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Communicating with a Person with Mental Illness

Advice on communicating with someone with mental illness is broken into four sections: Communication is a two-way process; Expressing yourself effectively; LEAP (Listen, Empathize, Agree, Partner); and Recommended Resources.

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Created June 2014; Revised September 2020
Communicating with a Loved
One Who Has a Mental Illness
Presented by NAMI Main Line PA,
an affiliate of the National Alliance on Mental Illness
Presenter:
Ingrid Waldron
President, NAMI Main Line PA
Please view the final slide for NAMI Main Line PA contact information
and a link to the complete document this presentation summarizes.
Advice in Four Sections
• Communication is a two-way process.
– Why and How to Listen Well
• Expressing yourself effectively
• LEAP (Listen, Empathize, Agree, Partner)
• Recommended Resources
Communication is a two-way process.
– Why and How to Listen Well
Communication begins with good listening. Good
listening helps you to better understand your loved one
and helps him or her to feel heard and understood. Over
time, good listening will allow you to:
• gain valuable insight into the experiences and
motivations of your loved one
• improve your relationship with your loved one and
increase his/her willingness to hear what you have to
say
• break through the isolation experienced by many
people with severe mental illness.
Guidelines for Listening to Someone
Who Has a Mental Illness
Use reflective listening.
• Listen with the goal of understanding.
• Reflect back what you have heard and ask whether you
have understood your loved one accurately.
• Ask questions so you can understand your loved one's
experiences and point of view. Communicate your
understanding and empathy.
• Remember that if your loved one feels that you care
enough to listen and understand his/her point of view,
this will probably help to motivate him/her to be
willing to listen to you.
Listening Guidelines
• Even if you disagree with the person’s interpretations
of reality, try to understand his/her experiences, point
of view, hopes, fears, and beliefs about him/herself and
his/her situation. Your goal is to understand his/her
reality from his/her point of view even if he/she is
psychotic (out of touch with reality).
• Remember that a mentally ill person may have
anosognosia (the inability to perceive the mental
illness or neurological deficit) and/or delusions (fixed
beliefs that do not change in response to evidence to
the contrary), so arguing about what is real will not be
useful.
Listening Guidelines
Toavoid reactive listening:
• Listen to understand, rather than thinking about how
you can argue back or convince the person to change
his/her wrong beliefs.
• Avoid interrupting, criticizing or giving advice.
• Even if your loved one criticizes you, let it be.
Recognize that criticisms and blame generally come
from the illness and typically have little to do with
you personally.

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Communicating with a Person with Mental Illness

