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Wisdom — and Humor —
From Hudson Valley
Breast Cancer Survivors
DO YOU KNOW • WHO IS THE ‘REAL’ ME?
YOUR ABCS? • DON’T BE EMBARRASSED
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INSPIRATION & INFORMATION
This year, an estimated 182,000 new learn more about activities in your
DO YOU KNOW
cases of invasive breast cancer will be neighborhood, contact your local
CONNECT diagnosed in U.S. women, and more
than 40,000 will die from this disease
hospital or cancer support group or
It can’t be stressed enough: A monthly
self-exam to check your breasts for
Remember: If you, or a loved one, — the most commonly diagnosed lumps and changes is an important
are ﬁghting breast cancer, you’re not female cancer. But there is encour- As an inspiring way to kick-off Breast factor in the diagnosis of cancer.
alone. There are numerous organiza- aging news: public awareness, new Cancer Awareness Month, we invite And, understanding the geography of
tions dedicated to this cause. Here’s treatments and cutting-edge diagnos- you to peruse stories of strength and your breasts is critical to performing a
a sampling: tic tools are paving the way to a cure. courage from four Hudson Valley self-exam properly. Do you know your
breast cancer survivors. These special ABCs, when it comes to performing a
American Cancer Society October is NATIONAL BREAST women have graciously allowed us —
1-800-ACS-2345 CANCER AWARENESS MONTH, through candor and humor — to gain
www.cancer.org when communities and individuals intimate insight into their challenging The “ABCs” of a breast self-exam are
Breast Cancer Network of Strength participate in numerous events to checking the entire area enclosed by the:
raise both awareness and funds to journeys to becoming cancer-free.
(formerly Y-ME National
Breast Cancer Organization) battle breast cancer — and to spread
the crucial message of early detec-
We hope you’ll be enlightened and
uplifted — and motivated to schedule
“Your Shoes” — The country’s only tion, diagnosis and treatment. To your mammogram as soon as possible. B ra line
24-hour toll-free hotline staffed by
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CancerCare something unusual, have a doctor
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Cancer.Net Cover & Graphic Design . . . . . . . . . . . . SARA L . JOHNSON In addition, a clinical breast
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'SEA OF SURVIVORS'
CELEBRATING STRENGTH, COURAGE & HOPE IN THE FACE OF BREAST CANCER
“I never had any nausea,” explains of the chemo she received. “The truth
Mary Ann of the chemo sessions that fol- about chemo is that it does affect all
lowed her lumpectomy and the removal good tissues as well as cancer tissues
of three lymph nodes. She was, how- and, therefore, can cause problems
ever, bothered by a metallic taste in her later,” she says.
mouth, triggered by eating foods she But she is alive and grateful. “I get up
always ate or drinking bottled water or every morning, put my feet on the ﬂoor
ginger ale. and appreciate life because I’m still
“I never ate potato salad (before), but here,” she says.
Mary Ann I discovered it was one of the things I To buoy her on her journey of survivor-
Dowling (left) could eat,” she says. ship, she became involved regularly in
found great A treatment side effect they shared various breast-cancer awareness ac-
comfort and was exhaustion. “My energy was com- tivities, such as the Avon and Susan G.
inspiration in pletely sapped … Sometimes it was all Komen walks. “We’ve come a long way in
the journal I could do to get from the couch to the breast cancer,” she says. “Just look at the
of her friend, dining room table … There were times sea of survivors.”
Diane Trinkaus. I never thought I was going to get well,” And that is a group Mary Ann intends
says Diane. to hang with. She has no doubt that she’ll
Photo: “I told my oncologist I was going to return to every aspect of active, athletic
Deborah J. Botti. continue to run during chemo. He said, life – with some extra zeal, because she
‘Walk, maybe, but I doubt even you’ll no longer sweats the small stuff.
FRIENDS’ INTERTWINED JOURNEYS By Deborah J. Botti
be running,’quot; Mary Ann recalls, acknowl-
edging how right he was. “I was a great
sleeper, and I still don’t sleep through
“So the pipe broke,” she says. “We
waste so much energy on things that are
the night. And the insomnia contributes
D iane Trinkaus and Mary Ann Dowl- Mary Ann. “I’ve always prided myself
ing hit it off almost immediately on being healthy and athletic. I was at
when they met about 16 years ago. the gym every day. I was training for a
They’re both ex-nuns and retired edu- marathon.”
to the exhaustion.
