Problem In today’s society, changing social and economicpatterns limits family’s ability to promote family togetherness.
Purpose To prepare families to consciously develop familyrituals/traditions that can be transmitted to future generations.
Objectives Give families the tools to:• Define family rituals• Describe the benefits of family rituals• Describe the three (3) types of family rituals• Create a family tradition
Dr. Barbara H. Fiese Research suggested that families that carrydiscovered that out regular patterned interactions that fluctuate over time, rituals make people produce well-adjusted feel happier, children better loved and with greater self- esteem and strongly a part of confidence to go families. out into the world.
Penny Game Ice BreakerWork together in a group and describe a penny Such as Who is on the penny? Is it his head or his head and shoulders?
Examine Penny What things did you have right or wrong? What are some other things that you see or use all of the time, but don’t notice the details of? If you saw your rules, creed or ritual all of the time, would you know them?
Share POSITIVE childhood experiencesDid you classify these experiences as rituals or traditions?Define family rituals
Family RitualsBehaviors or activities involving most orall members of the family occur occasionally, have a symbolic meaning for family members and are valued by the participants so that they would like the activity to be carried on in the future.
Benefits of Family TraditionsA Way to Enact ValuesConnectionIdentityPredictability
A Way to Enact Values Allow families to demonstrate what they believe and hold dear. Provide families with an opportunity to make their values concrete to express them regularly with one another.
Connection Provide a planned content and time to connect emotionally and physically with other members of the family, sharing time, caring and conversation.
Identity• A sense of – who belongs to the family, – what is special about the family and – where one belongs in the family.• Allow families to form a unique family identity – that helps them to feel they belong in a special way.
PredictabilityFamilies need; especially children A sense of regularity and order – Bedtime rituals or time to talk with a spouse each day become meaningful events to look forward to. .
Types of Family Rituals• Family Celebrations• Family Routines• Family Traditions
Family Celebrations Rituals in which the family observes holidays or occasions are widely practiced and observed broadly by the cultural groups and are special in the family. They provide an opportunity for larger group identification.
Family Celebrations New Years Fourth of July Thanksgiving Religions holiday (i.e. Christmas, Easter and the Passover Seder) Funerals Weddings Baptisms Bar mitzvahs
Family Routines Rituals which are most frequently enacted but least consciously planned by the participants. They organize everyday life and define family roles and responsibility .
Family RoutinesBedtime routines for childrenCustomary treatment of mutual requestDiscipline of childrenEveryday greetings and goodbyesLeisure activitiesRegular meals
Family Traditions Activities which are less culture-specific, moderately organized and more unique to each family. Gives the family the responsibility of determining how they will celebrate.
Family Traditions• Activities with kin• Anniversary• Birthday customs• Parties with special food and music• Participation in community events• Summer vacations• Visits to and from extended family members
Create a Family Tradition Reminder – It’s not about winning an award on having the most Too many traditions dilute the importance and jeopardize true meaning and value.1. Think of spiritual-based traditions Praying for meals Family Bible study2. Think of meaningful routines/rituals that currently exist Favorite holidays It’s okay to have silly traditions (i.e., Backwards Day)3. Think of other families traditions that you have admired Feel free to borrow and edit them
Debrief What did you learn about your family rituals and traditions? Do you have any current family routines that you will implement into family rituals and traditions? What goals would you like to set for building your family tradition?