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Avoiding the Slippery Slope- Power Point


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Avoiding the Slippery Slope- Power Point

  1. 1. Avoiding t he Slipper y Slope
  2. 2. “Love is cursed by monogamy…”Kanye West, No church in the wild
  3. 3. “I enjoy sex as much as Joe Namath, only I do it with onegirl.” Roger Staubach(best quarterback ever. Period)
  4. 4. Secr etMonst er s
  5. 5. Six Fact or s
  6. 6. 1. Selfish. “I did not think about consequences” is a commonresponse of unfaithful leaders.
  7. 7. 2. Fantasies. While not every fantasyresults in infidelity, you would be hard pressed to find infidelity that was not preceded by fantasy.
  8. 8. 3. Bored/lack of clear purpose.Many leaders deal with the following reality: Periods of high stress and busyness, followed by periods ofdoing NOTHING. It’s no surprise toknow that the day that people watch more porn is on Sunday.
  9. 9. 4. Risk taking. A CEO, an owner of a company, a teacher, a clergy person, are usually good at what they do. That elicitsadmiration from followers, employees, members, that admire the “persona,” but not the person.
  10. 10. 5. Social media.Infidelity used to be a male problem, more than awoman’s. That is changing.
  11. 11. 6. Pride and low self-esteem. The combination is explosive. Many leaders have unresolvedissues from the past that affect the way they see themselves, almost craving affection and attention.
  12. 12. “Sex education may be a good idea in the schools, but I dont believe the kids should be given homework” Bill Cosby
  13. 13. Thr eeDanger ousSt r at egies
  14. 14. 1. Alienation/Secrecy
  15. 15. a. We want to continue doing what we are doing.b. We think by hiding it from people we are hiding it from God.
  16. 16. c. Keeping it a secret leads to dualism, and that sometimes ispreferred to dealing with the truth. d. We worry about what peoplewill say about us if they found out.
  17. 17. 2. Compartmentalization
  18. 18. a. We have been deceived intothinking that there are "secular" and "spiritual" areas.b. We believe that what we do in one area does not affect other areas of our lives. c. We fail to consider the consequences.
  19. 19. 3. Rationalization
  20. 20. a. I deserve this.b. Im not getting at home what I should. c. Im always taking care ofothers. Now it’s time to take care of me. d. I married the wrong person.
  21. 21. Five Act ion St eps
  22. 22. 1. Recognize personal frailty and family history.
  23. 23. 2. List consequencesas visible reminders.
  24. 24. 3. Tell somebody. On a consistent basis.
  25. 25. Accountability partner a. Same sex b. Discreet c. Mature spiritually d. Available
  26. 26. 4. Be aware of trapsright after mountain top experiences.
  27. 27. 5. Focus on your marriage first.