“You’d just be starting to feel good
– and then you knew it was time for the
THE GIFT OF GIVING
Two years ago, while trying to cope
with her mother’s death, Diane knew she
needed to do something dramatic to
cators. Ironically, in 2004, shortly before her redirect the weight of the loss. “Prior to
They both live in Sullivan County; husband was diagnosed with stomach Of course, chemo causes hair loss. then, I couldn’t even walk past an infu-
Diane in Bloomingburg and Mary Ann in cancer, Mary Ann was asked by CROC Diane never owned a wig, and was quite sion room without being nauseous,” she
Rock Hill. (Citizens Reunited to Overcome Cancer) proud of her nicely shaped head. “It says.
to run the New Jersey Marathon on its didn’t bother me to lose my hair or the But she knows the difference she can
They both love cabaret, having met eyebrows, but the eyelashes … ,” says
at the Bradstan Country Hotel in White behalf. She ﬁnished second in her age make volunteering in an infusion room.
category and raised money for this ac- Mary Ann. “I’d like to have my hair back, In fact, Diane is bringing hope, hugs and
Lake. Mary Ann and her husband, Jim,
tive group that provides support, social but look at all the homemade pies
who died three years ago, were steady
activities, information and resources. money I’m sav- twice a week to
subscribers to its cabaret series and
particularly fond of chanteuse Jeanne “I was shocked at being sick, but I ac- ing.” I get up every morning, the outpatient
MacDonald, Diane’s dear friend. cepted the challenge. I equate my illness A sense of hu- infusion room
And now, they have breast cancer in with preparing for a marathon. And I mor is something put my feet on the ﬂoor at The Tucker
know there’s a reason why God wants me they both tap into Center for Cancer
common. Both women found the lumps
themselves. to go through this … Maybe he thought I to keep spirits up. and appreciate life Care at Orange
was too high and mighty,” she smiles. “Jeanne (Mac- Regional Medical
Mary Ann admits that she did self-
exams only sporadically. “Now, I tell Faith ﬁgures prominently into both Donald) always because I’m still here. Center.
had me laughing,’ Both Diane
everyone. And if they don’t want to, they their lives. “You can’t get rid of that nun says Diane, who — Diane Trinkaus, and Mary Ann
should have their partner do the exam.” past,” laughs Diane, whose prayer was a
little more direct. “You’ve given me this; also stresses the 19-year breast cancer survivor are fortunate.
Diane, 63, is a 19-year survivor. Mary you damn well better get me through it.” importance of They each have
Ann, 67, is in the throes of daily radiation allowing yourself a “pity party” when you dedicated friends and family who were
treatments. Diane had complete faith in her sur-
geon, whose reputation she knew and need to. “But there were days I’d tell her, able to be with them during every leg of
“We talk. Diane has been a big help to whose children she had taught. “‘If I were ‘Today I’m crawling under a blanket of the battle.
me,” says Mary Ann, who was diagnosed your daughter, what would you do,’quot; she blue. If it goes on for more than a week, I Not everyone is so lucky. Many face
at the end of March. asked him. promise I’ll get help.” infusion alone. “But I can put my arm
GLIMPSE INTO INNER A modiﬁed radical mastectomy, was But it never did. around them and say, ‘I know,’quot; says Diane
STRENGTH AND FAITH his response, which revealed two tumors ‘I APPRECIATE LIFE ...’ of the two days a week she spends at
Mary Ann has just returned the jour- and lymph-node involvement. Neither There were, however, always new chal- ORMC. “Three patients whom I was close
to didn’t make it. It was devastating.”
nal that Diane began writing on May 22, of the tumors showed up on the mam- lenges to be met. “When I was under-
1989. Between the blue-speckled cov- mogram. going treatment, I had the sense I was But then she thinks of the scores of
ers are sketches and poetry, details of doing something about the cancer,” says survivors she’s helped and is reminded
insomnia and chemo days, and glimpses BATTLING SIDE EFFECTS Diane. “After chemo was ﬁnished, I was that the gift of giving is not about herself.
into the inner strength and faith that Diane’s surgery was followed by
months of intense chemotherapy, before plagued by the question: Is it coming And, along with renewed empathy, she
helped pull Diane through. She shares back? This was always in my head.” serves up slices of homemade pie.
this journal with others as additional am- the advent of pre-meds to mitigate the
side effects. “I had nausea and diarrhea Diane has also faced nine surgeries — Deborah J. Botti is a freelance writer
munition for their battles. since, some of them an indirect result based in the Town of Wallkill.
