Light to the Nations - Week 19


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  • Light to the Nations - Week 19

    1. 1. S E S S I O N 19 Honor your Wedding Vows
    2. 2. Welcome to Lent! Our goal is to enter so deeply into the life of Christ that together with him we become A Light to the Nations.
    3. 3. The Daily Lenten Program 1. Begin the day with a consecration of the day and ourselves to Our Lady. 2. Practice Lectio Divina using the Scriptural passages and starter meditations provided. 3. Recite the Divine Mercy Chaplet at some point during the day. 4. Brief examination of conscience at the end of the day.
    4. 4. The Weekly Lenten Program 1. Step: Honor your Wedding Vows 2. Pathway to Excellence  Sexual Purity.  Give honor with tongue.  Make sacrifice for spouse’s holiness. 3. Sacrifice: Offer your favorite food and/or drink for your spouse. 4. Plan of Life: Select TMiY to be practiced daily.
    5. 5. Having talked with thousands of men, I’m convinced of one thing: you have no clue of the vows you made during your Nuptial Mass! On the practical level, most men equate it with sexual exclusivity.
    6. 6. The One Flesh Union “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.” Genesis 2:23-25
    7. 7. The Reasons for Divorce Issue by Men Incr. Prob. Infidelity 363% Drugs or Alcohol 216% Irritating Habits 127% Wife is Jealous 101% Wife is Critical 93% Spends Money Foolishly 77% Wife is Domineering 63% Gets Angry Easily 46% 225 300 Infidelit y Not Home Enough JealousDrugs Alcohol Money Foolish ReasonsWomenDivorceMen (IncreasedProbability-%) Critical Source: Amato, P., et al, “A Longitudinal Study of Marital Problems and Subsequent Divorce,” Journal of Marriage and the Family, August 1997, Table 2. 150 0 75 299 187 183 130 105 98
    8. 8. Virtual Infidelity • The brain processes pornographic images as if they were real. • The same neurochemcials are released in the brain in response to pornographic images as sexual relations with a real woman: testosterone, vasopressin, oxytocin, dopamine, epinephrine and norepinephrine. • American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers:  Internet significant factor – 62%  Met new love over Internet – 68%  Obsessive interest in porn – 56% Source: “Is the Internet Bad for Your Marriage? Online Affairs, Pornographic Sites Playing Greater Role in Divorces,” internet-bad-for-your-marriage-online-affairs- pornographic-sites-playing-greater-role-in-divorces- 76826727.html accessed on June 24, 2013.
    9. 9. Fidelity to the “one flesh union” is certainly important to a happy marriage. But let’s go back and consider those vows you made.
    10. 10. A Vow Made to God “A vow is a deliberate and free promise made to God concerning a possible and better good which must be fulfilled … By fulfilling his vows he renders to God what has been promised and consecrated to Him.” Catechism #2102
    11. 11. The Wedding Vow “I Steve take [RECEIVE] you Shelly as my lawful wife to have and to hold from this day forward for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.” Nuptial Mass
    12. 12. The Three Questions of Consent • “Have you come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage? • “Will you love and honor each other as man and wife for the rest of your lives? • Will you accept children lovingly from God and raise them according to the laws of Christ and his Church?
    13. 13. When we give honor to our spouse we “have and hold” her in our hearts. Let us consider an example.
    14. 14. Edith Stein • 1891: Born to devout Jewish parents in Breslau, Germany. Becomes atheist in youth. • 1917: Receives Ph.D. in Philosophy. • 1921: Reads St. Teresa of Avila and is converted. • 1922: Baptized on January 1. • 1933: Becomes a Carmelite. • 1942: Sent to Auschwitz on August 7th. • 1987: Beatified on May 1st. • 1998: Canonized on October 11th. • One of six patron saints of all of Europe. Source: Vatican, nts/ns_lit_doc_19981011_edith_stein_en.html accessed on June 24, 2013.
    15. 15. Edith Stein and a Sharp Tongue • Gifted with a very sharp mind and intuitive ability to read others. • Seeks truth single-mindedly. • Is able to clearly see when someone is heading down an intellectual path that will not be accurate. • Cuts them off before they get there. • Denied faculty position. • “Perhaps it is good for you to move on. You have alienated many people here.” • “I decided that from now on I would only use my tongue to protect the vulnerability of others.”
    16. 16. The Perfect Man “If any one makes no mistakes I what he says he is a perfect man, able to bridle the whole body also … the tongue is a little member and boasts of great things. How great a forest is set ablaze by a small fire! And the tongue is fire .. For every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and sea creature, can be tamed and has been tamed by humankind, but no human being can tame the tongue … With it we bless the Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who are made in the likeness of God. From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brethren, this ought not to be so.” James 3:2-10
    17. 17. To be Naked and Unashamed • “Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked, and were not ashamed.” • The spousal union is called to be so intimate that we allow the other person to see the fullness of our own person with hiding anything, which entails tremendous vulnerability. • In our fallen nature, this includes the reality that we know our spouse’s faults and vulnerability like no one else. • We are called to protect this vulnerability not exploit it.
    18. 18. A Battle in the Heart of Man • Testosterone and vasopressin prime a male brain to aggressively guard territory and protect spouse by simultaneously activating the amygdala (emotional processing center of brain) and the hypothalamus (mating center of the brain). • “Instinctive male-male competition and hierarchical fighting is driven by both hormones and brain circuits. A special area in the male brain’s hypothalamus … contain circuitry for this instinctive one-upmanship” (Dr. Brizendine). Source: Brizendine, L., “The Male Brain,” Broadway Books, 2000, p.66 and pp. 109-111.
    19. 19. When we protect the vulnerability of our spouse at great personal cost to ourselves, we become an image of Christ.
    20. 20. The Sacrifice of the Bridegroom “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the Church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that he might present the Church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.” Ephesians 5:25-27
    21. 21. We have discovered the pathway for the first step. When we fulfill it, we become a manifestation of the Father who is rich in mercy.
    22. 22.  Live in sexual purity according to the 6th and 9th Commandments.  Give honor to your spouse by always speaking well of her in public.  Make a sacrifice for the purity of your spouse. Step 1: Honor your Wedding Vows
    23. 23. Small Group Discussion Next Week Use Money for Formation Starter Questions 1. How can you better guard the purity of your “one flesh” union? 2. How can you better honor your spouse by the use of your tongue?