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Things we fight about


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Things we fight about

  1. 1. James 4:1-2What is causing the quarrels and fightsamong you? Don’t they come from the evildesires at war within you? 2You want whatyou don’t have, so you scheme and kill toget it. You are jealous of what others have,but you can’t get it, so you fight and wagewar to take it away from them.
  2. 2. Reason 1We forget about amess called US.
  3. 3. James 4:1-2What is causing the quarrels andfights among you? Don’t theycome from the evil desires at warwithin you?
  4. 4. Conflict isinevitable.
  5. 5. Your brotherand sister arenot yourenemy!
  6. 6. Things we fight about…1. Worship wars.2. Prolonged minutia meetings.3. Facility focus.4. Inwardly focused budget.5. Greater concern about change than thegospel.6. Inordinate demands for pastoral care.7. Program driven.8. Anger and hostility.9. Evangelistic apathy.Thom Rainer: I Am a Church Member (p. 38).
  7. 7. Five reactions to conflict1.Silence.2.Direct agression.3.Indirect agression.4.Escape.5.Assertive.
  8. 8. Reason 2We forget its notabout US.
  9. 9. James 4:2You want what you don’t have, so youscheme and kill to get it. You are jealousof what others have, but you can’t get it,so you fight and wage war to take it awayfrom them.
  10. 10. Key Questions1.Who is thechurch for?2.Who does thechurch belong to?
  11. 11. Only 15% of kids bornafter 1980 areChristians.(Thom Rainier)
  12. 12. Reason 3We forget tofight fair.
  13. 13. The objective is not to stopfighting, but to fight fair whenwe do fight.
  14. 14. Three tips for conflict resolution:1.Ask, dont interpret, assumeor take for granted.2. Pray before. (We end fightslike we start them.)3. Concentrate. Stick to the realproblem and stick to oneproblem at a time.
  15. 15. Proverbs 18:19 (NLT)An offended friend isharder to win back than afortified city. Argumentsseparate friends like a gatelocked with bars.
  16. 16. John 8:36So if the Son setsyou free, you aretruly free.