“I couldn’t believe I was sick,” says for nine months,” she says.
TEST YOUR BREAST CANCER I.Q. TRUE OR FALSE?
Breast cancer survivors are the largest group of cancer survivors in the country. Breast cancer is second only to lung cancer in cancer deaths among women.
The ﬁve-year survival rate for breast cancer is 50 percent. Men don’t develop breast cancer.
3 other known risk factors.
The majority of women with breast cancer have no known family history or One woman is diagnosed with breast cancer every 15 minutes in the
Approximately 95 percent of all breast cancers occur in women 40 and older. Ovarian cancer is the most frequently diagnosed cancer among women.
Answers on Page 6.
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FAMILY AND FAITH MOTIVATE YOUNG MOTHER
By Deborah J. Botti
W hen Joanne C. Watts of
Middletown learned she had
breast cancer, it was like the
proverbial ton of bricks fell on her.
help was never far away.
“My mom was a big part of this.
…My mother-in-law was phenom-
enal. She’d come up to watch the
“I don’t need the same things,” she
says. “It doesn’t matter if we don’t
have the nicest vehicle or if the work
on the house doesn’t get done right
away. Everything will fall into place.
“I lost feeling in my legs. My hus- kids and hired a cleaning woman for
band, Raymond, caught my fall. I fell us,” she says. “People I didn’t know What’s important is that we’re safe
into his arms screaming and crying. sent me gifts and cards … neighbors and healthy.”
This was the scariest thing in my life,” would bring food. Joanne feels compelled to be there
she recalls. “Cancer was never a word “The chemo was really tough. I did for someone, to return the gifts of
heard in either of our families. not get sick – no vomiting, diarrhea compassion that she was given. Her
“I immediately thought of death. or sores — but the Neulasta injection tumor was not hormonal, and she
With two little ones at home, I told after chemo to boost the white blood lives with the fear of cancer’s recur-
my husband, ‘Make sure they’re num- cells affects the bones and causes rence. Staying informed about the
ber one.’quot; She couldn’t stop thinking body pain,” she says. disease is critical to her. That pink
about her boys, Ryan, now 6, and But it worked. All her post-chemo ribbon isn’t just a decoration; it
Matthew, 3. scans indicate not a trace of cancer speaks to her.
She thought of her mother, caring anywhere. “I dread each follow-up, almost to
for Joanne’s sister with developmental Throughout her treatments, she the point of panic attacks,” she says.
disabilities. “I didn’t want to give my remained candid with Ryan, explain- But she’s no longer afraid to gain
mom anymore to deal with,” she says. ing the hair loss and that the medi- a little weight or let the dust bun-
She thought of her husband. And cine that was causing her to be sick nies multiply. She prays every day.
all those thoughts gave her courage. in bed today would make her better. Although raised Catholic, it’s only
“He always wanted to be with me, since her diagnosis that she’s come
HELP NEVER FAR AWAY holding my hand, sitting next to me. to realize how enormous her faith is.
“I got several opinions, even one ‘Mommy, I’ll do anything,’ he’d say. It
in Manhattan that agreed with the ‘THE GREATEST THING EVER ...’
would break my heart,” she says. He
second opinion in Middletown,” she still likes to be nearby. “Before being diagnosed, I dreaded
says. Wanting to keep everything as getting older. I was contemplating Bo-
NEW OUTLOOK ON LIFE tox and a tummy tuck. How ridiculous
normal as possible for her boys, she It’s also amazing to 37-year-old
opted for treatment closer to home, is that,” she says. “Now I know that
Joanne how much breast cancer has growing old is the greatest thing ever.
which started with chemo to shrink changed her life. She used to work
the tumor, then a lumpectomy fol- seven days a week – four at Gold’s “My dream is to see my grandchil-
lowed by radiation. Gym in Middletown and three at the dren,” she says.
