THE PROVERBS 31 MAN
MAY 11, 2014
FIRST BAPTIST CHURCH
JACKSON, MISSISSIPPI
USA
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Proverbs 1:8-9 NKJV
8 My son, hear the
instruction of your father,
And do not forsake the
law of your mother;
9 For they will be a graceful
ornament on your head,
And chains about your
neck.
Proverbs 1:8-9 NKJV
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MAY MEMORY VERSE:
Micah 6:8 NKJV
8 He has shown you, O man,
what is good; And what does
the LORD require of you,
But to do...
What’s the number one thing?
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1 Corinthians 10:31 NKJV
31 Therefore, whether you
eat or drink, or whatever
you do, do all to the glory
of God.
THE PROVERBS 31 MAN
Kurtis Dahlin
March 21, 2002
©Kurtis Dahlin 2002
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Guys, if you want a
Proverbs 31 wife, be a
Proverbs 31 husband.
If you want a Proverbs 31
daughter, be a Proverbs 31
fathe...
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Proverbs 31:10-31 NKJV
10 Who can find
a virtuous ...
11 The heart of her
husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of
gain.
12 She does him good and
not evil
All the ...
13 She seeks wool and flax,
And willingly works with
her hands.
14 She is like the merchant
ships,
She brings her food fro...
15 She also rises while it is
yet night,
And provides food for her
household,
And a portion for her
maidservants.
16 She considers a field
and buys it;
From her profits she plants
a vineyard.
17 She girds herself with
strength,
And stre...
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18 She perceives that her
merchandise
is...
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19 She stretches out her hands to
the distaff,
And her...
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20 She extends her ha...
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21 She is not afraid of snow
for her household,
For...
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22 She makes tapestry for
herself; her clothing
is fin...
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23 Her husband is known
in the gates,
When h...
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24 She makes linen
garments and sells them,
And sup...
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25 Strength and
honor are her clothing;
She s...
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26 She opens her mouth
with wisdom,
And on her t...
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27 She watches over the
ways of her h...
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28 Her children rise up and
call her blessed;
Her hus...
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29 “Many daughters have
done ...
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30 Charm is deceitful and
beauty is pass...
31 Give her of the fruit of
her hands,
And let her own works
praise her in the gates.
Proverbs 31:10-31 NKJV
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Each of these 22 verses
begins with a letter of the
Hebrew
alph...
This chapter describes the
numerous skills,
exceptional talents, and
the virtuous character of
the perfect mother and
wife...
However, it is obvious
that this book is not just
for my wife and
daughters − it s for me –
their husband and
father− tell...
The godly requirements
of a man appear behind
the scenes in Proverbs 31
and serve as a vision of an
incredible role model ...
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The Hebrew word for
ruby, paniyn (pawN...
Proverbs 3:15a KJV
15a She (wisdom) is more
precious than rubies:
Proverbs 8:11a KJV
11a For wisdom is better
than rubies;
Job 28:18b KJV
18b the price of wisdom is
above rubies.
Men should view ladies as
the precious, crowning
jewel of God's cr...
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Proverbs 31:10 is saying
that we men should value
our...
We should thank God
every night when we go
to bed and every morning
before we get up for the
precious jewel He has
placed ...
We are told in Scripture:
cherish her, nourish her,
love her, even as Christ
loved the church and gave
Himself for it.
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Thank God for your go...
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The Pathological
Problem of Men
Of the thirty-one chapters
in the book of Proverbs,
thirty chapters are
primarily addresse...
*Broken down even
further, there are 22 verses
for women and 893 verses
for men.
*What does that tell you?
*Why do men nee...
92% of the inmates in
state and federal prisons
are men and 81% are
unmarried men − in
various stages of
singleness, i.e. ...
*The facts are clear − men
are the leading cause of
crime.
*Men gone wrong are the
curse of the nation and
the majority of...
*How many mass
murderers were women?
*How many female
pirates can you name?
*The history of men
without women is not
good,...
Take Adam for instance:
· Genesis 1:3,4 states that
God made light. The light
was good.
· v 7-10 God made the sky,
the wat...
· v 11-12 God made plants
and trees. And God saw
that it was good.
· v 14-18 God made the
sun and moon. And God
saw that i...
· v 20 states that God made
living creatures for the seas
and birds. And God saw
that it was good.
· v 24 God made land
an...
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· v 31 God saw all that He
had made, and it was very
goo...
Genesis 2:20-24 NKJV
20 So Adam gave names to
all cattle, to the birds of
the air, and to every beast
of the field. But fo...
21 And the LORD God
caused a deep sleep to fall
on Adam, and he slept;
and He took one of his
ribs, and closed up the
fles...
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22 Then the rib which
the LORD God had tak...
23 And Adam said:
“This is now bone of my bones
And flesh of my flesh; (WOW!)
She shall be called Woman,
Because she was t...
24 Therefore a man shall
leave his father and
mother and be joined to
his wife, and they shall
become one flesh.
Genesis 2...
*Men need the
transforming power of a
mother, a good wife, and
a sister.