  • 1. Created June 2014; Revised September 2020 Communicating with a Loved One Who Has a Mental Illness Presented by NAMI Main Line PA, an affiliate of the National Alliance on Mental Illness Presenter: Ingrid Waldron President, NAMI Main Line PA Please view the final slide for NAMI Main Line PA contact information and a link to the complete document this presentation summarizes.
  • 2. Advice in Four Sections • Communication is a two-way process. – Why and How to Listen Well • Expressing yourself effectively • LEAP (Listen, Empathize, Agree, Partner) • Recommended Resources
  • 3. Communication is a two-way process. – Why and How to Listen Well Communication begins with good listening. Good listening helps you to better understand your loved one and helps him or her to feel heard and understood. Over time, good listening will allow you to: • gain valuable insight into the experiences and motivations of your loved one • improve your relationship with your loved one and increase his/her willingness to hear what you have to say • break through the isolation experienced by many people with severe mental illness.
  • 4. Guidelines for Listening to Someone Who Has a Mental Illness Use reflective listening. • Listen with the goal of understanding. • Reflect back what you have heard and ask whether you have understood your loved one accurately. • Ask questions so you can understand your loved one's experiences and point of view. Communicate your understanding and empathy. • Remember that if your loved one feels that you care enough to listen and understand his/her point of view, this will probably help to motivate him/her to be willing to listen to you.
  • 5. Listening Guidelines • Even if you disagree with the person’s interpretations of reality, try to understand his/her experiences, point of view, hopes, fears, and beliefs about him/herself and his/her situation. Your goal is to understand his/her reality from his/her point of view even if he/she is psychotic (out of touch with reality). • Remember that a mentally ill person may have anosognosia (the inability to perceive the mental illness or neurological deficit) and/or delusions (fixed beliefs that do not change in response to evidence to the contrary), so arguing about what is real will not be useful.
  • 6. Listening Guidelines Toavoid reactive listening: • Listen to understand, rather than thinking about how you can argue back or convince the person to change his/her wrong beliefs. • Avoid interrupting, criticizing or giving advice. • Even if your loved one criticizes you, let it be. Recognize that criticisms and blame generally come from the illness and typically have little to do with you personally.
  • 7. Listening Guidelines • Tolisten well, you will want to be reasonably calm. It may be challenging to cope with your loved one's pain, anger, criticism and/or blame. You will be better able to help your loved one if you can maintain some emotional distance so you do not drown in his/her pain. • Tocope with this difficult challenge, you will need ways to process any negative emotions you experience. It will help to find support (e.g. from NAMI programs: www.NAMIMainLinePA.org and www.nami.org). • You may need to set limits on when, where and how long you can listen.
  • 8. Listening Guidelines • These guidelines provide helpful general advice, but individuals and situations differ, so you will need to learn what works best in your situation and develop modified guidelines that work well for you and your loved one. • Additional suggestions and resources are available.
  • 9. Expressing Yourself Effectively • When you want to initiate a conversation on a challenging topic, try to choose a time when you are both calm and a time and place where you will not be interrupted. Speak calmly. • Use brief, concise sentences (since a person with mental illness may have trouble processing). Allow time for your loved one to process what you have said and respond.
  • 10. Expressing Yourself Effectively Be thoughtful about how you describe a problem. Aim to present a problem in a way that won’t trigger emotional reactions so your loved one will be able to hear what you have to say. • Use "I statements". • Describe a specific behavior that is of concern. • Avoid attributing the behavior to character flaws or assumed motivations. • Avoid terms such as "always" and "never". For example, to improve your chance of having a useful conversation, say "I get very worried when you are gone for several days and I don't know where you are." instead of "I'm so upset! You are always so inconsiderate. You never think about my feelings."
  • 11. Expressing Yourself Effectively • If you want to propose a change, try to focus on a single specific proposal. • Think about your loved one's motivations and how you can present your proposed change in a way that will appeal to his/her motivations (e.g. offer some thing, activity or privilege he/she wants or appeal to his/her self-image or concern for other family members). • Be flexible in considering alternative solutions that may be a better compromise that meets the most important needs of each person.
  • 12. Expressing Yourself Effectively • It is important to recognize that most problems or issues are not resolved in a single conversation. It usually takes a long series of conversations with reflective listening and empathy to accumulate the understanding and build up the trust needed to solve problems. • Change usually takes time and occurs gradually. Before a person makes a significant change, there usually is a substantial period when his/her thinking is changing as he/she becomes more open to the possibility of change and begins to think about how he/she might change. Even after behavior begins to change, there will probably be relapses (think about your own efforts to increase exercise, eat healthier, stop smoking, etc.).
  • 13. LEAP LEAP is an effective system for communicating and collaborating to solve problems with a loved one who has a mental illness. Briefly, LEAP includes the following sequence: • Listen: Listen to try to understand what the person is telling you about him/herself and his/her experiences. Reflect back what you have heard, without your opinions and ideas. • Empathize: Empathize with how the person feels about his/her experiences and symptoms (without necessarily agreeing with his/her view of reality; e.g. "That sounds scary. Do you feel frightened?"). • Agree: Find areas of agreement, especially goals you both want (e.g. to stay out of the hospital) • Partner: Collaborate to work toward agreed upon goals. LEAP is a registered trademark®. LEAP was developed by Dr. Xavier Amador. https://lfrp.org/home
  • 14. LEAP During the listening step: • Do not give your opinion unless asked; even when asked, delay giving your opinion as long as possible, promising to give your opinion later, after you have learned more and understood what your loved one has to say. • If possible, postpone responding to any requests that you do something; say something like, "We can discuss that later, but first I need to understand more about what you are thinking and feeling." • If you have listened well and built up understanding, you are more likely to be able to provide your input in a way that your loved one will be able to hear. If your loved one is actively soliciting your input and has come to trust you, he or she is much more likely to listen to your input with interest.
  • 15. LEAP • The agree step should be based on understanding what your loved one wants and figuring out at least one goal that you both want. This does not mean pressuring your loved one to agree to what you want. • In the partner step, you may want to work with your loved one to: – identify one or two specific goals within the overall goal(s) you have agreed on – identify specific steps toward achieving this goal – agree on what each of you will do to carry out these steps – perhaps agree on a time frame for carrying out the first steps.
  • 16. Recommended Resources • We encourage you to take advantage of Family-to- Family and other helpful programs offered by NAMI (www.NAMIMainLinePA.org/ and www.nami.org/).
  • 17. Recommended Resources Resources for learning about LEAP: • I Am Not Sick, I Don’t Need Help! by Xavier Amador (available in paperback for $20 or Kindle edition for $10). • Videos available here • The LEAP Foundation for additional resources, including information about LEAP trainings and referrals to clinicians trained in the LEAP method “Mental Health First Aid Guidelines” for helping someone with depression, panic, psychosis, problem substance use, etc.
  • 18. Presented by NAMI Main Line PA an affiliate of the National Alliance on Mental Illness www.NAMIMainLinePA.org info@NAMIMainLinePA.org All information is current as of publication date; please let us know if you encounter broken hyperlinks.