Begins in early infancy when a child relies on his/her primary caregiver to meet emotional and physical needs.When those needs are consistently and positively met,…
Same situation/adversity, different way of looking at itsome of us may be more use to explaining things a certain way – the way in example 1, or in example 2
Personalized – Me, I caused the problemPermannce – Always, the problem will last foreverPervasive – Affects everything in her life (personal, family)
Can you think of any of your own? Jot them down in your hand out. Maybe you can’t think of any on the spot, but maybe after today they’ll start jumping out at you – it’s interesting, getting to know yourself.
I should get an A in every class, otherwise it’s not worth itI should be friends with everyoneI should be able to handle everything that comes my way, I should be able to handle things on my ownAny questions about Iceberg beliefs?
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Workshop OutlineIntroductionsUnderstanding ResilienceBreakResilient QualitiesLunchObstacles to ResilienceTraumaCulture
“The most beautiful people wehave known are those who haveknown defeat, knownsuffering, known struggle, knownloss, and have found their way outof the depths. These persons havean appreciation, a sensitivity, andan understanding of life that fillsthem withcompassion, gentleness and adeep loving concern. Beautifulpeople do not just happen.”-Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D.4
What is Resiliency?In Pairs…In what ways are you resilient?What skills do you use when you are being resilient? How do you know?Who needs resilience?When is resiliency needed?
What is Resiliency?Small Group Discussion1.Why are some people able to bounce back from adversity while othersare harder hit?2.How does the family we grow up in make a difference between whetheror not we are resilient?3.What else influences resilience?4.How can service providers promote resilience in individuals? Families?Community?
Persevere or adapt when things go awryOvercome obstaclesBounce back from major setbacksReach out and broaden your worldResilience is the ability to:
Why is Resilience Important?• Personal development, health and happiness is affected byadversity, it is important to make it through these challenges .• People who see adversity as a challenge (rather than asetback) are more likely to thrive in whatever they do.• Practicing resilience can promote mental health and reducesubstance misuse.
What is Resiliency?A resilient view means: Accurate and flexible thinking Creative problem solving The capacity to see other points of view and to adjust your own Ability to move on with daily life despite obstaclesResilient attitude can be learned!
Who is Resilient?Are some people just bornresilient? Do some peoplejust ‘have it’ while others donot?
Resilient Qualities1. Emotional Regulation2. Impulse Control3. Causal Analysis4. Realistic Optimism5. Empathy6. Attachment7. Self-Efficacy8. Belonging9. Reaching Out10. Language and Culture
The ability to express our emotions in ways that willhelp rather than hurt a situationExamples: I am aware of strong emotions as they rise and I don’t get sweptaway by them. I am able to take three deep breaths before reacting when I amangry or upset. I am able to talk about my emotions and my physical reaction tothem. I am able to recognize when I am really frustrated or angry and finda productive way of managing it.Emotional Regulation
Impulse ControlThe ability to take action instead of have areactionExamples: I am able to use words to express my emotions. I am able to be patient and to wait a little longer to get what I want withoutbecoming overly frustrated or anxious. I am able to come up with alternative solutions to a problem and not just dothe first thing that comes into my head. I am able to “let it go.”
The ability to analyze a problem andaccurately decide what the cause isExamples: I am not making mountains out of molehills. I feel clear and at least relatively calm about a situation, not confused andout of control. I realize when I situation is temporary and affects only a specific part ofmy life and not my whole life. I am able to turn “I never” into “I didn’t this time, but could next time.”Causal Analysis
The ability to maintain hope for a bright futureExamples: I am patient with a negative situation and keep working at a solution. I am able to see my successes even if I struggle or fail. I am able to adjust my plans when circumstances outside of my control arise.Realistic Optimism
The ability to understand the feelings andneeds of another personExamples: I am able to understand the feelings and needs of someone else. I am able to recognize the emotion someone else is experiencing based onthe way they are communicating non-verbally. I recognize that others are different from me and might see and feel thingsdifferently than I do. I can look at things through another person’s eyes, not my own.Empathy
Self - EfficacyThe feeling of being effective in theworld, making a difference and having a positiveimpactExamples: I use the choices I make and the actions I take to direct my life. I feel as though I have what it takes to tackle problems and bounce back fromthem. I rise up to challenges rather than shy away from them. I believe that what I to day to day matter.
AttachmentWhen a child’s physical and emotional needs are consistentlymet, a child feels safe and secure – this is the basic foundationfor positive emotional and cognitive development. Begins in early infancy The child learns the world is safe and they are valued. Leads to positive self-esteem and more successful relationships. Positive attachment can help to promote healthy brain function and thought patters.
BelongingThe feeling that we are a part of somethinglarger than ourselvesExamples: My neighbour knows my name. A stranger smiles at me on the street. There are services in my community that represent me. I feel welcome and accepted for just who I am. My community lends a helping hand and recognizes when I may need one. I have access to the things I need.