*In this case, Adam
needed a wife to help him
rul...
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surprised...
Men gone astray from
God are the greatest social
problem that faces
America and the greatest
drain on our national
resourc...
Men who turn to God are
our greatest hope.
God’s plan to help Adam
included a helper - his
wife.
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The Proverbs 31 woman is
the id...
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Proverbs 31:29 states that
there are "many women
who have done
ex...
When a woman rises to
excellence, her husband is
usually a man of
excellence.
Behind every good
woman is a good man.
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Many women are
excellent wives becau...
The wife described in
Proverbs 31 would have a
difficult time becoming a
woman of such surpassing
excellence unless her
hu...
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Who is this Proverbs 31
man?
Proverbs 31:11 reads "Her
husband has full
confidence in her...."
*Who is this husband and
what can we learn from
him? (Is...
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Proverbs 31:28 states,
“Her children rise up….” -...
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Proverbs 31:23 reads “...
As we survey Proverbs 31,
we learn that our man
is a husband (v. 11),
he is a father (v. 28), and
he is an elder (v. 23).
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These are the three key
areas in which we will
examine our man of
e...
Proverbs 31:11 NKJV
11 The heart of her
husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of
gain.
He is not a roommate or a
drop-in boyfriend.
He is not one of a long
string of guys.
He is her husband.
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*Martin Luther called
marriage:
“The school of character.”
*According to George
Barna, the USA has the
highest divorce rat...
The reason we are
viewing our Proverbs 31
man as looking at
ourselves in a mirror is to
see areas in our lives that
need i...
What Kind of Husband
Is the Proverbs 31 man?
Proverbs 31:11 states that
her husband safely trusts
her, she has his full
co...
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His trust allows her to
fully express...
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His confidence empowers
her to m...
Notice, she has full reign
of the house.
She is not lonely, bored,
caged up, barefoot nor
fearful.
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She accomplishes much in
this environmen...
He trusts her to make the
best use of her
opportunities.
She is completely free and
active, working in
harmony with the vi...
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This is a functional home.
Women don't work this
h...
The Proverbs 31 woman
works with willing hands.
She couldn't and wouldn’t
thrive in an environment
of physical and verbal
...
*The Proverbs 31 man
does not stifle his wife.
*Physical, mental and
verbal abuse do not
produce trust and
confidence and
...
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Her eager productivity
tells us that this home is
ri...
The fact that she lives in
an environment of
confidence and trust gives
her the full opportunity to
utilize her talents an...
He trusts her with all of
his heart.
Do you think the Proverbs
31 man is a likable kind of
person?
Does it sound like they
are working together?
Do you suppose they
agree on the direction
their family and lives are
headin...
They are not two people
living together with two
different agendas:
with him doing one thing
and her doing something
else.
*She has full confidence in
him and he has full
confidence in her.
*She is worthy of his
respect and honor.
*He is worthy ...
*These two are equally
yoked.
*One of the major causes
of divorce is disagreement
over core values.
*Yet, these are not tw...
*They are not two people
at war with each other.
*They are not two people
in the rowboat fighting
over the oars.
*They are...
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These are two people
committed to God's way,
each pulling...
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They have shared values
and vision.
Divorce is not an option
and it doesn't need to be.
There are no problem
marriages.
There are only problems
with married p...
Have you ever heard of
anyone who got a divorce
because they were too
kind to each other?
A Gallup poll found three
of four women agreeing
that if they could turn
back the calendar they
would not pick the same
hu...
What does this passage
say about our Proverbs 31
husband?
She feels happy to be
married to such a
wonderful man.
She would marry him
again.
Would you want to be
married to you?
The Proverbs 31 woman
was able to be so open
and giving and to achieve
so much because of the
noble character of her
husba...
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If you want a Proverbs 31
wife, be a Proverbs 31
husband!
*We know that he who
loves his wife, loves
himself.
*Men, we would all do
ourselves a favor by
becoming this kind of
man.
The Proverbs 31 man is a
loving husband.
The Proverbs 31 Man as
Father
Next, we discover that our
Proverbs 31 man is also a
father. In verses 15, 21, 27
and 28, we...
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They are his kids as well
as hers so he is bea...
There are at least seven
typical responsibilities of
a Biblical father:
· To provide adequately
for his family.
· To assum...
· To diligently teach and
train his children Biblical
values.
· To properly discipline
with purpose and love.
No disciplin...
· To defend and protect
the family.
· To prepare children for
productive work.
· To participate in the
selection of a spou...
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The father is expected to
be the primary tea...
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The Proverbs 31 Dad
fully embraced this
Biblical job descr...
He had a well functioning
home.
His family and household
were fed, clothed and well
cared for.
He was not squandering
his income on gambling,
get-rich-quick schemes,
drugs, pornography,
prostitution, laziness and
drun...
She can buy and travel for
groceries because he
provided financial
stability.
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His wife is not home
wringing her hands,
worrying that her
husband will spend the
family income on drugs,
gambling, prosti...
