First Responders: The Calming Element Of Rationality Between The Bully And The Victim (Jan2011) (Pdf)
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F IRST R ESPONDERS : T HEC ALMING E LEMENT O FR ATIONALITY B ETWEEN THEB ULLY AND THE V ICTIM
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W HAT IS K NOWN AT PALMER Bullying is an increasing problem. Students do a good job telling adults when bullying happens. How to address the problem if it escalates to an office referral-type situation
W HAT IS U NKNOWN AT PALMER Issue #1 - How to help other students, i.e. witnesses to the bullying, to step in appropriately to help the victims Issue #2 - Various strategies to teach students to help deescalate inappropriate interactions Issue # 3 - How to give students the power to proactively address the problem before they get to an office referral
T HE D EFINITION OF B ULLYING Bullying happens when someone hurts or scares another person on purpose and the person being bullied has a hard time defending himself or herself. Usually, bullying happens over and over.
E XAMPLES OF B ULLYING Punching, shoving, and other acts that hurt people physically Spreading bad rumors about people Keeping certain people out of a "group" Teasing people in a mean way Getting certain people to "gang up" on others
O THER F ORMS OF B ULLYING Cyber bullying is when children or teens bully each other using the Internet, mobile phones or other cyber technology. Can include sending mean text, email, or instant messages Posting negative pictures or messages about others in blogs or on Web sites Using someone elses user name to spread rumors or lies about someone
E FFECTS OF B ULLYING Bullying is "just a fact of life" or "no big deal." Too often, people just dont take bullying seriously - or until the sad and sometimes scary stories are revealed. It happens a lot more than some people think. Studies show that between 15-25% of U.S. students are bullied with some frequency, while 15-20% report they bully others with some frequency
E FFECTS OF B ULLYING C ONT. It can mess up a kids future. Young people who bully are more likely to skip and/or drop out of school. They are also more likely to smoke, drink alcohol and get into fights It scares some people so much that they skip school. As many as 160,000 students may stay home on any given day because theyre afraid of being bullied
E FFECTS OF B ULLYING C ONT. It can lead to huge problems later in life. Children who bully are more likely to get into fights, vandalize property, and drop out of school. And 60% of boys who were bullies in middle school had at least one criminal conviction by the age of 24 (Olweus, 1993).
A ND I T ’ S A N ATION -W IDE P ROBLEMStates with laws on bullyingStates with no laws on bullyingUpdated October 2010
M YTH #1 - B ULLYING IS THE S AME AS C ONFLICT Bullying is aggressive behavior that involves an imbalance of power or strength. Often, bullying is repeated over time. Conflict involves antagonism among two or more people.
M YTH #2 – B ULLIED C HILDREN W ILL A LWAYS T ELL AN A DULT Most studies find that only 25%-50% of bullied children talk to an adult about the bullying.
M YTH #3 - CHILDREN WHO OBSERVE BULLYING DON ’ T WANT TO GET INVOLVED . In a recent study of t’weens, 56% said that they usually either say or do something to try to stop bullying that they observe or tell someone who could help.
I SSUE #1 - H OW TO H ELP S TUDENTS G ET I NVOLVED Share Your Story Listen to Their Stories Take a Pledge
I SSUE # 2 - T EACHABLES TRATEGIES TO DEESCALATE INTERACTIONS Speak Up Reach Out Be a Friend
I SSUE # 3 - G IVING STUDENTS THE POWER Rule of 3/Broken Record Technique Tattling vs. Reporting Give a Certificate
W HAT Y OU C AN D O TO H ELP – S UGGESTED R EADING L IST Amelias Bully Survival Guide, Marissa Moss Suggested age: 8 to 12 years As if science class isnt enough to deal with–now Amelia has to deal with the class bully. Because You Matter, Jan Carmen Liles Suggested age: 5 to 8 years There is trouble at the Countryside Zoo and Harriet Hummingbird is out to investigate. When she finds her dear friends at the zoo feeling down about themselves after being bullied by a gang of weasels, Harriet takes action. First of all, she reassures each animal of their unique beauty and goodness. Then Harriet rallies her bird friends to craft a solution everyone will love. Blubber, Judy Blume Suggested age: 9 to 12 years A young girl goes along with tormenting a classmate and the finds out what it is like to be target too.
S UGGESTED R EADING L IST C ONT. Hooway for Wodney Wat, Helen Wester Suggested age: 5 to 8 years Classmates makes fun of someone because of a speech impediment. Just Kidding, Trudy Ludwig Suggested age: 8 to 12 years Addresses the topic of teasing and emphasizes that jokes make people feel bad and can damage self-esteem. King of the Playground, Phyllis Reynolds Naylor Suggested age: 4 to 8 years With his dads help, a young boy overcomes her fear of a boy who will not let him on the playground. Mi Enemiga Secreta (My Secret Bully), Trudy Ludwig, translator Aurora Hernandez My Secret Bully, Trudy Ludwig Suggested age: 5 to 8 years A girl confides to her mother that her best friend is treating her badly, and together they figure out what to do.
S UGGESTED R EADING L IST C ONT. Recess Queen, Alexis ONeil Suggested age: 4 to 8 years The biggest bully on the school playground is challenged by a new girl at school. Say Something, Peggy Moss Suggested age: 8 to 12 years A child who never say anything when other children are being teased or bullied finds herself in their position one day when jokes are made at her expense and no one speaks up. Stand Tall, Molly Lou Melon, Patty Lovell Suggested age: 4 to 8 years A young girl is ready for when the class bully at a new school makes fun of her. Stop Picking on Me, Pat Thomas, Leslie Harker Suggested age: 5 to 8 years Simple and direct language to help young kids accept the normal fears and worries that accompany bullying.
S UGGESTED R EADING L IST C ONT. Nobody Knew What to Do, Becky Ray McCain Suggested age: 6 to 9 years When bullies pick on a boy at school, a classmate is afraid, by decides he must do something. The Hundred Dresses, Eleanor Estes Suggested age: 8 to 10 years Classic, award winning book about prejudice and understanding.
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