TMIY - Becoming a Man after God's Own Heart - Week 15

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TMIY - Becoming a Man after God's Own Heart - Week 15

  1. 1. S E S S I O N 15 That Man is You!
  2. 2. The consequences to failed male leadership are dramatic not only to ourselves, but also to greater society.
  3. 3. • Chosen by God and consecrated as King of Israel by the Prophet Samuel. • Commits adultery with Bathsheba, who becomes pregnant with his child. • Arranges for the death of Bathsheba‟s husband, Uriah. • Takes Bathsheba for his wife. • Confronted by the Prophet Nathan who tells David the parable of the two men. The Story of King David
  4. 4. 1. Disharmony in the Family “I will take your wives while you live to see it” (2 Samuel 12:11). 2. Children will Suffer “The child that is born to you shall die” (2 Samuel 12:14). 3. Conflict in Society “The sword shall not depart from your house” (2 Samuel 12:10). 4. Worship of God will Suffer “David may not build a house for my name for he is a man of war and has shed blood” (1 Chronicles 22:8). The Consequences for King David
  5. 5. 10.7 16.4 Male Sexual Infidelity Source: Centers for Disease Control, “Sexual Behavior and Selected Health Measures: Men and Women 15-44 Years of Age, U.S., 2002” Percentageof40-44YearOldMen 0-1 10 20 30 40 60 50 2-6 7+ Number of Partners 58.4 30.9 CohabitatingbeforeMarriage(%) Source: “The Social Organization of Sexuality,” University of Chicago Press, 1994. 1933-42 1963-1974 15 25 35 45 65 55 Year of Birth 65.7Sexual Partners CohabitationPercentage20-21Yr.OldIntercourse Source: Centers for Disease Control, “Sexual Behavior and Selected Health Measures: Men and Women 15-44 Years of Age, U.S., 2002” Yes No 0 20 40 60 100 80 85.4 14.6 Sexual Activity
  6. 6. Disharmony in the Family Marriages Ended Source: Statistical Abstract of the US. 1960 Current 0 10 20 30 50 40 PercentageofMarriagesEnding before20thAnniversary 26.4 41.7 Up over 50% Source: Statistical Abstract of the US. 1960 Current 20 25 30 35 45 40 Percentage“TraditionalFamily” Source: Statistical Abstract of the US. 1960 Current 4 5 6 7 9 8 SingleFamilyHouseholds(%) 44.2 20.9 4.4 9.1Traditional Families Single Families More than doubled. Down over one-half.
  7. 7. Source: Statistical Abstract of the US., Vital Statistics of the US. 1960 Current 0 10 20 30 50 40 PercentageIllegitimateBirths The Children will Suffer Source: Statistical Abstract of the U.S. 1960 Current 0 6 12 18 24 PercentageofConceptionsAborted 1960 Current 0 10 20 30 40 MarriagesEndinginDivorce(%) Source: The Religious Factor,” (Lenkski, G., 1961). “The Number, Timing and Durantion of Marriages and Divorce: 1996,” U.S. Census Bureau. <1 ~22 5.3 40.7 ~14 ~40Abortions Illegitimate Births Divorce Exploded. Up 7.5 TIMES. Almost tripled.
  8. 8. CrimeRateper1000Population Source: Bureau of Justice Statistics, Historical Statistics of the U.S., Colonial Times to 1970. 1960 1980 1.0 2. 0 3. 0 4. 0 6. 0 5.0 Current ViolentCrimeper1000Population Source: Bureau of Justice Statistics, Historical Statistics of the U.S., Colonial Times to 1970. 0.1 0. 2 0. 3 0. 4 0. 6 0.5 1960 1980 Current 1.13 5.93 Conflict in Society 3.47 0.16 0.59 0.43 More than tripled. Up 2.5 times. Total Crime Violent Crime Source: Statistical Abstract of the U.S., Historical Statistics of the U.S., Colonial Times to 1970. 1960 Current 0 25 50 75 125 100 ExpendituresperCapita(1960$) $19 $116 Up over 6 times. Expenditures
  9. 9. The Worship of God will Suffer Source: The Gallup Poll, “Pray Tell: American’s Stretching Truth about Church Attendance,” University of Michigan, Institute for Social Research. Late 1950’s Current 20 35 50 65 80 PercentAttendingMassWeekly Church Conscience 0 25 50 75 100 MoralDecisionMaking Source: USA Today/CNN/Gallup Poll (August 1993). 74 ~25 15% 85% Mass Attendance Moral Decisions Down two- thirds. More than 5 Times. Source: “Frequently Requested Church Statistics,” Center for Applied Research in the Apostolate (CARA), Georgetown University. 1965 Current 40 45 50 55 60 ThousandsofPriests 58.6 39.0 Number of Priests Down one-third.