The fact that she can work
with eager hands, buy a
field, plant a vineyard,
and bring her food from
far distances speaks o...
The Proverbs 31 father
works hard to provide
this stable home life but
he is not materialistic.
He does not work for
money...
The world’s way:
Get all you can,
can all you get,
sit on the lid and
spoil the rest.
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God’s way:
You ...
The Proverbs 31 Man Is
Generous
Proverbs 31:20 NIV
20 She opens her hand to
the poor and extends her
hands to the needy.
*What do we learn about
our man from the fact that
his amazing wife is so
charitable?
*Do you think she is
sneaking househ...
There are many women
who would like to tithe
and cheerfully give
offerings but their
husbands won't allow it.
They refuse to permit
their wives to contribute
to the needs of the church
and to help ministries that
help other people.
If this woman could give
to the poor, her husband
encouraged it and
modeled that compassion
and generosity in his own
life...
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He does not work to ge...
The Proverbs 31 man
inspires her to give to the
poor.
Her charity is an
extension of his
generosity.
Here is a generous man
who understands the
power and blessing of
helping others
(Proverbs19:17; 22:9).
Proverbs 19:17 NKJV
17 He who has pity on the
poor lends to the LORD,
And He will pay back
what he has given.
Our man is not a miserly
old scrooge.
He is not a greedy man.
“A greedy man makes
trouble for his own
house” (Proverbs15:2...
We don't sense any
trouble in this house.
Proverbs 11:29 states,
“He who brings trouble
on his family will only
inherit th...
The Proverbs 31 man is
not a troublemaker.
He is an honest man who
uses his income to
improve the quality of life
for the ...
We don't sense the
squandering of family
finances on wickedness,
foolishness and status
seeking.
Instead, her charity is an
extension of his
philanthropy.
The Proverbs 31 man is
generous.
The Proverbs 31 Woman Can
Laugh
Proverbs 31:25
25 Strength and honor are her
clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come
(...
*The Proverbs 31 woman
can laugh.
*This woman can face the
future with confidence.
*What does this tell us
about our Prove...
Would she be so bold
about her future if her
husband were an
alcoholic, wasting the
family money on drugs,
foolishness, ga...
*Could she laugh at the
future if her husband was
cruel or mean to the kids?
*Could she laugh if her
husband was selfish, ...
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She can only laugh at the
future because of the
noble chara...
She can laugh because her
Proverbs 31 man is:
1) stable and
2) committed to God,
3) morally faithful and
4) hardworking.
*Our man has not caused his
wife sorrow and grief.
*She is not worried sick
wondering what hubby will do
next.
-Where he i...
*It would be impossible for an
abused and unloved woman
to laugh about anything.
*A husband who can give his
wife such con...
*How many wives can laugh
at the future?
*How many wives can laugh
about anything?
*How many women have
enough confidence ...
The Proverbs 31 woman
can laugh.
Today, the question in
most American homes is,
“Where is dad, the
invisible man?”
Where is our Proverbs 31
man?
*In Proverbs 31:28-29 we
find the Proverbs 31 dad
at home.
*We usually think of the
wife as “the homemaker.”
*Here we see ...
Proverbs 31:28-29
28 Her children rise up and
call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he
praises her:
29 “Many daughters h...
He isn’t some recreational
beast coming home late to
Hotel Hilton, snapping
his fingers for room
service.
His life is given to God,
his wife, his family and
his home.
A husband and father is
as much a part of the
homemaking as t...
Parents are two oars on
the same boat.
Parents are a team to raise
godly children.
Proverbs 31:28
“The children rise up and
bless Mom.”
Where do you think the
children are when they
arise and call her bles...
Most kids are at home
when they rise up.
Here is a glimpse of the
Proverbs 31 man at
home.
He is at home with his
kids.
The kids don’t wake up
wondering where dad is
because the kids have a
dad and know their dad.
A dad in the home is
becomin...
This isn’t mother’s live-in
boyfriend.
The kids don’t wake up to
find another note from
dad away on the golf
course again.
Mom isn’t some single
parent with a deadbeat,
runaway creep for a father
and a husband.
This is dad at home, he
isn’t the ...
*Kids will be happiest in a
truly Christian home.
*These are happy people
with a solid and
substantial home life
centered ...
This is a warm and happy
house, which tells us that
a truly Biblical home
should be a refuge.
Home should be a safe
place.
The love of the Lord is in
this home and where the
love of the Lord is, that
home is blessed, happy,
stable and peaceful.
*God’s plan for people is a
safe and happy home.
*God’s will for children is
peace and harmony.
How much pain could be
eliminated in the home
and the world if families
modeled their lives after
God’s values instead of
...
God only wants what is
best for people.
We also find that our
Proverbs 31 man is not a
hypocrite.
He is not leading a
“decent” public life in
front of people and a
dark, secret, private life of
sin and pain at home.
He’s not singing in the
choir on Sunday, then
going home and abusing
his wife and kids.
We see him at home with
the wife a...
We look through his
window into the living
room.
Home is a good place and
his kids are not cowering
in fear.
