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How to win friends and influence people by dale carnegie 7


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How to win friends and influence people by dale carnegie 7
Don’t criticize, condemn or complain

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How to win friends and influence people by dale carnegie 7

  1. 1. 1Presented by Raja Wajahat The point of the story “Two Gun” Crowley didn’t blame himself for anything
  2. 2. Is that an unusual attitude among criminals? If you think so, listen to this:
  3. 3. “I have spent the best years of my life giving people the lighter pleasures, helping them have a good time, and all I get is abuse, the existence of a hunted man.” 3Presented by Raja Wajahat
  4. 4. That’s Al Capone speaking America’s most notorious Public Enemy the most sinister gang leader who ever shot up Chicago 4Presented by Raja Wajahat
  5. 5. Capone didn’t condemn himself He actually regarded himself as a public benefactor 5Presented by Raja Wajahat
  6. 6. an unappreciated and misunderstood public benefactor so did Dutch Schultz before he crumpled up under gangster bullets in Newark 6Presented by Raja Wajahat
  7. 7. Dutch Schultz one of New York’s most notorious rats, said in a newspaper interview that he was a public benefactor 7Presented by Raja Wajahat
  8. 8. And he believed it “few of the criminals regard themselves as bad men. They are just as human as you and I. So they rationalize, they explain.” 8Presented by Raja Wajahat
  9. 9. “They can tell you why they had to crack a safe or be quick on the trigger finger.” “Most of them attempt by a form of reasoning, fallacious or logical, to justify their antisocial acts even to themselves, consequently stoutly maintaining that they should never have been imprisoned at all.” 9Presented by Raja Wajahat
  10. 10. If Al Capone, “Two Gun” Crowley, Dutch Schultz, and the desperate men and women behind prison walls 10Presented by Raja Wajahat
  11. 11. don’t blame themselves for anything what about the people with whom you and I come in contact? 11Presented by Raja Wajahat
  12. 12. John Wanamaker, founder of the stores that bear his name, once confessed: 12Presented by Raja Wajahat
  13. 13. “I learned thirty years ago that it is foolish to scold I have enough trouble overcoming my own limitations without fretting over the fact that God has not seen fit to distribute evenly the gift of intelligence.” 13Presented by Raja Wajahat
  14. 14. ninety-nine times out of a hundred, people don’t criticize themselves for anything, no matter how wrong it may be. 14Presented by Raja Wajahat
  15. 15. Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself 15Presented by Raja Wajahat
  16. 16. Criticism is dangerous it wounds a person’s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, arouses resentment. 16Presented by Raja Wajahat
  17. 17. B. F. Skinner - the world-famous psychologist proved through his experiments that an animal rewarded for good behavior 17Presented by Raja Wajahat
  18. 18. will learn much more rapidly and retain what it learns far more effectively than an animal punished for bad behavior 18Presented by Raja Wajahat
  19. 19. Later studies have shown that the same applies to humans By criticizing, we do not make lasting changes and often incur resentment 19Presented by Raja Wajahat
  20. 20. Hans Selye another great psychologist, said 20Presented by Raja Wajahat
  21. 21. “As much as we thirst for approval, we dread condemnation.” 21Presented by Raja Wajahat
  22. 22. PRINCIPLE 1: Don’t criticize, condemn or complain
  23. 23. How to Win Friends and Influence People - 7 By Dale Carnegie Presented by Raja Wajahat 23Presented by Raja Wajahat Read Every Day!