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Any fool can criticize, condemn and
complain - and most fools do
But it takes character and self-
control to be under-stan...
Mark Twain lost his temper occasionally and
wrote letters that turned the Paper brown
2Presented by Raja Wajahat
he once wrote
3Presented by Raja Wajahat
4Presented by Raja Wajahat
“The thing for you is a burial permit. You have
only to speak and I will see that you get it.”
...
“improve my spelling and punctuation.”
He ordered
“Set the matter according to my copy hereafter and see that the
proofreader retains his suggestions in the mush of his dec...
They allowed him to
blow off steam
BUT! the letters didn’t do
any real harm
7Presented by Raja Wajahat
because
Mark’s wife secretly lifted them
out of the mail
8Presented by Raja Wajahat
They were never sent
9Presented by Raja Wajahat
Do you know someone you would like to
change and regulate and
improve?
10Presented by Raja Wajahat
11Presented by Raja Wajahat
I am all in favor of it, but why not begin
on yourself?
From a purely selfish standpoint,
that is a lot more profitable than
trying to improve others
yes, and a lot less
dangerous
“Don’t complain about the snow on your neighbor’s roof,”
said Confucius,
“when your own doorstep is unclean.”
13Presented ...
When Iwas still young and trying hard to
impress people,
I wrote a foolish letter to Richard Harding
Davis, an author
14Pr...
I asked Davis to tell me about his method of
work
A few weeks earlier, I had received a letter
from someone with this nota...
“Dictated but not read”
16Presented by Raja Wajahat
I was quite impressed
17Presented by Raja Wajahat
18Presented by Raja Wajahat
I felt that the writer must be very big and busy
and important
I wasn’t the slightest bit busy...
“Dictated but not read”
He never troubled to
answer the letter
He simply returned it to me with this scribbled
across the bottom:
“Your bad manners are exceeded only
by your bad manners...
But, being human, I resented it
I resented it so sharply that when I read of the
death of Richard Harding Davis ten years ...
the one thought that still persisted in
my mind
I am ashamed to admit - was
the hurt he had given
me
22Presented by Raja W...
If you and I want to stir up a resentment
tomorrow that may rankle across the decades
and endure until death,
23Presented ...
just let us indulge in a little stinging criticism- no
matter how certain we are that it is justified
24Presented by Raja ...
25Presented by Raja Wajahat
When dealing with people, let us remember
we are not dealing with creatures of logic
We are de...
Bitter criticism caused the sensitive Thomas
Hardy, one of the finest novelists ever to enrich
English literature,
to give...
Criticism drove Thomas Chatterton, the
English poet,.
to suicide
27Presented by Raja Wajahat
Any fool can criticize, condemn and
complain - and most fools do
But it takes character and self-
control to be under-stan...
PRINCIPLE 1:
Don’t criticize,
condemn or complain
How to Win Friends and
Influence People - 8
By Dale Carnegie
Presented by Raja Wajahat
30Presented by Raja Wajahat
Read Ev...
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How to win friends and influence people by dale carnegie 10

Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain - and most fools do

But it takes character and self-control to be under-standing and forgiving

PRINCIPLE 1:
Don’t criticize, condemn or complain

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How to win friends and influence people by dale carnegie 10

  1. 1. Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain - and most fools do But it takes character and self- control to be under-standing and forgiving 1Presented by Raja Wajahat
  2. 2. Mark Twain lost his temper occasionally and wrote letters that turned the Paper brown 2Presented by Raja Wajahat
  3. 3. he once wrote 3Presented by Raja Wajahat
  4. 4. 4Presented by Raja Wajahat “The thing for you is a burial permit. You have only to speak and I will see that you get it.” On another occasion he wrote to an editor about a proofreader’s attempts to
  5. 5. “improve my spelling and punctuation.” He ordered
  6. 6. “Set the matter according to my copy hereafter and see that the proofreader retains his suggestions in the mush of his decayed brain.” The writing of these stinging letters made Mark Twain feel better 6Presented by Raja Wajahat
  7. 7. They allowed him to blow off steam BUT! the letters didn’t do any real harm 7Presented by Raja Wajahat
  8. 8. because Mark’s wife secretly lifted them out of the mail 8Presented by Raja Wajahat
  9. 9. They were never sent 9Presented by Raja Wajahat
  10. 10. Do you know someone you would like to change and regulate and improve? 10Presented by Raja Wajahat
  11. 11. 11Presented by Raja Wajahat I am all in favor of it, but why not begin on yourself? From a purely selfish standpoint,
  12. 12. that is a lot more profitable than trying to improve others yes, and a lot less dangerous
  13. 13. “Don’t complain about the snow on your neighbor’s roof,” said Confucius, “when your own doorstep is unclean.” 13Presented by Raja Wajahat
  14. 14. When Iwas still young and trying hard to impress people, I wrote a foolish letter to Richard Harding Davis, an author 14Presented by Raja Wajahat
  15. 15. I asked Davis to tell me about his method of work A few weeks earlier, I had received a letter from someone with this notation at the bottom: 15Presented by Raja Wajahat
  16. 16. “Dictated but not read” 16Presented by Raja Wajahat
  17. 17. I was quite impressed 17Presented by Raja Wajahat
  18. 18. 18Presented by Raja Wajahat I felt that the writer must be very big and busy and important I wasn’t the slightest bit busy, but I was eager to make an impression on Richard Harding Davis, so I ended my short note with the words:
  19. 19. “Dictated but not read” He never troubled to answer the letter
  20. 20. He simply returned it to me with this scribbled across the bottom: “Your bad manners are exceeded only by your bad manners” 20Presented by Raja Wajahat
  21. 21. But, being human, I resented it I resented it so sharply that when I read of the death of Richard Harding Davis ten years later, 21Presented by Raja Wajahat
  22. 22. the one thought that still persisted in my mind I am ashamed to admit - was the hurt he had given me 22Presented by Raja Wajahat
  23. 23. If you and I want to stir up a resentment tomorrow that may rankle across the decades and endure until death, 23Presented by Raja Wajahat
  24. 24. just let us indulge in a little stinging criticism- no matter how certain we are that it is justified 24Presented by Raja Wajahat
  25. 25. 25Presented by Raja Wajahat When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity
  26. 26. Bitter criticism caused the sensitive Thomas Hardy, one of the finest novelists ever to enrich English literature, to give up forever the writing of fiction 26Presented by Raja Wajahat
  27. 27. Criticism drove Thomas Chatterton, the English poet,. to suicide 27Presented by Raja Wajahat
  28. 28. Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain - and most fools do But it takes character and self- control to be under-standing and forgiving 28Presented by Raja Wajahat
  29. 29. PRINCIPLE 1: Don’t criticize, condemn or complain
  30. 30. How to Win Friends and Influence People - 8 By Dale Carnegie Presented by Raja Wajahat 30Presented by Raja Wajahat Read Every Day!

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