They are not cringing in a
corner in fear of dad.
He is not an angry
volcano waiting to erupt,
a renegade, rabble-
rousing...
The kids speak blessing.
They express themselves
and out of the abundance
of their little hearts, their
mouths overflow wi...
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Today many parents don’...
This tells us something
about the Proverbs 31
dad.
He is at home with his
lovely wife and their
children.
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They are speaking to one
another expressing
...
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Does it shock you how
ugly and disrespectful so
many children...
*Our culture has our kids
so confused they can’t
even put their caps on
straight.
*Where did the kids in
Proverbs 31 learn...
*Who was the model for
this remarkable behavior?
*Did they learn to bless on
their own?
*Every parent is a teacher.
*Every...
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Most of the great lessons
of life are...
Well-mannered children
do not happen by
accident, but through a
never-ending labor of love
and discipline.
The Proverbs 31 man is a
great role model at home
for his kids.
We need more role
models and fewer parole
models.
Guys, if you want a
Proverbs 31 wife, be a
Proverbs 31 husband.
If you want a Proverbs 31
daughter, be a Proverbs 31
fathe...
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  1. 1. THE PROVERBS 31 MAN MAY 11, 2014 FIRST BAPTIST CHURCH JACKSON, MISSISSIPPI USA
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  3. 3. Proverbs 1:8-9 NKJV 8 My son, hear the instruction of your father, And do not forsake the law of your mother;
  4. 4. 9 For they will be a graceful ornament on your head, And chains about your neck. Proverbs 1:8-9 NKJV
  5. 5. http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-nVPI53sggWg/UqVA-6wjOoI/AAAAAAABYx8/DjTlk7FCowU/s1600/prob3.jpg
  6. 6. MAY MEMORY VERSE: Micah 6:8 NKJV 8 He has shown you, O man, what is good; And what does the LORD require of you, But to do justly, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God.
  7. 7. What’s the number one thing?
  8. 8. http://kingschapel.net/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/gloryHD-608x342.jpg
  9. 9. 1 Corinthians 10:31 NKJV 31 Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.
  10. 10. THE PROVERBS 31 MAN Kurtis Dahlin March 21, 2002 ©Kurtis Dahlin 2002
  11. 11. http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-np78DVlRptc/Toz2b-ybcFI/AAAAAAAAAJ0/uAaCu04tMMU/s1600/the_ideal_man_1367385.jpg
  12. 12. Guys, if you want a Proverbs 31 wife, be a Proverbs 31 husband. If you want a Proverbs 31 daughter, be a Proverbs 31 father.
  13. 13. https://thebeausejourpulpit.files.wordpress.com/2012/03/proverbs-31.jpg Proverbs 31:10-31 NKJV 10 Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.
  14. 14. 11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain. 12 She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.
  15. 15. 13 She seeks wool and flax, And willingly works with her hands. 14 She is like the merchant ships, She brings her food from afar.
  16. 16. 15 She also rises while it is yet night, And provides food for her household, And a portion for her maidservants.
  17. 17. 16 She considers a field and buys it; From her profits she plants a vineyard. 17 She girds herself with strength, And strengthens her arms.
  18. 18. http://images.sharefaith.com/images/3/1207580773066_112/img_large_watermarked.jpg 18 She perceives that her merchandise is good, And her lamp does not go out by night.
  19. 19. http://thehelpmeetscorner.files.wordpress.com/2012/08/distaff31.jpg 19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff, And her hand holds the spindle.
  20. 20. http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-FhIyKquvVJQ/TwuuoMAdR9I/AAAAAAAAACU/XYmLlb0cxq0/s1600/1276106298O90E83.jpg 20 She extends her hand to the poor, Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.
  21. 21. http://reflectionsintheword.files.wordpress.com/2010/10/red-yarn-1.jpg 21 She is not afraid of snow for her household, For all her household is clothed with scarlet.
  22. 22. http://www.southwicklinens.com/assets/galleries/23/purple_solid.jpg 22 She makes tapestry for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple.
  23. 23. http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/517aP2sB4EL._SY344_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg 23 Her husband is known in the gates, When he sits among the elders of the land.
  24. 24. http://suescustomsewing.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/sewing-lady.jpg 24 She makes linen garments and sells them, And supplies sashes for the merchants.
  25. 25. http://www.goodmorninggirls.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/07/Proverbs-3125.jpg 25 Strength and honor are her clothing; She shall rejoice in time to come.
  26. 26. http://thetruthofsmallsteps.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/big-Wisdom.jpg 26 She opens her mouth with wisdom, And on her tongue is the law of kindness.
  27. 27. http://media-cache-ec0.pinimg.com/736x/2f/12/fc/2f12fce7332e77a1d4cffca2cf058474.jpg 27 She watches over the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness.
  28. 28. http://www.ciibroadcasting.com/wp-content/uploads/Virtuous_woman.jpg 28 Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her:
  29. 29. http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-1_8nM0bMu7w/TdFASopF0cI/AAAAAAAAAhs/YPiYhEh97hU/s320/excellent.gif 29 “Many daughters have done well, But you excel them all.”
