Developing the skill of decision making in marriage 2
DEVELOPING THE SKILL OF DECISION- MAKING IN MARRIAGE PRESENTED BY SCOTT ODIGIE TONCCF (NYSC) BATCH ‘C’PASSING OUT CONFERENCE ON 7TH OCTOBER, 2012
REFERENCES: Heb 5:14 & 1 Cor. 13:11 (KJV) 14 But strong meat belongeth to them that are of full age, even those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil. 11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
OBJECTIVETo redefine the concept ofmarriage and empowerparticipants to developthe skill of choice-makingin marriage.
INTRODUCTION Marriage is as easy as anything we choose to be a success in. One of our greatest challenge in marriage is in the place of choice-making; we desire to choose, but do not know how. Decision-making in life; marriage inclusive, is a foundational skill every single must develop in other to build a healthy and excellent home.
PRINCIPLE1. Prioritize your ‘relationship with God’ than marriage, money, beauty. This could also be termed your love of God. Pro. 19:14. (Abraham & Lot, Peter & fishing).
PRINCIPLE2. Understand your own ‘personal style’ of communication with God. This answers the question of assurance and conviction in knowing HIS ‘will’. Exo.6:3, John 10:3-5.
PRINCIPLE3. Understand your sexuality differences. Male and female are different in the following: Emotional difference (menstrual cycle every month). Physical differences (muscle, breast). Hormonal difference (testosterone & estrogen).
PRINCIPLE4. Understand what love is not. 1Cor.13:1-8. Sexual feelings do not equate love. Love affairs in romance books, magazines, and movies are not genuine love.
CONT’D Love is not blind. Real love is not infatuation. Love is not having sex before marriage. Courting an unbeliever is not genuine love.
PRINCIPLE5. Learn to define your relationship with the opposite sex. Not anyone you meet can be your spouse. Gen.2:23.
PRINCIPLE6. In your choice-making, let God’s ‘will’ be your most priority rather than materialism, tribalism, intellectualism. 1 peter 3:2-4.
PRINCIPLE7. Choose your friends/associates/partners. It is your choice and by compulsion. Acts 4:13, Pro.13:20, Pro.12:26.
PRINCIPLE8. Learn to make and develop friendship with the opposite sex. Avoid being suspicious and defensive. Pro.14:7.
PRINCIPLE9. Go for knowledge through literatures, seminars, conferences, and audio- visual materials. John 5:39, Pro.11:14.
PRINCIPLE10. Look for a mentor, a spiritual father or mother that you can confide in. example is the relationship between Naomi & Ruth, Mordecai & Esther.
CONCLUSION Decision determines destiny. Thank you for listening.