The Essential Five-Point Marriage Check Up
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"But blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD,
whose confidence is in him.
He will be like a tree planted by the water
th...
Blessed is the man
who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked
or stand in the way of sinners
or sit in the seat of moc...
Trusts in the LORD
Delights in the law of the LORD
On his law meditates day and night
Leaves are always green
Never fails ...
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Question: How do you
know the health of your
marriage?
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Brian Rhen:Brian Rhen:
• Pastor
• Marriage Coach
• Married
• Kids
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The BloomThe Bloom
Five-Point MarriageFive-Point Marriage
Check UpCheck Up
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What it takes to BLOOM!What it takes to BLOOM!
The 5 key nutrients:The 5 key nutrients:
•Commit to LoveCo...
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COMMIT To “sacrificial” LOVECOMMIT To “sacrificial” LOVE
DAILY
YEARLY
SEASONALLY
This is my command: Love...
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COMMIT TO “sacrificial” LOVECOMMIT TO “sacrificial” LOVE
-WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT
-QUALITY TIME
-GIFTS
-A...
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CHECKUP QUESTION #1
How committed are
you to love?
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Committed to love?
husband
wife
completeroom to improve
roomtoimprovecomplete
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CHERISH & RESPECTCHERISH & RESPECTHowever, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself,
...
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CHECKUP QUESTION #2
What is the degree you feel
cherished (wife) and
respected (husband?)
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Cherished and
Respected?
husband
wife
respectedroom to improve
roomtoimprovecherished
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BE GRACIOUS & FORGIVEBE GRACIOUS & FORGIVE
 
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you
ma...
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CHECKUP QUESTION #3
How capable are you of being
gracious and of forgiving?
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Gracious and Forgiving?
husband
wife
completeroom to improve
roomtoimprovecomplete
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CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDSCHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS
 
Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and sl...
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CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDSCHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS
 
CIRCUMSTANCE
EMOTIONS
Hurt, Fear, Want, Joy
THOUGHTS
3 se...
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CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDSCHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS
 
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CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDSCHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS
 
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CHECKUP QUESTION #4
Are you using the right words
in your communication?
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SEEK A GREATER PURPOSESEEK A GREATER PURPOSE
 