  30. 30. http://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Inspirational-Images/large/Proverbs_31-30.jpg 30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
  31. 31. 31 Give her of the fruit of her hands, And let her own works praise her in the gates. Proverbs 31:10-31 NKJV
  32. 32. http://www.bbt-translations.com/images/hebrew_alphabet.gif Each of these 22 verses begins with a letter of the Hebrew alphabet in proper sequence.
  33. 33. This chapter describes the numerous skills, exceptional talents, and the virtuous character of the perfect mother and wife who faithfully trusts the LORD.
  34. 34. However, it is obvious that this book is not just for my wife and daughters − it s for me – their husband and father− telling me how to act as a man!
  35. 35. The godly requirements of a man appear behind the scenes in Proverbs 31 and serve as a vision of an incredible role model for men today.
  36. 36. http://teachtheyoungerwomen.files.wordpress.com/2014/03/10754rubies.jpg?w=470&h=274 The Hebrew word for ruby, paniyn (pawNEEN) is used to describe the value of wisdom.
  37. 37. Proverbs 3:15a KJV 15a She (wisdom) is more precious than rubies: Proverbs 8:11a KJV 11a For wisdom is better than rubies;
  38. 38. Job 28:18b KJV 18b the price of wisdom is above rubies. Men should view ladies as the precious, crowning jewel of God's creation.
  39. 39. http://preciousgemswholesale.com/Rubies6.89ct%20AAA%20Red%20Ruby.jpg Proverbs 31:10 is saying that we men should value our wives in the same fashion: 10 Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.
  40. 40. We should thank God every night when we go to bed and every morning before we get up for the precious jewel He has placed next to us.
  41. 41. We are told in Scripture: cherish her, nourish her, love her, even as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it.
  42. 42. http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-T4KAN-WXPhE/TrmhbgvBdVI/AAAAAAAAATw/qp4bzlvvtBs/s1600/strongandcapable.jpg Thank God for your godly mother, virtuous wife and amazing daughters.
  43. 43. http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-AdnLht0r5CY/TcR5Vn_w0GI/AAAAAAAAAio/vobdtEWTUnA/s320/happy-mothers-day-2009.jpg
  44. 44. The Pathological Problem of Men Of the thirty-one chapters in the book of Proverbs, thirty chapters are primarily addressed to men.
  45. 45. *Broken down even further, there are 22 verses for women and 893 verses for men. *What does that tell you? *Why do men need 98% of this book of wisdom?
  46. 46. 92% of the inmates in state and federal prisons are men and 81% are unmarried men − in various stages of singleness, i.e. without family.
  47. 47. *The facts are clear − men are the leading cause of crime. *Men gone wrong are the curse of the nation and the majority of criminal men are unmarried.
  48. 48. *How many mass murderers were women? *How many female pirates can you name? *The history of men without women is not good, it’s not pretty.
  49. 49. Take Adam for instance: · Genesis 1:3,4 states that God made light. The light was good. · v 7-10 God made the sky, the water and land. And God saw that it was good.
  50. 50. · v 11-12 God made plants and trees. And God saw that it was good. · v 14-18 God made the sun and moon. And God saw that it was good.
  51. 51. · v 20 states that God made living creatures for the seas and birds. And God saw that it was good. · v 24 God made land animals. And God saw that it was good.
  52. 52. http://avirtuouswoman.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/helpmeet.jpg · v 31 God saw all that He had made, and it was very good. · But in Genesis 2 -
  53. 53. Genesis 2:20-24 NKJV 20 So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him.
  54. 54. 21 And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. (You’re the only one for me)
  55. 55. http://ts2.mm.bing.net/th?id=HN.608038863834185912&w=260&h=175&c=7&rs=1&pid=1.7 22 Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.
  56. 56. 23 And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; (WOW!) She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.”
  57. 57. 24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:20-24 NKJV
  58. 58. *Men need the transforming power of a mother, a good wife, and a sister. *In this case, Adam needed a wife to help him rule the earth.
  59. 59. http://demotivation.us/media/demotivators/demotivation.us_BEHIND-EVERY-SUCCESSFUL-MAN-stands-a-proud-wife-and-a- surprised-mother-in-law_136993948511.jpg Men need good wives.
  60. 60. Men gone astray from God are the greatest social problem that faces America and the greatest drain on our national resources.
  61. 61. Men who turn to God are our greatest hope. God’s plan to help Adam included a helper - his wife.
  62. 62. http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-VHnw98OdbJQ/T0vvODbB-6I/AAAAAAAADMA/A8YQWyO8TK4/s1600/Rubies.tif The Proverbs 31 woman is the ideal wife and is as rare and as precious as rubies.
  63. 63. http://boldandfab.files.wordpress.com/2014/04/mother.jpg Proverbs 31:29 states that there are "many women who have done excellently."
  64. 64. When a woman rises to excellence, her husband is usually a man of excellence. Behind every good woman is a good man.