  10. 10. By considering these four consequences in light of God‟s original blessing to humanity, we discover the four leadership roles entrusted to men.
  11. 11. And God blessed them saying, „Increase and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it. And have dominion over the fishes of the sea and the fowls of the air and all the creatures that move upon the earth. Genesis 1:28
  12. 12. The Four Leadership Roles of Men Moral Leadership Live in union with God to receive his blessings. Military Leadership Battle Satan over the family, the channel of grace. Political Leadership Harmoniously order society to peace. Economic Leadership Make the earth fruitful, which is tied to the fruitfulness of the womb. Men‟s Leadership Roles
  13. 13. The Relationship between God and Marriage (100%) (50%) 0 50 100 150 (Decreased)/Increased Divorce Risk Weekly Church Different Religion Virginity at Marriage Cohabitation Source: “The Social Organization of Sexuality – Sexual Practices in the United States,” University of Chicago Press, 1994, Figure 13.6.
  14. 14. Marriage and Physical Fruitfulness Never Married Married 20’s 30’s 40’s 50’s 60’s 70’s Age 1.0 2.0 3.0 ChildrenperRespondent (Number) Source: General Social Survey (1972-2010) Difference of approximately two children per woman.
  15. 15. Marriage and Economic Fruitfulness Continuously Married Never Married Cohabiting Never Married Divorced Once Divorced Twice Divorced 1 Remarried 30 60 90 120 150 Pre-RetirementWealthperCapita (1000sof2012$) Source: Wilmoth, J., and Koso, G., “Does Marital History Matter? Marital Status and Wealth Outcomes Among Preretirement Adults”, Journal of Marriage and Family Life, February 2002. $139.2 $32.8 $31.2 $37.8 $24.9 $105.5
  16. 16. Marriage and Peace and Happiness • Married couples are 60% more likely to be happy with their lives. • Married couples have more frequent sex. • Church going spouses are 22% more likely to be sexually satisfied than non-church going spouses. • Divorce significantly increases depression and triples the likelihood a person will commit suicide. • Divorced people are 2.5X more likely than married persons to be unhappy with their lives. Source: Waite, Linda J. and Gallagher, Maggie, “The Case for Marriage – Why Married People are Happier, Healthier and Better Off Financially,” Doubleday, 2000.
  17. 17. A Sustainable Socioeconomic Model Human Capital Formation • Family and formal Education God $ Economic Growth Political Stability
  18. 18. To fulfill these four leadership roles, we must develop within ourselves the five personal characteristics of authentic leaders.
  19. 19. Fulfilling Authentic Male Leadership Moral Leadership Personal Responsibility Military Leadership Clarity of Thought Integrity of Action Economic Leadership Foundation for Future Foundation for Future Political Leadership Sacrifice The willingness to pay the price.
  20. 20. Clarity of Thought for Men • God is found in communion. • “Where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I in the midst of them” (Matthew 18:20). • “Whoever receives one such child in my name receives me” (Matthew 18:5).
  21. 21. Integrity of Action •We must unite ourselves to Christ so that we may gain possession of ourselves. •We must unite our marriages to Christ so that they can withstand the storms of time. •We must unite our children to Christ so that they may attain to the full stature of Christ.
  22. 22. To Pay the Price • Sacrifice lays at the foundation of each of the other four authentic leadership traits. • Fully embraced, sacrifice transforms leadership into authentic Christian leadership. • “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her … that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing” (Ephesians 5:25- 27).
  23. 23. Well lived, these five traits transform us into authentic leaders and they transform our homes into the foundation for an authentically Christian culture.
  24. 24. Next Week The Battle over Fatherhood Small Group Discussion Starter Questions 1. Which of the four leadership roles is most difficult for you to embrace? 2. Which of the five personal traits of leaders do you most need to develop in your life?

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