The LORD will fulfill his purpose for me. Psalm 138:8
Peo...
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SEEK A GREATER PURPOSESEEK A GREATER PURPOSE
•Marriage Purpose Statement
•Marriage Verse
•Values (being)...
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CHECKUP QUESTION #5
How purposeful is
your marriage?
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BLOOM!
Where are you?
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FINAL CHECKUPFINAL CHECKUP
Rank each on a scale of 1(weak) - 5(strong)Rank each on a scale of 1(weak) - ...
Do you want to grow inDo you want to grow in
any of these five areas?any of these five areas?
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A 5-WEEKTUNE-UP FOR ANY MARRIAGE
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providing care for girls in Fiji
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5 Wednesdays
Time: 7:30 PM – 9:00 PST
Starts February 2, 2011
February 9, February 16
March 2...
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  1. 1. The Essential Five-Point Marriage Check Up © Mass Ignition1 Bloom!Bloom!
  2. 2. "But blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD, whose confidence is in him. He will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit." The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? © Mass Ignition2
  3. 3. Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked or stand in the way of sinners or sit in the seat of mockers. But his delight is in the law of the LORD, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither. Whatever he does prospers. © Mass Ignition3
  4. 4. Trusts in the LORD Delights in the law of the LORD On his law meditates day and night Leaves are always green Never fails to bear fruit Does not wither in the heat Does not walk in the counsel of the wicked Heart is deceitful above all things © Mass Ignition4
  5. 5. © Mass Ignition5 Question: How do you know the health of your marriage?
  6. 6. © Mass Ignition6 Brian Rhen:Brian Rhen: • Pastor • Marriage Coach • Married • Kids
  7. 7. © Mass Ignition7 The BloomThe Bloom Five-Point MarriageFive-Point Marriage Check UpCheck Up
  8. 8. © Mass Ignition8 What it takes to BLOOM!What it takes to BLOOM! The 5 key nutrients:The 5 key nutrients: •Commit to LoveCommit to Love •Cherish & RespectCherish & Respect •Be Gracious & ForgiveBe Gracious & Forgive •Choose the Right WordsChoose the Right Words •Seek a Greater PurposeSeek a Greater Purpose
  9. 9. © Mass Ignition9 COMMIT To “sacrificial” LOVECOMMIT To “sacrificial” LOVE DAILY YEARLY SEASONALLY This is my command: Love (agape) each other. John 15:17
  10. 10. © Mass Ignition10 COMMIT TO “sacrificial” LOVECOMMIT TO “sacrificial” LOVE -WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT -QUALITY TIME -GIFTS -ACTS OF SERVICE -PHYSICAL TOUCH  5 Love Languages
  11. 11. © Mass Ignition11 CHECKUP QUESTION #1 How committed are you to love?
  12. 12. © Mass Ignition12 Committed to love? husband wife completeroom to improve roomtoimprovecomplete
  13. 13. © Mass Ignition13 CHERISH & RESPECTCHERISH & RESPECTHowever, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Eph. 5:33 with cherish with respect she responds he responds she reacts he reacts without respect without cherish
  14. 14. © Mass Ignition14 CHECKUP QUESTION #2 What is the degree you feel cherished (wife) and respected (husband?)
  15. 15. © Mass Ignition15 Cherished and Respected? husband wife respectedroom to improve roomtoimprovecherished
  16. 16. © Mass Ignition16 BE GRACIOUS & FORGIVEBE GRACIOUS & FORGIVE   Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:13 Grace leaves space for error “an attitude” Forgiveness releases “a process”
  17. 17. © Mass Ignition17 CHECKUP QUESTION #3 How capable are you of being gracious and of forgiving?
  18. 18. © Mass Ignition18 Gracious and Forgiving? husband wife completeroom to improve roomtoimprovecomplete
  19. 19. © Mass Ignition19 CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDSCHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS   Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. James 1:19 Argument REACTING the other Destructive offensive, names, sarcasm, violent = scarring Disagreement REACTING issue Harsh defensive, personalities arise = separating Normal dialogue RESPONDING each other Kind attentive, encouraging = supporting
  20. 20. © Mass Ignition20 CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDSCHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS   CIRCUMSTANCE EMOTIONS Hurt, Fear, Want, Joy THOUGHTS 3 sec. with self REACT “FLESH” with God RESPOND “SPIRIT”
  21. 21. © Mass Ignition21 CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDSCHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS  
  22. 22. © Mass Ignition22 CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDSCHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS  
  23. 23. © Mass Ignition23 CHECKUP QUESTION #4 Are you using the right words in your communication?
  24. 24. © Mass Ignition24 SEEK A GREATER PURPOSESEEK A GREATER PURPOSE   The LORD will fulfill his purpose for me. Psalm 138:8 People seldom hit what they do not aim at.” Thoreau
  25. 25. © Mass Ignition25 SEEK A GREATER PURPOSESEEK A GREATER PURPOSE •Marriage Purpose Statement •Marriage Verse •Values (being) •Goals (doing) •Dreams •Prayer The LORD will fulfill his purpose for me. Psalm 138:8
  26. 26. © Mass Ignition26 CHECKUP QUESTION #5 How purposeful is your marriage?
  27. 27. © Mass Ignition27 BLOOM! Where are you?
  28. 28. © Mass Ignition28 FINAL CHECKUPFINAL CHECKUP Rank each on a scale of 1(weak) - 5(strong)Rank each on a scale of 1(weak) - 5(strong) ___Commit to Love___Commit to Love ___Cherish & Respect___Cherish & Respect ___Be Gracious & Forgive___Be Gracious & Forgive ___Choose the Right Words___Choose the Right Words ___Seek a Greater Purpose___Seek a Greater Purpose
  29. 29. Do you want to grow inDo you want to grow in any of these five areas?any of these five areas? © Mass Ignition29
  30. 30. A 5-WEEKTUNE-UP FOR ANY MARRIAGE © Mass Ignition30 Bloom!Bloom!
  31. 31. • 5-weeks5-weeks of live webinarsof live webinars (1 per week) • 1-year1-year of group tele-coachingof group tele-coaching (1 per month) • LifetimeLifetime access to recorded materialsaccess to recorded materials (including updated materials) • 5-weeks5-weeks of follow-up e-course (1 per week) © Mass Ignition31
  32. 32. © Mass Ignition32
  33. 33. • 15%15% of proceeds donated • Vision AbolitionVision Abolition –– building homes and providing care for girls in Fiji © Mass Ignition33
  34. 34. When is Bloom?When is Bloom? 5 Wednesdays Time: 7:30 PM – 9:00 PST Starts February 2, 2011 February 9, February 16 March 2, March 9 © Mass Ignition34
  35. 35. Sign up todaySign up today © Mass Ignition35 http://bit.ly/blkYPM

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