  65. 65. http://scriptureembroidery.com/images/Large/Patches/patch__011_ExcellentWifeCrown.jpg Many women are excellent wives because many men are excellent husbands.
  66. 66. The wife described in Proverbs 31 would have a difficult time becoming a woman of such surpassing excellence unless her husband was the man portrayed in the previous 30 chapters of Proverbs.
  67. 67. http://b.vimeocdn.com/ts/205/914/205914652_640.jpg
  68. 68. http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/60/c6/9a/60c69a3f646e4dbe04765413d98ebafa.jpg Who is this Proverbs 31 man?
  69. 69. Proverbs 31:11 reads "Her husband has full confidence in her...." *Who is this husband and what can we learn from him? (Is there a perfect man among us?)
  70. 70. http://funandfaith.ca/wp-content/uploads/2013/07/The-Proverbs-31-Dad.png Proverbs 31:28 states, “Her children rise up….” - We discover that our man is a father. He has children.
  71. 71. http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_Y4jD7gGav_o/SbBc7BMnH2I/AAAAAAAACKA/f-OOHUUaqhI/s400/Proverbs+31-23.2.jpg Proverbs 31:23 reads “He sits among the elders of the land.” – He is a respected community leader.
  72. 72. As we survey Proverbs 31, we learn that our man is a husband (v. 11), he is a father (v. 28), and he is an elder (v. 23).
  73. 73. http://www.wholesaleautoplates.com/catalog/LPO1243.jpg These are the three key areas in which we will examine our man of excellence.
  74. 74. Proverbs 31:11 NKJV 11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain.
  75. 75. He is not a roommate or a drop-in boyfriend. He is not one of a long string of guys. He is her husband.
  76. 76. http://lifepartnerschristianministries.files.wordpress.com/2011/01/proverbs18_22.jpg
  77. 77. *Martin Luther called marriage: “The school of character.” *According to George Barna, the USA has the highest divorce rate in the world.
  78. 78. The reason we are viewing our Proverbs 31 man as looking at ourselves in a mirror is to see areas in our lives that need improvement.
  79. 79. What Kind of Husband Is the Proverbs 31 man? Proverbs 31:11 states that her husband safely trusts her, she has his full confidence.
  80. 80. http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/44/21/ee/4421ee49d6b1e4744b9c56a47462ae3d.jpg His trust allows her to fully express her capabilities and skills to the maximum level.
  81. 81. http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-u5cKA8WdGdg/UibiG5ss9HI/AAAAAAAAJXA/OSdxW-DebCk/s1600/heart.jpg His confidence empowers her to make important day-to-day decisions, even to purchase property.
  82. 82. Notice, she has full reign of the house. She is not lonely, bored, caged up, barefoot nor fearful.
  83. 83. http://www.leadershipwithsass.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/ConfidenceResize.jpg She accomplishes much in this environment of mutual trust and confidence.
  84. 84. He trusts her to make the best use of her opportunities. She is completely free and active, working in harmony with the vision and values of their home.
  85. 85. http://draletta.typepad.com/.a/6a00d83527e90e69e20120a72ab12c970b-500pi This is a functional home. Women don't work this hard for a creep.
  86. 86. The Proverbs 31 woman works with willing hands. She couldn't and wouldn’t thrive in an environment of physical and verbal abuse.
  87. 87. *The Proverbs 31 man does not stifle his wife. *Physical, mental and verbal abuse do not produce trust and confidence and willingness.
  88. 88. http://i1162.photobucket.com/albums/q533/schurman27/Peaceful_Home.jpg Her eager productivity tells us that this home is righteous, just & peaceful.
  89. 89. The fact that she lives in an environment of confidence and trust gives her the full opportunity to utilize her talents and capabilities. That is respect.
  90. 90. He trusts her with all of his heart. Do you think the Proverbs 31 man is a likable kind of person?
  91. 91. Does it sound like they are working together? Do you suppose they agree on the direction their family and lives are heading?
  92. 92. They are not two people living together with two different agendas: with him doing one thing and her doing something else.
  93. 93. *She has full confidence in him and he has full confidence in her. *She is worthy of his respect and honor. *He is worthy of her respect and honor.
  94. 94. *These two are equally yoked. *One of the major causes of divorce is disagreement over core values. *Yet, these are not two confused people.
  95. 95. *They are not two people at war with each other. *They are not two people in the rowboat fighting over the oars. *They are not two people in two different rowboats.
  96. 96. http://d202m5krfqbpi5.cloudfront.net/books/1386925713l/54938.jpg These are two people committed to God's way, each pulling their own oar in harmony, in the same direction.
  97. 97. http://www.questforlifecoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/Shared-vision-2.jpg They have shared values and vision.
  98. 98. Divorce is not an option and it doesn't need to be. There are no problem marriages. There are only problems with married people.
  99. 99. Have you ever heard of anyone who got a divorce because they were too kind to each other?
  100. 100. A Gallup poll found three of four women agreeing that if they could turn back the calendar they would not pick the same husband.
