Intimacy is seeing into each other's life. It's knowing each other's strengths and weaknesses. It's being aware of each others fears, hopes, and dreams."
) The concept of marital intimacy is derived from the Biblical principle of “oneness”
A growing and intimate marriage is evidence in three components:Personal sharingIt is constant communication to our partner. Conversations that is Honest, true and other-centeredSummary:Conversing with our spouse is the most basic step that enables us to know how he or she thinks about or perceives different issues. We are beginning to know how our spouse is motivated. We gain insight into his or her struggles and temptations. As we gain more knowledge about them, then we can better serve and care for them, and gain support from them. Personal sharing leads us to mutual understanding.Mutual Understanding – It is knowing, accepting and trusting our partner in a deeper level. There is an interdependence in relationship and itt sees relationship as one.Deepening commitment –This deeper commitment is in essence love. Love is the expression of unconditional, genuine concern for the other. Love is not merely a theory but is practical, kind and forgiving. Love is the underlying devotion toward each other that generates a host of kind words, generous actions and special favors. Caring – It is showing our affections and concern that is specially for our partner.
Intimacy in marriage
INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE
TRUTHS ABOUT MARRIAGEMarriage is not a man-made arrangement. It is God‟s design.(Gen. 1:26-2:25)
TRUTHS ABOUT MARRIAGE Crisis in Marriage is anopportunity to depend on Christ and allow us to grow as his children.
“The secret to making amarriage work is TO WORK ATYOUR MARRIAGE. Marriage ishard work and too many peopleare not willing to put in thetime and effort.”
I. DEFINITIONFrom the DictionaryA close, familiar and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person
From the Bible- (Gen 1:26-2:25)Biblical principle of „oneness‟“…and the two shall become one” (Gen.2:24)
Hebrew term for intimacy is Yahdah which describes sexual relationship.It has different uses such as:to know, learn toknow, perceive, discriminate, know byexperience, recognize, admit, consider andsexual union.
ANSWER BRIEFLY How do male(if you‟re male) female (if you are female) describe intimacy, what must be there for you to be called intimate with your partner ? What are the benefits of having intimacy in marriage?
COMPONENTS OF GROWING AND INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPPersonal sharingMutual UnderstandingDeepening commitmentCaring
II. WHAT IS THE ROLE OF INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE?Let‟s discuss it among ourselvesIt develops one another in loveIt bonds relationshipIt gives satisfaction to the relationshipIt deepens relationship
III. WHAT THE BIBLE SPEAKS ABOUT MARRIAGE INTIMACYThe Book of Song of songs pictures the intimate relationship between lovers.“My beloved is mine, and I am his. ..”Song of Songs 2:16
THE CONTEXT OF SONG OF SONGSThe book can be divided into three:the courtship (1:1 - 3:5); the wedding (3:6 - 5:1); and the maturing marriage (5:2 - 8:14).
DISCOVERY FROM THE SONG OF SONGSKnowledge of each other should be developed (even their vulnerability) 1:2-6The role of communication in building up intimacy is important 2:1-7 Kind words, words that build andwords that focus on strength oFor the king 5:10-16 oFor the wife 7 :1-9
DISCOVERY FROM THE SONG OF SONGSSeparation is unhelpful to intimacy 3:1-4Sex was created by God as sacred for marriage 4:6-7 and keeps the marriage more intimateThey enjoyed each other‟s company
Practical Perspectives of Marriage1) Possession“Butbecause of immoralities, let each manhave his own wife, and let each womanhave her own husband. “(1 Corinthians 7:2)
2) Obligation“Let the husband fulfill his duty to hiswife, and likewise also the wife to herhusband.” (1 Corinthians 7:3)
3) Control over“The wife does not have authority over herown body, but the husband does; andlikewise also the husband does not haveauthority over his own body, but the wifedoes.” (1 Corinthians 7:4)
4) Devoted“But one who is married is concerned aboutthe things of the world, how he may please hiswife, …but one who is married is concernedabout the things of the world, how she mayplease her husband.”(1 Corinthians 7:33-34)T
PRACTICAL APPLICATION1) Give your spouse the attention he orshe needs. Take the time to truly knowyour spouse.2) Encouragement and praise, notcriticism, are vital to a successfulrelationship.3) Enjoy each other. Plan some getaways.Be creative, even playful, with each other.Delight in God‟s gift of married love.
PRACTICAL APPLICATION4) Do whatever is necessary to reassure your commitment to your spouse. Renew your vows; work through problems and do not consider divorce as a solution. God intends for you both to live in a deeply peaceful, secure love.
LET‟S GIVE IT A TRYAnswer these questions:1. When you and your spouse were dating, what did you do to make him or her feel special?2. What are you currently doing tomake your mate feel special?
LET‟S GIVE IT A TRY3. What was the last fun activity youand your spouse did together?
LET‟S GIVE IT A TRY I feel loved and cared about when…..(list three things )1.2.3