Reaching OutBeing accurate and realistic about how muchwe can cope with and being able to ask forhelp when we need itExamples: I am willing to take risks. I continue trying even when I make mistakes. A mistake is not a failure. I know myself and know how much I can handle and am not afraid ofasking for help when I need it.
Language & CultureHaving a connection to Language and Culture means: Having a connection to your language and culture of choice. For First Nations and Aboriginal Peoples, and in many other ethniccommunities, being able to speak your traditional language and liveaccording to cultural traditions is fundamental to resilience.Importance of Language and Culture: It can be much harder for the other factors to take root without this basicground. For First Nations and Aboriginal Peoples resiliency includes healing fromResidential School experiences (may be intergenerational) and reclaimingtheir language and culture. Some languages contain a framework for ways of viewing self and theworld that are quite different from English. Culture of choice isn’t always culture of birth.
Resilient QualitiesThe Building Blocks to Resilience1. Emotional Regulation2. Impulse Control3. Causal Analysis4. Realistic Optimism5. Empathy6. Attachment7. Self-Efficacy8. Belonging9. Reaching Out10. Language and Culture
Obstacles to Resiliency Stressful events Adversity-Trauma Environment-Unhelpful early learning, current living situation ischaotic Cognitive factors-Belief system, thinking habits
Stress and Adversity Imagine for a moment the following scenario: You are told you have 10 minutes to put together a role play in pairswhere you must demonstrate three of the qualities just discussed. You will also have to perform this role play in front and the group and itwill be recorded for evaluation purposes.
1. What would some of your first thoughts be?2. How many people would feel nervous orunsure about this task? How many peoplewould feel angry?3. Would you feel this stress anywhere in yourbody?25
Stress and AdversityMany of us believe that negative events cause us to actin certain ways.When something bad happens, one of the first thingswe try to understand is why it happened.Our beliefs about the cause of the adversity set off ourreaction – how we feel and what we do.
Stress and Adversity Dr. Albert Ellis created the ABC model to help usunderstand our reactions to adversity: A is the adversity – the situation or event B is our belief – our explanation about why the situationhappened C is the consequence – the feelings and behaviours causedby our belief
Stress and AdversityExample 1:Natasha has been working really hard and saving up for a trip she wants totake with her family. Then she finds out that her hours are being cut backat work. Natasha thinks to herself, this always happens to me, I alwayswork so hard and just have to start back at square one. I must not bedoing a very good job at work. I am such a loser. My family will be sodisappointed in me. She gets very sad, and spends a good amount of themoney she’d been saving for her trip on toys for her kids and a new pair ofshoes for herself.
Stress and Adversity Example 2, a different reaction:That’s disappointing, but this actually wasn’t a surprise: at the staffmeeting last week they mentioned there may be cut backs. I know it hasnothing to do with my quality of work, I just haven’t been there as long assome of the others so I don’t have as much seniority. That’s probably whymy hours were cut instead of some of the others. I will talk to mysupervisor tomorrow and see if there is anything I can do to get morehours, maybe in another department. She decides to go home and do anactivity with her family.
Explanatory Style Thinking habits - preferred ways of explainingwhat is going on around us Occur subconsciously May be accurate or may be distorted Can help or hinder our ability to respondresiliently to inevitable bumps in the road
Trying to Make Sense of Adversity…1.Personalization – who caused the problem?Me/Not me2.Permanence – how long will this problem last?Always/Not always3.Pervasiveness – how much of my life does thisproblem affect?Everything/Not everything
Explanatory StyleNatasha has been working really hard and saving up for atrip she wants to take with her family. Then she finds outthat her hours are being cut back at work. Natasha thinksto herself, this always happens to me, I always work sohard and just have to start back at square one. I must notbe doing a very good job at work. I am such a loser. Myfamily will be so disappointed in me. She gets verysad, and spends a good amount of the money she’d beensaving for her trip on toys for her kids and a new pair ofshoes for herself.Example
Explanatory Style“Me/Always/Everything” thinkingLoss of hope and depressionThinking Habits Associated with Depression
“Not me/Always/Everything” thinking.Blaming others when something bad happens.Can make people feel trapped and angry, orcause them to lash out at others.Explanatory StyleThinking Habits Associated with Aggression
“Not me or Me/Not always/Not everything”thinkingAble to see the situation as temporary and thatnot all aspects of her life are affected.Must thoughtfully and honestly consider theanswer to ```who caused the problem``Explanatory StyleThinking Habits Associated with Optimism
Iceberg Beliefs Deep beliefs about how the world should operateand how we should operate in the world. Cause reactions that seem out of proportion toactual situations. Start to form in childhood and are often passeddown unconsciously, without question, fromgeneration to generation.
