VIOLENCE IN THE HOMESAyoma, Karla CaressaBajana, SheemaBarber, Angela GraceFlores, Cil AntonetteMuñoz, Regina
Violence• Behavior involving physical force intended to hurt, damage, or kill someone or something.• Strength of emotion or an unpleasant or destructive natural force.Domestic Violence the inflicting of physical injury by one family or household member on another; also : a repeated or habitual pattern of such behavior
Types of Violence • Physical Violence - occurs when someone uses a part of their body or an object to control your actions. Examples : pinching, hair- pulling, slapping, punching, arm twisting • Sexual Violence - occurs when someone forces you to take part in sexual activity when you do not want to. Examples: touching you in a sexual manner against your will (kissing, grabbing, fondling), forced sexual intercourse, forcing you to perform sexual acts you find degrading or painful
• Emotional Violence – occurs when someone says or does something to make you feel stupid or worthless. Examples: name calling, constant criticism, blaming all relationship problems on you, humiliating or belittling you in front of others• Psychological Violence – occurs when someone uses threats and causes fear in you to gain control Examples: threatening to harm you, your children or your family if you leave, threatening to harm themselves, threats of violence, threats of abandonment
• Spiritual Violence – occurs when someone uses your religious or spiritual beliefs to manipulate, dominate, or control you. Examples: trying to prevent you from practicing your religious or spiritual beliefs, taking fun of your religious or spiritual beliefs• Cultural Violence – occurs when you are harmed as a result of practices condoned by your culture, religion or tradition. Examples: female circumcision, rape-marriage, sexual slavery.
Causes of violence• Early learning experiences: This factor is sometimes described as the "life cycle" of abuse. Many abusive parents were themselves abused as children and have learned to see hurtful behavior as normal childrearing. At the other end of the life cycle, some adults who abuse their elderly parent are paying back the parent for abusing them in their early years.• Ignorance of developmental timetables: Some parents have unrealistic expectations of children in terms of the appropriate age for toilet training, feeding themselves, and similar milestones, and attack their children for not meeting these expectations.
• Economic stress: Many caregivers cannot afford part-time day care for children or dependent elderly parents, which would relieve some of their emotional strain. Even middle-class families can be financially stressed if they find themselves responsible for the costs of caring for elderly parents before their own children are financially independent.• Lack of social support or social resources: Caregivers who have the support of an extended family, religious group, or close friends and neighbors are less likely to lose their self-control under stress.
• Substance abuse: Alcohol and mood-altering drugs do not cause abuse directly, but they weaken or remove a persons inhibitions against violence toward others. In addition, the cost of a drug habit often gives a substance addict another reason for resenting the needs of the dependent person. A majority of workplace bullies are substance addicts.• Mental disorders: Depression, personality disorders , dissociative disorders, and anxiety disorders can all affect parents ability to care for their children appropriately. A small percentage of abusive parents or spouses are psychotic.
EFFECTS OF VIOLENCE Lack of trust and relationship difficulties. Abuse by a primary caregiver damages the most fundamental relationship as a child—that you will safely, reliably get your physical and emotional needs met by the person who is responsible for your care. Without this base, it is very difficult to learn to trust people or know who is trustworthy. This can lead to difficulty maintaining relationships due to fear of being controlled or abused. It can also lead to unhealthy relationships because the adult doesn’t know what a good relationship is.
• Core feelings of being “worthless” or “damaged.” If you’ve been told over and over again as a child that you are stupid or no good, it is very difficult to overcome these core feelings. You may experience them as reality. Adults may not strive for more education, or settle for a job that may not pay enough, because they don’t believe they can do it or are worth more. Sexual abuse survivors, with the stigma and shame surrounding the abuse, often especially struggle with a feeling of being damaged.
• Trouble regulating emotions. Abused children cannot express emotions safely. As a result, the emotions get stuffed down, coming out in unexpected ways. Adult survivors of child abuse can struggle with unexplained anxiety, depression, or anger. They may turn to alcohol or drugs to numb out the painful feelings.
• Growing up in an abusive family can lead a person to think that example is a good way to discipline others. Others become abusive because theyre not able to manage their feelings properly. Also, drinking too much and/or drug use can make it difficult for some people to control their actions. Certain types of personality disorders or mental illness might also interfere with someones ability to relate to others in healthy ways or cause problems with aggression or self-control.• Of course, not everyone with a personality disorder or mental illness becomes abusive. Fortunately, people who abuse can get help and learn how to take responsibility for how they act — and learn ways to stop.
How will it affect his/her studies and behavior in school?• Children who are abused are often in physical and emotional pain at school, they cannot concentrate on schoolwork, and consequently fall behind in their grades. They often find it hard to make or keep friends, and may be victimized by bullies or become bullies themselves.
How to cope with violence• Talk About Your Feelings• Arrange school age children to receive counseling from professionals at their school, often school counselors.• Experiment with various types of counseling: play therapy, peer support groups, anger management classes and safety programs to teach kids how to extract themselves from dangerous situations.
• Help children find a loving and supportive adult to introduce to the child and encourage the child to spend as much time regularly with the adult. Family Violence Defense Fund reports that the single most important ingredient to help children heal and develop resiliency is the presence of a loving adult.• Provide a safe environment that does not include violence in any form• Help children create a sense of safety by having scheduled routines, such as regular meals and homework times.
LAWS AND ORDERSPROTECTION ORDER• It is an order issued for the purpose of preventing further acts of violence against a woman or her child specified in R.A. 9262 (physical, sexual, and psychological violence, and economic abuse) and granting other necessary relief (Sec. 8, R.A. 9262)PURPOSE:• safeguarding the victim from further harm• minimizing any disruption in the victims daily life• facilitating the opportunity and ability of the victim to independently regain control over her life
• Barangay Protection Orders (BPOs)• refer to the protection order issued by the barangay ordering the perpetrator/respondent to desist from committing the following acts: (a) causing physical harm to the woman or her child; and (b) threatening to cause the woman or her child physical harm (Sec. 13, IRR of R.A. 9262)• Prohibition of the respondent from threatening to commit or committing, personally or through another, the above-mentioned acts• Prohibition of the respondent from harassing, annoying, telephoning, contacting or otherwise communicating with the victim- survivor, directly or indirectly (Sec. 13, IRR of R.A. 9262)
Republic Act No. 9262 March 08, 2004• AN ACT DEFINING VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN AND THEIR CHILDREN, PROVIDING FOR PROTECTIVE MEASURES FOR VICTIMS, PRESCRIBING PENALTIES THEREFORE, AND FOR OTHER PURPOSES.• cited as Anti-Violence Against Women and their Children Act of 2004, defines "violence against women," provides for protective measures and safeguards for survivor-victims, and prescribes penalties for the commission of the act. It establishes an Inter-Agency Council on Violence Against Women and Their Children tasked to formulate programs to eliminate such acts of violence, as well as to develop capability programs for their employees to become more sensitive to their clients needs.
Where to report violenceAGENCIES• Department of Social Welfare and Development – is a government institution that handles matters of social welfare of Filipinos especially of those in need of proper care and attention• PNP Women and Children Protection Center - Formerly the Women and Children Concerns Division (WCCD), the WCPC now serves as the focal point of coordination and cooperation between the PNP and the different government and non-government organizations (NGOs) involved in enhancing the programs and activities for the protection and welfare of women and children in the fields of investigation, training and counseling