Well, they are about to devour our words and ourlessons.
Train your brain to stop self-sabotaging... Situation -------> Thought ---------> Feeling “The Event” “Your reaction” “How it makes you feel” i.e. He says, “Well, that was interesting.” i.e. “He didn’t like my talk” i.e. “bad” “worse” “Nobody liked my talk” THE SPIRAL “I should never speak again” “like running away and crying”stop the spiral of negative thoughts/feelings here by recognizing cognitive disorders
7 Common Cognitive DisordersCatastrophizing: taking an event you are concerned about and blowing it out of proportion. (EVERYONE is going to HATE me!)Arbitrary Inference: making a judgment with no supporting information. (“Hewas giving me stinkeye the entire time” when he was trying to read the slides, so squinting) Personalization: taking someone elses behavior personally. (Audience member falls asleep and you take it personally) Selective Abstraction: focusing in on one bad comment in 10. Overgeneralization: basing future outcomes on current. (“This talk was a disaster, therefore EVERY talk in my future will be a disaster”)Dichotomous Thinking: two extremes. No grey. (They love me/they hate me)Labeling: making a feeling into a label. (“I answered that wrong, therefore I am incompetent.”)
exercise 2: get up and tell us the story of thescariest thing that ever happened to you.
Ways to practice• TECHNIQUE ONE: script it: read over that script until you memorize it enough to be able to ad lib (note: do NOT use a script on stage) • read it to yourself 10x • read it out loud 10x • record yourself in garageband 2x • listen to it on your ipod 5x • THEN present it to someone else
Ways to practice• TECHNIQUE TWO: let your deck tell the story • ‘Lessig Style’ - create 300+ slides that talk as you talk (it’s artsy and, consequently, shows well on slideshare)• TECHNIQUE THREE: story time • Personal stories are easier to remember. Put LOTS of them in.• TECHNIQUE FOUR: build in tons of audience interaction • get your audience to participate (warning: some audiences do not participate)
tip: practice silence instead of ﬁllers. (listen for your“ums” “uhs” “likes” “you knows” and practicereplacing them with dramatic silent pauses)
remember: the more you practice, the better it willgo.
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