Iceberg BeliefsI KNOW I shouldn’t have blown up at Anna that way, but I justcouldn’t help it!I don’t even really know why I’m so mad at her. All I know is I’mSTILL SO ANGRY that it’s hard for me to even look her in the eye.I feel guilty for treating her this way, because it really doesn’tseem fair. I am puzzled by my reaction, she was only a fewminutes late and we still made the movie on time. So now whatam I suppose to do? If I don’t even know why I’m so mad, howam I going to talk with her about it?Example
Can make us over-experience certain emotionsCan be at the root of personality clashes at schooland in other environmentsDon’t always have negative outcomes
Examples of Iceberg Beliefs“Giving people a chance to tell their side of the story is important”“Mistakes are part of the learning process”“Honesty is the best policy”“If you don’t succeed at first try again”
Examples of Iceberg Beliefs“I should be able to handle anything that comes my way.”“Women should never show their anger.”“People should always be on time.”“Things should always be fair.”“Men should never cry. It shows weakness.”
Common types of IcebergBeliefs1) Achievement – Mistakes are seen as failures.2) Acceptance – It is vital to beliked, accepted, praised, and included by others.3) Control – Having unrealistic expectations about thelevel of influence you have over yourself or theenvironment.
Iceberg Beliefs & ResilienceAllow yourself to be flexible in your thinking!45
What is Trauma?• A threat to my life, my person, or my dignity.• A threat to the life, person or dignity of a loved one.Real or Imagined
Trauma can occur in many differentways…• Natural disasters• Human made disasters• Personal loss• Health trauma• Victimization• Criminal violence• Wars and terrorism• Ranges from mild stress to severe traumatic stress and can occur as a singleevent or as multiple incidents
Trauma• What is the impact of Trauma on Resilience?• Trauma affects core beliefs about ourselves and the world.• Being equipped with the right tools is a protective factoragainst the potential impact of trauma.• Working from a resilience-minded perspective helps traumasurvivors realize that they have the skills they need to heal andrecover.
The Effects of Trauma• Physical - stress reactions• Emotional - intense fear• Behavioural - helplessness• Cognitive – hypervigilance• Spiritual - loss of faith
Development of AutoimmuneDisordersEg. Chronicfatigue syndromeeg.: InsulindependentDiabetes
Physiological Responses to TraumaAuto Immune diseases:o Chronic fatigue syndromeo Crohn’s diseaseo Fibromyalgiao Insulin dependent diabeteso Young onset diabeteso Juvenile arthritiso Multiple sclerosiso Rheumatoid arthritiso Intense sugar cravingsUnmanaged stress is a risk factor for all majordiseases, including heart disease and cancer
Emotional, Cognitive, and BehaviouralEffects of Trauma• Constricted intimacy and expressiveness• Overt hostility with unpredictable verbal and physical aggression• Difficulties in bonding and attachment• Difficulty with empathy skills• Physiological reenactment of trauma
Effects of Trauma on Family• Primary parenting functions such as protecting, loving, and teaching becomedisturbed• Trauma disrupts attachment bonds• Trauma produces not only psychological and biological wounds, but also socialwounds...• Trauma can often be intergenerational (passed on from family to family)
Trauma, Resilience & Community• Trauma to individual community members can impact the entire community.• The aftermath of large scale traumatic events can last for generations.• However, shared traumatic experiences in communities can also be a unitingforce that builds collective resilience.
•Do we underestimate the impact of trauma?•What resiliency building interventions are available(or could be available)?
Culture• Living in, or at least having access to your cultureof choice can be vital to resilience.• What does Culture mean to you?
CULTURE IS…• Language• Ways of thinking and behaving are embedded in language• Traditions – Customs – Habits – Practices• Art – Food – Fashion
CULTURE IS…• Our values• Our beliefs– Skills or activities we appreciate, what we consider to be important• Common patterns of behaviours which are transmitted from generation togeneration• Culture is part of establishing/creating how we view the world
Culture & Resilient Qualities• Belonging• when people feel they belong, it can lead to a more positive sense of selfand make it easier to participate in society• Empathy• Understanding and respecting the cultures of others contributes to greaterempathy
Culture & Resilient Qualities• Reaching Out• Feeling like you fit in makes it easier to try new things and reach out for help• Causal Analysis• Knowledge of context and culture allows us to better understandpeople, which supports flexible and accurate thinking
Thinking About Your Culture…• Social units often have a recognizable culture(organizations, countries, ethnic groups, families)• How do you feel about the culture of different socialunits you belong to?• Included/excluded - feeling a part of something or like anoutsider• Fits/doesn’t fit with values – easy to participate or alwaysfriction
Strategies for Resilience• How to foster Resilience in…• Self• Family• Community• Workplace76