promise, engagement </li></ul><ul><li>Public acknowledgment </li></ul><ul><li>Legal requirements met </li></ul><ul><li>A couple is married when they comply with the laws of God and the regulations and laws of the territory where they reside. </li></ul>
  14. 14. CONCLUSIONS TO DRAW: <ul><li>The Example of Herod: </li></ul><ul><li>Herod and Herodias were married. </li></ul><ul><li>Did God sanction the marriage? NO. </li></ul><ul><li>Legal – married; God – not legitimate </li></ul><ul><li>Meet legal requirement = married </li></ul><ul><li>Meet legal requirements = divorced </li></ul><ul><li>It is possible to be married and that marriage not be approved by God. </li></ul>
  15. 15. CONCLUSIONS TO DRAW: <ul><li>Illustration #2 </li></ul><ul><li>The divorce was not for a scriptural reason </li></ul><ul><li>Still – they are divorced </li></ul><ul><li>When he married again – he had a legal marriage – but not approved by God </li></ul><ul><li>His marriage has NO BEARING on her freedom to marry again. </li></ul>
  16. 16. ROY DEAVEN: <ul><li>Marriage is an agreement (a contract) between two eligible parties, to take each other in holy matrimony, according to the laws of God and the land. When I promounce a couple “husband and wife” they are in fact at that time husband and wife.” </li></ul><ul><li>Your Marriage Can Be Great , edited by Tomas Warren, page 93 </li></ul>