  101. 101. What does this passage say about our Proverbs 31 husband? She feels happy to be married to such a wonderful man.
  102. 102. She would marry him again. Would you want to be married to you?
  103. 103. The Proverbs 31 woman was able to be so open and giving and to achieve so much because of the noble character of her husband.
  104. 104. http://lahmeet.files.wordpress.com/2013/04/provs-31-man.jpg If you want a Proverbs 31 wife, be a Proverbs 31 husband!
  105. 105. *We know that he who loves his wife, loves himself. *Men, we would all do ourselves a favor by becoming this kind of man.
  106. 106. The Proverbs 31 man is a loving husband.
  107. 107. The Proverbs 31 Man as Father Next, we discover that our Proverbs 31 man is also a father. In verses 15, 21, 27 and 28, we find that he has a family and children.
  108. 108. http://rebeccamoloto2012.files.wordpress.com/2012/08/man-3-kids-263x300.jpg They are his kids as well as hers so he is bearing full responsibility for them.
  109. 109. There are at least seven typical responsibilities of a Biblical father: · To provide adequately for his family. · To assume spiritual leadership of the family.
  110. 110. · To diligently teach and train his children Biblical values. · To properly discipline with purpose and love. No discipline, no peace.
  111. 111. · To defend and protect the family. · To prepare children for productive work. · To participate in the selection of a spouse.
  112. 112. http://fathersdaygifts.org/wp-content/uploads/christian-fathers-day-gifts.jpg The father is expected to be the primary teacher of Biblical values to his kids.
  113. 113. http://jbournesblog.files.wordpress.com/2011/08/man-praying.jpg The Proverbs 31 Dad fully embraced this Biblical job description.
  114. 114. He had a well functioning home. His family and household were fed, clothed and well cared for.
  115. 115. He was not squandering his income on gambling, get-rich-quick schemes, drugs, pornography, prostitution, laziness and drunkenness.
  116. 116. She can buy and travel for groceries because he provided financial stability. http://seeds2sow.files.wordpress.com/2010/08/financial-peace.jpg
  117. 117. His wife is not home wringing her hands, worrying that her husband will spend the family income on drugs, gambling, prostitution or costly recreational toys.
  118. 118. The fact that she can work with eager hands, buy a field, plant a vineyard, and bring her food from far distances speaks of a stable home life.
  119. 119. The Proverbs 31 father works hard to provide this stable home life but he is not materialistic. He does not work for money, he works for God.
  120. 120. The world’s way: Get all you can, can all you get, sit on the lid and spoil the rest.
  121. 121. http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-_gc_9yhydYY/Tjlc5A2gDsI/AAAAAAAAGmA/BgbzvI7qYVk/s1600/god-so-loved-the-world.jpg God’s way: You get by giving! God gave one Son and got millions in return!
  122. 122. The Proverbs 31 Man Is Generous Proverbs 31:20 NIV 20 She opens her hand to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.
  123. 123. *What do we learn about our man from the fact that his amazing wife is so charitable? *Do you think she is sneaking household money to the poor?
  124. 124. There are many women who would like to tithe and cheerfully give offerings but their husbands won't allow it.
  125. 125. They refuse to permit their wives to contribute to the needs of the church and to help ministries that help other people.
  126. 126. If this woman could give to the poor, her husband encouraged it and modeled that compassion and generosity in his own life as a wise man.
  127. 127. http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-xWLA49JT6_A/T2JrEWUDUwI/AAAAAAAAA1A/P-bw9dDEeEk/s1600/generous%2Blogo.jpg He does not work to get, he works to give.
  128. 128. The Proverbs 31 man inspires her to give to the poor. Her charity is an extension of his generosity.
  129. 129. Here is a generous man who understands the power and blessing of helping others (Proverbs19:17; 22:9).
  130. 130. Proverbs 19:17 NKJV 17 He who has pity on the poor lends to the LORD, And He will pay back what he has given.
  131. 131. Our man is not a miserly old scrooge. He is not a greedy man. “A greedy man makes trouble for his own house” (Proverbs15:27).
  132. 132. We don't sense any trouble in this house. Proverbs 11:29 states, “He who brings trouble on his family will only inherit the wind.”
  133. 133. The Proverbs 31 man is not a troublemaker. He is an honest man who uses his income to improve the quality of life for the poor.
  134. 134. We don't sense the squandering of family finances on wickedness, foolishness and status seeking.
  135. 135. Instead, her charity is an extension of his philanthropy. The Proverbs 31 man is generous.
  136. 136. The Proverbs 31 Woman Can Laugh Proverbs 31:25 25 Strength and honor are her clothing; She shall rejoice in time to come (“she can laugh at the days to come”).
  137. 137. *The Proverbs 31 woman can laugh. *This woman can face the future with confidence. *What does this tell us about our Proverbs 31 man?
  138. 138. Would she be so bold about her future if her husband were an alcoholic, wasting the family money on drugs, foolishness, gambling, and pornography?
  139. 139. *Could she laugh at the future if her husband was cruel or mean to the kids? *Could she laugh if her husband was selfish, out of control, violent, and verbally abusive?
