Diaper Use In Older Bed wetters


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Diaper Use In Older Bed wetters

  1. 1. ==== ====For Great Quality Diapers Products and Tips Check Out This Sitewww.quality-diapers.com==== ====Unfortunately there is tremendous stigma associated with diapers. Most people view diapers asbabyish. This is the main reason most older children, adolescents, teenagers, and adults arereluctant to wear them to bed. In fact most of them wouldnt be caught dead in a diaper. Olderchildren, adolescents, and teenagers are at a point in their lives where they want to become moreindependent and in their minds diapers represent a stage in their lives when they were moredependent on their parents. In their view wearing diapers to bed is regressing. Although Isympathize with this view, to a large extent I think it misses the mark.One of the hallmarks of independence is the ability to take care of ones self-this includesmanaging health problems. I feel that by wearing diapers to bed the youngster is takingresponsibility for the situation which is a very mature thing to do and is what adults do. In fact itcould be argued that the youngster is acting more like a baby by not wearing diapers to bed. Bynot wearing the appropriate protection to bed they are absolving themselves of responsibility andthey are in effect saying they are helpless to control the situation.We all know what the function of wearing a diaper is, so it shouldnt make a difference whetheryoure 2 or 102 the purpose is still the same. Unfortunately when you mention the word diaper tomost people the image that immediately comes to mind is that of a baby. Most people think that adiaper and plastic pants are something to be outgrown like a high chair or a bib(of course theymake bibs for adults also so even this image is wrong).Due to the stigma surrounding diaper use in older children, teenagers, adolescents, and adultsthe diaper manufacturers seem to be placing a stronger emphasis in many cases on theappearance of the garments rather than functionality or as artists might say theyre emphasizingform over functionality. Tying in with this concept is the emphasis on discretion. Some of the waysthe manufacturers seem to be doing this are by the introduction of underwear like products,garments that are less bulky so they cant be noticed under clothes, and the design of diaperswith a cloth like(also known as a nonwoven) outer layer.Since a significant number of people suffer from daytime incontinence I can certainly understandthis but there are a large number of people who suffer from bed-wetting as well, and in theseparticular cases we should use whatever type of garments are necessary and not be concernedwith how a product looks or its image since its only worn at night anyway. Granted there arecompanies that manufacture diapers for both daytime and nighttime use but I think that the stigmasurrounding diapers has colored the diaper manufacturers in a negative way and this mightprevent them from manufacturing, marketing, and selling products that truly meet the customersneeds.As far as the introduction of the underwear like products are concerned I think these serve more of
  2. 2. a psychological than a protective function for the bed wetter because for all intents and purposestheyre diapers. Because they pull on like underwear as opposed to taping on this seems to help aperson more psychologically. While this may be the case in many situations they dont work aswell as diapers.The same with the introduction of diapers with a cloth like outer covering. Again this is an exampleof a product that is more underwear like as opposed to diapers with a plastic outer covering. Ofcourse there is the possibility that these types of diapers could have been introduced becausetheyre more cost effective for the manufacturers to produce, theyre more breathable andtherefore presumably more comfortable to wear, and theyre theoretically healthier for theindividuals skin, or it could be for all these reasons. However considering that there arecompanies that make both styles of diapers I suspect that the introduction of this style is due moreto aesthetic reasons and that the diaper manufacturers feel these will be less embarrassing towear. Furthermore some people have commented that the diapers with a cloth like outer layer areactually more uncomfortable to wear and in fact provide less effective protection than thedisposable diapers with a plastic outer covering.Ive heard of cases where people have used the disposable diapers with a cloth like outer coverfor bed-wetting and leaked right through them. While this doesnt happen with everybody, peopleshould have the option of buying diapers with a plastic outer covering if thats what they prefer andif thats what works best for them. A number of people seem to be disappointed with the fact thatmost diaper manufacturers are moving away from making diapers with a plastic outer covering.Perhaps customers should write or call the diaper companies and complain about this. In manycases companies do respond to consumer criticism.As I said before people should have a wide variety of products to choose from due the fact thatpeople have different needs and preferences in this area and Im not against