LeadershipTrainingModule 4The Proactive Focus / Leading the Way
Your life doesnt just "happen." Whether you knowit or not, it is carefully designed by you. Thechoices, after all, are yours. You choose happiness.You choose sadness. You choose decisiveness. Youchoose ambivalence. You choose success. Youchoose failure. You choose courage. You choosefear. Just remember that every moment, everysituation, provides a new choice. And in doing so,it gives you a perfect opportunity to do thingsdifferently to produce more positive results.Your choice…
• Somebody says negative things about you• Someone tries to compete with you• You are being scolded because you are late• One of your group members has been consistently late• You were kicked out of the production / project• Jeepney driver na ang tagal lumargaApplication
Absolutely everything wegive, say, or even think islike a boomerang. It willcome back to us.Remember!
Kapag ang desisyonaynaimpluwensyahanng mga pwersangpanlabas, ikaw ayREACTIVE.Kapag ang desisyonmo ay malaya atbase sa iyongvalues, ikaw ayPROCATIVE.Reactive VS Proactive?
Being Proactive is about takingresponsibility for your life. You cant keepblaming everything on your parents orgrandparents. Proactive people recognizethat they are "response-able." They dontblame genetics, circumstances, conditions,or conditioning for their behavior. Theyknow they choose their behavior.Be Proactive
• I can• I will• I want to• Next time• Let me handle it• Let me helpUsual Expressions
Reactive people, on the other hand, are oftenaffected by their physical environment. They findexternal sources to blame for their behavior. If theweather is good, they feel good. If it isnt, it affectstheir attitude and performance, and they blame theweather. All of these external forces act as stimulithat we respond to. Between the stimulus and theresponse is your greatest power--you have thefreedom to choose your response. One of the mostimportant things you choose is what you say. Yourlanguage is a good indicator of how you seeyourself.Reactive
• I can’t• I’ll try• I have to• I could have• It’s not my fault• It’s not my jobUsual Expressions
Followers follow if their leaders areviewed to be capable of satisfyingtheir needs.Followers expect their needs to besatisfied.Why do followers follow?
The ability of gettingpeople to follow you anddo willingly the thingsthat you want them to do.Leadership is…
• Ability to sell ideas and win support• Ability to exert power over others• Art of creating among others willingness to cooperate through interpersonal skillsPersonal skills required:
• Envision an exciting future• Enlist others in a common vision• Appeal to their values, interests, hopes and dreamsEncouragingFollowership
• Set the example for others• Be consistent with CAST values• Achieve small wins that promote consistent progressEncouragingFollowership
• Recognize contribution• Celebrate accomplishment• Be generous with praise but be sincere• Maintain or enhance self-esteemEncouragingFollowership
Knowledge Responsibility PersonalityTechnical Authority Interpersonalknow-how, vested upon the skills,expertise, position by the personality,experience organization communication skillsThree Domains ofLeadership
Assess yourself.Make your ownKRP chartExercise
• Can be simple• Body language• Silence is a form of communication• Know the person you are talking to• People tend to believe those whom they trust• Timing is essential• Feedback is vitalPoints to remember
• Filtering• Selective perception• Defensiveness• LanguageBarriers to effectivecommunication
Gumawa ng 10 alituntuninkung paano masmapapahusay angkomikasyon sa grupo.Exercise
• Huwag pangunahan ang kausap.• Huwag puputulin ang sinasabi ng kausap.• Intindihin ang nararamdaman at banggitin ito• Huwag mag-react kaagad.• Ulitin ang detalye ng sinabi ng kausap.• Sabihin muli ng buod (summarize)Paano mapapahusay angKomunikasyon?
Effective Listening Active ListeningListening to the words and Listener takestheir meaning. responsibility to understand the content and feeling of what is being said and then checks if he/she heard correctly.What is listening?
Intentional Unintentional• Physical environment • Fatigue• Poor message • Stress• Source • Lack of time• Tuning-out• Letting emotions take over• Criticizing• Preparing to argue• Allowing distractionsReasons for poorlistening:
Positive NegativeReflecting Not ignoringEncouraging Not discouragingChecking for Understanding Not assuming• Summarizing• Clarifying• ValidatingValidating Not ignoringMethods of ActiveListening
• Talking too much or talking too little• Tactless & Offensive• Divulging confidential information• Talking about matters that are not yet final• Inconsistencies among leaders’ statementsDangers incommunicating withmembers
• Matters members are interested in• Level of detail they need to know• Matters that are not classified• Matter that is official and final.What to communicate tomembers?
• Feeling good about oneself = feeling good about the world• What & Why statements are sincere and specific• No reason to enhance esteem? Just maintain it.• Develop your style• Make it your second nature.Managing Self-Esteem
Effective Positive Ineffective PositiveFeedback FeedbackVery good! Marami ang Ok ang ginawa niyo. Keepnakiisa sa project natin. it up.Dati mga 50% lang angparticipation, ngayon 90%na. Dahil yan saimprovement ng team mo.Salamat sa tulong andkeep up the good work!Examples
INNOCENT PASAWAYIgnorant of rules. Commits Commits deviations of rules andUnintentional mistakes. standards intentionally just for the heck of it.AVENGER DISTURBEDBelieves he/she is being treated Seldom commits mistakes that areunfairly. Trying to get even. unintentional. Usually due to emotional stress.Common Problems ofMembers
Coach and remind. Avoid Coach and warn. Preparedestroying his/ her for possible assessmentmotivation. session. Keep records and build the case.Coach and warn. Find out Coach and Remind. Listenwhat’s his/her sentiments. actively. Show sincerity andResolve ASAP. concern.How to deal with them?
1. Prepare an agenda2. Arrange the venue3. Decide on the schedule4. Send announcement5. Get information on attendance6. Assign recorder and timekeeper7. Assign topics8. Prepare logisticsManaging Meetings
1. Start on time 7. Introduce 13. Determine2. Assign a recorder participants and resources / budget3. Assign a time explain their roles needed keeper 8. Tackle each item in 14. Agree on timetable4. Review previous the agenda 15. Review agreement meeting 9. Resolve or park & get commitment5. Announce an issues when needed 16. Agree on the next agenda 10. Identify action meeting schedule6. Explain meeting problems 17. End on time rules and get 11. Manage difficult commitment to personalities follow 12. Assign responsibilitiesMaking Meetings Work
1. Review minutes of the last meeting2. Send copy of the minutes of attendees3. Follow-up on assigned tasks4. Put copy of minutes to your archive for future referenceAfter the Meeting