Joanne and Raymond Watts, with one of their two sons, Although their immediate families And she’ll be happy to have them
Ryan, enjoying a 2006 cruise to the Bahamas. Coach outlet in Woodbury Common.
live in Brooklyn or on Long Island, She’s cut back to a day at each. see her with a few wrinkles.
TEST YOUR BREAST CANCER I.Q. ANSWERS
1. True. There are nearly 2.5 million breast cancer survivors in the U.S. today. 5. True. In the U.S., approximately 40,000 will die from breast cancer this year.
2. False. When caught early before it spreads beyond the breast, the ﬁve-year 6. False. An estimated 1,990 new cases of breast cancer will be diagnosed in
survival rate is now 98 percent — compared to 74 percent in 1982. U.S. men during 2008.
3. True. Only 5 to 10 percent of breast cancers are due to heredity. 7. False. Every three minutes, one woman is diagnosed with breast cancer in the U.S.
4. True. Getting older increases a woman’s chance of developing breast cancer. 8. False. Breast cancer is the most frequently diagnosed female cancer.
— Source: www.komen.org
NO NEED TO BE EMBARRASSED
INCONTINENCE ISN’T A BAD WORD
Compiled by Carol Montana
Did you know? ...
• Women suffer from incontinence A. The most common are preg-
twice as often as men. nancy and delivery. Less common
• Incontinent women wait an average is repetitive pressure on the pelvic
of 12 years before seeking help. ﬂoor – coughing and constipa-
• Incontinence can strike women in tion. For some women, there is
their 20s. likely a genetic role. Most are
Dr. Richard M. Wood of the
Women’s Incontinence Center in Q. WHAT AGE GROUPS OF
Hudson, Middletown, Kingston and WOMEN ARE AFFECTED?
Sharon, Conn., is a urogynecologist A. There is a misconception
— a relatively new breed of doctors that it’s an elderly problem.
dedicated to helping women beat Nearly half of all women affected
this very common condition. He’s get incontinent in their late 20s,
helped thousands of women by but they cope and mask it. The
treating a body part that functions majority of my patients are in their
Are you someone who’s embar- Q. DOES OBESITY
rassed by incontinence? No need to PLAY A ROLE?
be any longer, says Wood. Help is A. Obesity is named as a cause,
available. Here are Wood’s answers and may put extra pressure on the
to some frequently asked questions support tissues around the ure-
about female incontinence. thra. No one can prove obesity
Q. WHAT EXACTLY IS WOMEN’S causes incontinence.
INCONTINENCE? Ask the doctor that tells
A. The loss of urine when it wasn’t you, “You’re obese, I can-
planned. not help you,” how much
Q. ARE THERE DIFFERENT weight you need to lose
KINDS, AND WHICH IS before the problem
MOST COMMON? goes away. Even better,
ask the doctor how much weight a
A. Number one is stress inconti- 104-pound woman needs to gain
nence – any activity or body posi- before she’s incontinent. There are
tion that leads to loss of urine. no answers.
Second is an overactive bladder, Q. WHY DON’T WOMEN
likely to start after menopause. The SEEK HELP?
bladder has a mind of its own – A. Women traditionally accept
frequency, urgency and urine loss responsibility for everything. When
soon after getting an urge. their bladder behaves badly, they
Eight out of 10 patients have a consider it a sign of personal failure.
component of stress incontinence. Q. HOW DO YOU EASE THEIR
Q. WHAT ARE THE CAUSES? EMBARRASSMENT?
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THE PROTECTIVE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING
By MJ Hanley-Goff
I t’s National Breast Cancer Aware-
ness Month, and amidst our hectic
schedules of mammograms, breast
self-exams and raising consciousness
and money through walks and runs, let’s
authors, lecturers, practitioners and
pioneers in the study of the female
mind-body connection. Though mem-
bers of different generations, and living
in separate parts of the country, Hay
daily by nurturing herself with healthy
food and supplements, avoiding exces-
sive alcohol, stopping smoking, and
engaging in mutually satisfying relation-
ships.” According to Northrup, research
her book — among them,
dissolving anger and
her body's toxins and
loving herself —
not forget some of the most powerful and Northrup share the commonal- shows that women who were able to ex- she was cancer free
allies we women have: our minds and ity of going deeper into the origins of press their emotions, who were able to within six months.