people using pull-ups, disposable diapers with a cloth like outer covering, or other products of a similar nature ifthats what they prefer and if they offer adequate protection for the user however as mentionedpreviously this isnt always the case. What I am against is this emphasis on discretion and imageat all costs as opposed to manufacturing, marketing, and selling products that will most effectivelymanage a persons bed-wetting.The trade-off between image and protection is made by large amount of people unfortunately and Ibelieve that many of these people will suffer as a result. To me I would think it would be muchmore satisfying to use a product that might be considered "babyish" by most people but offersbetter protection than to use a product that is considered more "dignified" but that leaves thewearer and bedding drenched. In a situation such as this a person has to ask him or herself howmuch is it worth to them to wear a product that has a better image versus a product that will offermore effective protection and therefore provide more comfort.People who are reluctant to wear diapers to bed because most people feel they are strictly forbabies need to keep in mind the old saw "what is popular is not always right, what is right is notalways popular." There was a time when most people thought the earth was flat, slavery was anacceptable practice, and the sun revolved around the earth but we now know these views areincorrect. I believe that in time well become more informed(and as a result more enlightened)about this issue also. Furthermore there are plenty of companies that manufacture and sell plasticpants, pin-on cloth diapers, and disposable tape-on diapers for older children, adolescents,
  3. 3. teenagers, and adults that wet the bed so this is a very common problem. This is another thingthat people need to consider.Most pediatricians, child psychologists, and other medical professionals advise against usingdiapers in older bed wetters because they feel it might hurt the youngsters self-esteem and self-image. In fact one book I read said the following- "Ive known parents that have kept their childrenin diapers at night as late as 7, 8, 9, and even 12 years of age but wearing diapers makes a childfeel like a baby" and "diapers are a symbol of babyishness." Maybe there are some children andteenagers who actually want to wear diapers to bed but they feel that their parents will look downon them for requesting this because the youngster realizes that most people feel diapers are forbabies only. And since many books and other sources suggest that only babies wear diapersthats probably why there is such reluctance to use them for bed-wetting. In other words itspossible that many people feel ashamed about wearing diapers to bed not because they actuallyfeel that way but because the professionals do and they believe that they should feel this wayalso.This wouldnt be the first time we are cowed by what the experts say as Stanley Milgramsexperiment and other psychology experiments so vividly demonstrate. Parents could feel the sameway also-they might want to use diapers for their bed wetter or want to grant the childs request towear diapers to bed but they too might be influenced by what the authorities say.This raises an interesting question-is the fact that diapers have such a negative image by most ofsociety the result of assimilating the opinions of most medical professionals, or is the negativeopinion of diapers by most medical professionals influenced by how the public feels-the proverbialchicken or egg debate. How much of our attitudes regarding diaper use by older bed wetters isinfluenced by cultural attitudes, parents and other relatives, medical professionals, and otherfactors?How and to what degree do these factors interact with each other?I think it would beinteresting to study this issue in depth.By gaining better insight into how these ideas developed we might have a deeper understandingof why we have such negative attitudes regarding this issue which in turn might significantlyreduce the stigma associated with using diapers to manage bed-wetting in older children,adolescents, teenagers, and adults.To get back to self-image older children and teenagers are particularly sensitive and concernedwith self-image and the image that diapers conjure up in most peoples minds are babies.Commercials also stress this. For example the ad for Huggies pull-ups has the following motto-"Ima big kid now!" the implication being that only babies wear diapers. I have heard urologists,pediatricians, and other medical professionals(who in my opinion should be more sensitive andalso should know better regarding this issue) claim that putting an older child, teen, or adult indiapers at night makes them feel undignified but to me its more undignified waking up in peesoaked sheets and clothing!It would be interesting to see how developmental psychologists feel about this issue. We tend tohave certain preconceived ideas about our childs growth process and if they deviate from that inthe slightest we become alarmed. For example children should talk by a certain age, they shouldread by a certain age, they should walk by a certain age, etc. And while it is true that we shouldhave reasonable parameters established for theses situations in order to rule out the possibility of
