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7 Habits of Highly Effective People


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These are my views on the book. Stephen R. Covey has been my first favorite author since so long that I even forgot lately - why? Recently I got a chance to go through the book again and I found out the answer. Hope this compact version helps others too in some or the other way.

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7 Habits of Highly Effective People

  1. 1. Nidhi Kadam 1
  2. 2. Can you guess the age of this lady? What about this lady? Can you guess the age of this lady? And this one now? 2
  3. 3. Conditioning If 10 seconds have that kind of impact on the way we see things, what about lifetime conditioning? Paradigm Our Paradigm affects how we interact with others. We can not maintain wholeness if we talk and walk differently. What do you think about this? 3
  4. 4. Dependence Independence Interdependence 7. R E N E W A L 1. Proactive 2. End in mind 3. 1st things 1st 5. Understand then understood 6. Synergize 4. Win-Win Private Victory Public Victory 4 Nidhi Kadam 161300912036
  5. 5. 7. R E N E W A L 1. Proactive 2. End in mind 3. 1st things 1st 5. Understand then understood 6. Synergize 4. Win-Win 5Return
  6. 6. What? Why? How? Want.. Knowing I need to listen and knowing how to listen is not enough unless I want to listen. Until then listening won’t become my habit. Unlearn if they keep you away from your goals. Adopt new ones to make your life effective. 6Return Expand Knowledge Skills Desire around effective Habits
  7. 7. 7Return Customer Employee
  8. 8. 8Return 7 Habits move us progressively on Maturity Continuum Dependence Independence Interdependence We are born as Dependent. As we grow we tend to become Independent. As we grow more we realize, the whole world is Interdependent. Dependent people need others get what they want. Others control them Physically, Intellectually, Emotionally, Financially. Independence is a major achievement in itself. Independent people get what they want through their efforts. Interdependent people combine their efforts with others. It’s a choice only independent people can make. ..from Dependence to Independence ..and then to Interdependence. Whatever your role is, while stepping from independence to Interdependence you actually get into a leadership role and influence people.
  9. 9. 9Return Private Victory Public Victory Primary Greatness Basic goodness in character Integrity, Humility, Fidelity, Temperance, Courage, Justice, Patience, Industry, Simplicity, Modesty Personal Effectiveness (Character Ethics) Interpersonal effectiveness (Personality Ethics) Public image, PMA – positive mental attitude, behavior, skills, techniques, human interaction Secondary Greatness Social recognition of talents
  10. 10. 1. Proactive1. ProactiveProactive 10Return Stimulus Response Genetic Determinism Psychic Determinism Environmental Determinism Self-awareness Independent will Imagination Conscience Reactivity Proactivity Between Stimulus and Response, man has freedom to choose. Response-ability = Responsibility Reactive Response Proactive Response I can’t. I can choose. This makes me sick. I can control my feelings. I can do nothing. Let me look at the alternatives. I am like this. I can choose another approach.
  11. 11. Circle or Concern . . . . . . . . 1. Proactive1. ProactiveProactive 11Return Circle of Influence Proactive people focus their effort on circle of influence. They work on the things they can do something about. Their positive energy enlarges their circle of influence. Reactive people focus on their circle of concern. They blame uncontrollable circumstances. Their negative energy shrinks their circle of influence. Nuclear war National debt Others’ weaknesses Environmental issues Health Education Loan Children Job
  12. 12. End in mind 12Return Circle of Influence Family Work Money Friends Self Spouse Pleasure Enemy The sources of our security, wisdom, power and guidance keep enlarging the circle of influence. We all have our own unique set of centers. Our missions (ends) or center of our lives are based on our circle of influence. Self-Centered? WisdomSecurity GuidancePower
  13. 13. 1st things 1st 13Return i/p o/p i/p o/p Manager Producer Art of Delegation Management is essential for moving the fulcrum over. Gofer (go-for) delegation – Producers. One on one supervision of method Stewardship Delegation – Managers. focuses on results than methods. More effective.
  14. 14. 1st things 1st Urgent Not Urgent I Pressing Issues – Crises Problems Deadlines ImportantNotImportant These activities are fun to do and peasant but not important.This Quadrant consists of expectations of others. People invest a lot of time here confusing it with Quadrant I. Activities may not be popular with others but with us. They easy to accomplish but not important. People associated Crises manager Problems minded person Deadlines driven producers Urgent matters are Visible, so we react on them. They press on us and require immediate attention & results. II Planning Prevention PC / Opportunities Relations Recreation III Interruptions (some calls/mails) Some meetings/reports Popular activities Proximities IV Trivia (some calls/mails) Engaging tasks Time wasters Pleasant activities People spending maximum time in Quadrant 3 & 4 lead irresponsible lives. Effective people stand out of these 2 quadrants as they are non important activities. It’s Heart of effective personal management. Important but not urgent activities require more proactivity (Habit 1) and End in mind (Habit 3). e.g. - We must act to seize opportunity. All 7 habits are in Quadrant 2. If you focus here it expands and then dominates. People spending 90% time in this, run to Quadrant IV with remaining 10% time, neglecting Quadrant 2 & 3 completely. Effective people shrink Quadrant 1 by spending more time in Quadrant 2 Importance is associated with results. They contribute to missions, high priority goals, values.