  140. 140. http://withfriendship.com/images/i/42147/Chelsea-Noble-pic.jpg She can only laugh at the future because of the noble character of her husband.
  141. 141. She can laugh because her Proverbs 31 man is: 1) stable and 2) committed to God, 3) morally faithful and 4) hardworking.
  142. 142. *Our man has not caused his wife sorrow and grief. *She is not worried sick wondering what hubby will do next. -Where he is now? -Will he come home? -What he will do with the family income?
  143. 143. *It would be impossible for an abused and unloved woman to laugh about anything. *A husband who can give his wife such confidence in the face of life's trials and difficulties is truly a remarkable man.
  144. 144. *How many wives can laugh at the future? *How many wives can laugh about anything? *How many women have enough confidence in their husbands to laugh at the future?
  145. 145. The Proverbs 31 woman can laugh.
  146. 146. Today, the question in most American homes is, “Where is dad, the invisible man?” Where is our Proverbs 31 man?
  147. 147. *In Proverbs 31:28-29 we find the Proverbs 31 dad at home. *We usually think of the wife as “the homemaker.” *Here we see that our man is also a homemaker.
  148. 148. Proverbs 31:28-29 28 Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her: 29 “Many daughters have done well, But you excel them all.”
  149. 149. He isn’t some recreational beast coming home late to Hotel Hilton, snapping his fingers for room service.
  150. 150. His life is given to God, his wife, his family and his home. A husband and father is as much a part of the homemaking as the wife.
  151. 151. Parents are two oars on the same boat. Parents are a team to raise godly children.
  152. 152. Proverbs 31:28 “The children rise up and bless Mom.” Where do you think the children are when they arise and call her blessed?
  153. 153. Most kids are at home when they rise up. Here is a glimpse of the Proverbs 31 man at home. He is at home with his kids.
  154. 154. The kids don’t wake up wondering where dad is because the kids have a dad and know their dad. A dad in the home is becoming a novelty.
  155. 155. This isn’t mother’s live-in boyfriend. The kids don’t wake up to find another note from dad away on the golf course again.
  156. 156. Mom isn’t some single parent with a deadbeat, runaway creep for a father and a husband. This is dad at home, he isn’t the absentee father.
  157. 157. *Kids will be happiest in a truly Christian home. *These are happy people with a solid and substantial home life centered on Biblical values.
  158. 158. This is a warm and happy house, which tells us that a truly Biblical home should be a refuge. Home should be a safe place.
  159. 159. The love of the Lord is in this home and where the love of the Lord is, that home is blessed, happy, stable and peaceful.
  160. 160. *God’s plan for people is a safe and happy home. *God’s will for children is peace and harmony.
  161. 161. How much pain could be eliminated in the home and the world if families modeled their lives after God’s values instead of the false values of our culture.
  162. 162. God only wants what is best for people. We also find that our Proverbs 31 man is not a hypocrite.
  163. 163. He is not leading a “decent” public life in front of people and a dark, secret, private life of sin and pain at home.
  164. 164. He’s not singing in the choir on Sunday, then going home and abusing his wife and kids. We see him at home with the wife and kids.
  165. 165. We look through his window into the living room. Home is a good place and his kids are not cowering in fear.
  166. 166. They are not cringing in a corner in fear of dad. He is not an angry volcano waiting to erupt, a renegade, rabble- rousing, selfish, violent monster.
  167. 167. The kids speak blessing. They express themselves and out of the abundance of their little hearts, their mouths overflow with admiration for mom.
  168. 168. http://mentalfloss.com/sites/default/files/styles/article_640x430/public/where-your-children_5.jpg Today many parents don’t even know where their kids are, let alone what they are doing.
  169. 169. This tells us something about the Proverbs 31 dad. He is at home with his lovely wife and their children.
  170. 170. http://thyblackman.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/blackfamilyreadingbible.jpg They are speaking to one another expressing warmth, encouragement and hospitality.
  171. 171. http://parentingguidecomplete.com/i/disrespectful-child1.jpg Does it shock you how ugly and disrespectful so many children today speak to their parents?
  172. 172. *Our culture has our kids so confused they can’t even put their caps on straight. *Where did the kids in Proverbs 31 learn to bless their Mom?
  173. 173. *Who was the model for this remarkable behavior? *Did they learn to bless on their own? *Every parent is a teacher. *Every home is a school.
  174. 174. http://media-cache-cd0.pinimg.com/736x/e5/74/ef/e574ef8e1846893a520c65ed55cf48d0.jpg Most of the great lessons of life are learned by example.
  175. 175. Well-mannered children do not happen by accident, but through a never-ending labor of love and discipline.
  176. 176. The Proverbs 31 man is a great role model at home for his kids. We need more role models and fewer parole models.
  177. 177. Guys, if you want a Proverbs 31 wife, be a Proverbs 31 husband. If you want a Proverbs 31 daughter, be a Proverbs 31 father.
  178. 178. http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_maymgeWADG1qa3dv4.jpg

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