attitudes. disease. Both promote a more mindful “experience their grief” when confronted In bold letters she
Louise L. Hay and Christiane approach to breast care, which they say with a devastating event, were “three writes in her book,
Northrup, M.D., are two best-selling can lessen the chances of getting the times less likely to suffer from breast “You Can Heal Your
disease — and, should cancer cancer than those who hid their emo- Life” (Hay House), “DIS-
be discovered, help us meet tions behind a brave face or submerged EASE CAN BE HEALED,
the challenge not with fear, but their grief in various forms or activity.” IF WE ARE WILLING
with a well-rounded regimen of With a troubled childhood and a TO CHANGE THE
medical intervention, diet and crushing end to her 14-year marriage, WAY WE THINK
positive inner strength. Louise Hay began what she calls her AND BELIEVE AND
In “The Wisdom of Meno- “inner work” by investigating metaphys- ACT!” (In her spelling
pause,” (Bantam), Dr. Northrup ics and healing. She became a transcen- of the word “dis-ease,”
recommends that although dental meditator in her church, returned Hay emphasizes how
screening is, of course, enor- to school and self-published a book she believes illnesses
mously important, “every called, “Heal Your Body,” a list of meta- come from an “unease”
perimenopausal woman needs physical causes for some of the most in the mind.)
to know about the limitations of common physical illnesses in the body. It’s not news to hear
Dr. Christiane Northrup Louise L. Hay screening and take responsibility Not long after, Hay was diagnosed that areas in the body have
Photo: Barbara Peacock Photo: Charles Busch Photography for creating healthy breast cells with cancer. Following the tips listed in symbolic meanings, and the breasts,
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says Hay, represent “mothering and nurturing and
nourishment.” When problems arise, the cause can be
traced to “a refusal to nourish the self. Putting every-
one ﬁrst. Overmothering. Overprotection. Overbearing
attitudes.” And there are two new thought patterns she
recommends: “I take in and give out nourishment in
And: “I am important. I count. I now care for and
nourish myself with love and with joy. I allow others
the freedom to be who they are. We are all safe and
free.” In her suggestions for using these new thoughts,
Hay says to repeat them several times a day, and to
“assume that you are already in the process of healing.”
As a board-certiﬁed OB/GYN and teacher, Northrup
discovered Hay’s book and kept it in her drawer at the
ofﬁce. This kind of information wasn’t new to Northrup,
whose father was a holistic dentist. However, over the
years, she was able to obtain medical research proving
Hay’s assertions. In her book, Northrup writes about
“Creating Breast Health,” and expands on Hay’s “to-do” list:
• Be honest about what you’re feeling. Extinguish
the “I’m really ﬁne” phrases from your vocabulary
when they cover up real and painful emotions.
• Create a life plan. Draw up a one- or two-year
plan just for yourself.
• Create an energy budget. Balance what you do
for others with what you do for yourself.
• Maintain a relationship with your own creativity
and pleasure. Keep your mind engaged; don’t put
aside what you like to do.
• Periodically re-evaluate your goals & plans.
Northrup does this each year around her birthday.
Let go of what is obsolete and not in-synch with
your emerging inner wisdom.
In an interview with Northrup in her Maine ofﬁce, she
says that “your daily choices, on all levels, from diet, to
thoughts and emotions, affect the day-to-day DNA of
the breast. It’s an awesome responsibility for some to
realize that we are responsible for our own health.”
An opportunity to see Northrup and Hay is taking
place at the Jacob Javits Center, on Nov. 22, with a “You
Can Heal Your Life” All-Day Conference. For more
information on this event, and Louise Hay, log on to
www.hayhouse.com. For more information on Chris-
tiane Northrup, MD, log on to www.drnorthrup.com.
— MJ Hanley-Goff is a freelance writer who lives in Monroe.