  15. 15. Win-Win 15Return Right way Win-Win Qualities - Character – The foundation. Integrity – Keeping promises. Maturity – Courage & consideration. Abundance mentality – There’s a lot for all Character Abundance Win-Win Steps – Stop treating people and start treating problem. Look at the problem from others point of views as well. Identify the key issues and concerns. Determine results. Identify possible options. Win-Win can only survive in organizations where systems support it. You can’t change the fruit without changing the root.
  16. 16. Understand then understood 16Return This is something you can start practicing right away – Show your understanding and respect. Don’t push others to open up. Have patience. See important things from others eyes. Seek first to understand, even before problems come up and you evaluate them to prescribe solutions with your own ideas. Be proactive to do preventive work instead of waiting for next parent-teacher meeting or business negotiation opportunity. You will save tremendous amount of time, energy and money. When you listen, you learn. It enables you to deeply understand others. You have accurate information to get to the heart of the matter. You can build Emotional Bank Accounts and give people psychological air to work together effectively. You build loyalty that works beyond working hours. Do a role play with your loved ones on past failures. This way differences become stepping stones to synergy. It’s an Inside out approach. Right in the middle of circle of influence. Merely listening makes you most influencing. Your circle expands increasing your ability to influence everything in your circle of concern. Stages of Empathetic Listening – Reflective Listening (least effective) – mimic the content. Rephrase content – left brain into action – logical, reasoning. Reflect the feeling – right brain into action – emotions. Giving Psychological Air (most effective) – 2nd+3rd. i.e., helping others to work through their own thought process and feelings. They grow their confidence in your sincere desire to listen. Their barrier between feelings and communicating them to us disappears. At times transformation doesn’t require outside counsel. When people are given chance to really open up, they unravel their problems and bring the solutions.
  17. 17. 17 Account – Trust built up in a relationship. Feeling safe being with another person. Benefits of more Deposits – When Trust act is high, communication is easy, instant and effective. Types of Deposits/Withdrawals – Understanding – Treating everyone same by treating each of them differently. Attending to little things – In relationships, little things are big things. People are tender and sensitive inside. Keeping commitments – It is a major deposit that builds bridges of trust to span the gaps in understanding. Clarifying expectations – Doing it explicitly in the beginning to avoid conflicts later when they aren’t met. Integrity – Being loyal to those who are not present. Apologizing sincerely – Doing it while making withdrawals from EBA. Apologies make deposits. Understand then understood
  18. 18. Synergize 18Return This is crowing achievement to all the 5 habits. Everything in nature is related to everything else. A great deal of synergy is in your circle of influence. When two plants are planted together, the roots comingle and improve the quality of the soil and both the plants grow better than growing alone. It’s Team-work, it’s Team-building.
  19. 19. It’s particularly powerful in dealing with negative energy. Don’t take insults personally. Sidestep negative energy. 19 Emotional Psychological Unconscious Illogical logicalConsciousReasonableEconomical Synergize C O - O P E R A T I O N T R U S T Defensive Respectful Synergize Return
  20. 20. 7. R E N E W A L 20Return PhysicalIntellectual Social/EmotionalSpiritual Exercise Nutrition Stress management Reading Writing Planning Visualizing Study Values Commitments Meditation Service Empathy Synergy Security
  21. 21. 21 Principles Principles are natural laws that can’t be broken. We can only break ourselves against them. Principle of Growth & change In all the life, there are sequential stages of growth and development. Each step is important and each one takes time. Would positive thinking alone enable you to achieve enormous success? A thousand mile journey begins with the 1st step. Admitting to the ignorance is often the first step in our education. People admit they have temper problems but they don’t feel awkward in accepting their emotional development level as low. Attitude Think more positively. You may not get what you expected. But you would be so positive that you would be happy with what you’ve got. Attitude can make the real difference. We see things as we are, not as they are. Where we stand depends upon where we sit. The facts have no meanings apart from the interpretations. Laws of Love & Life – Law of love is - Loving people unconditionally. It makes them live the laws of life – Cooperation, Contribution, Self Discipline and Integrity