  4. 4. cognitive and/or physical problems, the same reasoning shouldnt be applied in my opinion to theuse of diapers and plastic pants for the management of bed-wetting in older children, adolescents,teenagers, and adults.Frequently we feel pressured to use socially accepted methods to resolve various medical issuesbut in some cases its a good idea to consider alternative approaches and this may entail usingmethods that a large majority consider unorthodox or not accepted by the mainstream. A case inpoint is the following. In May-June 2007 there was an article on Naomi Judd. The article talkedabout how the traditional treatments that were used by her doctors to treat he hepatitis were notworking so she tried various non traditional methods which are not fully accepted by westernmedicine such as biofeedback, aromatherapy, and meditation. It turns out that these methodsworked.I think that the use of diapers to manage bed-wetting in older children, adolescents, teenagers,and adults is another example of a management technique that is not fully accepted by mostmedical professionals and the public. Just like Naomi Judd had the courage to try alternativeapproaches to manage her disease people must have the courage to use alternative methods tomanage bed-wetting.I think we need to reevaluate our attitudes on diaper use for older bed wetters for two reasons. Asmentioned previously in some cases the pull-ups and "Goodnites" arent as effective at protectingboth the youngster and the bed. The second reason is that it makes the person who has no otheroption but to wear diapers to bed feel they are somehow inadequate. This in turn can lead tofeelings of low self-esteem, low self-worth, and subsequent depression.In going over the literature and opinions of many professionals regarding diaper use in older bedwetters one thing sticks out in my mind-the status quo has a negative opinion of diaper use. Theliterature and opinions are very consistent regarding this issue-most people believe you shouldntkeep a bed wetter in diapers past the age of 4 or 5.After that the majority of people feel you shoulduse pull-ups or "Goodnites" only.Its my firm opinion that we have a double standard regarding this particular form of incontinence.For instance we seem to have no problem with the use of diapers for developmentally disabledchildren, the elderly with incontinence, and people suffering from disorders such as cerebral palsy,multiple sclerosis, Alzheimers disease, Parkinsons disease, or other ailments, but if you suggestputting an older child, adolescent, teen, or adult with a bed-wetting problem in a diaper peoplethink youre barbaric and should be driven out of town on a rail.There is a saying that goes something like this- "Nothing is good or bad but thinking makes it so."While this is not the case for everything-torture, murder, rape, and stealing are inherently bad-there is nothing intrinsically shameful about wearing diapers to bed. Wearing diapers to bed afterthe age of 4 or 5 is considered shameful because we have been conditioned to think this way foryears. It would be interesting to see how other cultures feel about this issue but unfortunately Isuspect they feel the same way we do. From what I understand the Japanese, British, and mostEuropeans are even more uptight about this issue.There are many different reasons I feel most parents dont use diapers to manage bed-wettingwith both teenagers and older children. The next few sections discuss this. I believe that one of the
  5. 5. reasons for our negative reactions toward older children being in diapers at night stems fromattitudes left over from potty training. Many parents try to motivate their child during this stage withpraise such as "were so proud of you, youre becoming a big kid now!" While these parents mighthave good intentions(of course we all know the road to hell is paved with good intentions),unfortunately they use the same approach with an older child or teenager who still needs diapersat night .Children and teens still in diapers at night see the commercials for Huggies pull-ups andmight remember what their parents told them about diapers during their potty training years andthen feel ashamed about using diapers for their bed-wetting. In addition many parents try tomotivate their child to achieve night dryness by claiming that only babies wear diapers. I think thisputs a lot of pressure on a child and most likely will exacerbate the situation.Children grow at different rates-just as some children walk sooner than others, talk sooner thanothers, and learn to read sooner than others, some need diapers at night later than others. In myopinion a different approach is warranted. The parents need to encourage their children by lettingthem know that peoples bodies develop at different rates and there is no shame in using diapersto manage the bed-wetting. I would remind the child that people of all ages have problems withwetting the bed and many of them also wear diapers during the night.Colin EllisonArticle Source:http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Colin_Ellison==== ====For Great Quality Diapers Products and Tips Check Out This Sitewww.quality-diapers.com==== ====