Bloom webinar 022311 session 4

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Bloom webinar 022311 session 4

  1. 1. Bloom! A 5-WEEK TUNE-UP FOR ANY MARRIAGE1 © Mass Ignition
  2. 2. Whether you are fully aware of it or not, you are in one cycle or the other Doom Vs. Bloom Cycle Cycle2 © Mass Ignition
  3. 3. WHY WE DOOM “ONENESS BROKEN” Finances Passions/Hobbies Family Health Kids Career Loss Addictions Friends Culture Your desire will be for your husband and he will rule over3 you…through painful toil…all the days… Gen. 3
  4. 4. HOW WE BLOOM “ONENESS SUSTAINED” Finances Passions/Hobbies Family Health Kids Career Loss Addictions Friends Culture …they will become one flesh Gen. 2:244 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Eph. 5:21
  5. 5. WHY WE MUST BLOOM God patterned them after Himself. Gen. 1:275 …so that we can be mirrors that reflect His glory 2Cor. 3:18
  6. 6. What it takes to BLOOM! The 5 key nutrients: •Commit to Love •Cherish & Respect •Be Gracious & Forgive •Choose the Right Words •Seek a Greater Purpose6 © Mass Ignition
  7. 7. COMMIT To “sacrificial” LOVE HOW FULL IS YOUR LOVE TANK? Love Languages Words Quality Time AGAPE Gifts Acts of Service FILO Physical Touch EROS7 © Mass Ignition
  8. 8. CHERISH & RESPECT “LL=CR” with cherish he she responds without “DOOM” responds respect with respect he she reacts reacts“BLOOM” without © Mass Ignition cherish8
  9. 9. BE GRACIOUS & FORGIVE Without G&F With G&F “oneness lost” attitude + rec. process © Mass Ignition “oneness gained”9
  10. 10. DOOMING Myth #4: Communication gets better in time BLOOMING Truth #3: Communication gets better when we learn deliberately how to choose the right words10 © Mass Ignition
  11. 11. CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS Why? RELATIONSHIPS ARE EITHER DEVELOPED OR DESTROYED BY THE WORDS THAT ARE CHOSEN11 © Mass Ignition
  12. 12. CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS Biblical Principles When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise. Proverbs 10:19 The tongue has the power of life and death… Proverbs 18:2112 © Mass Ignition
  13. 13. CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. James 1:19 Argument REACTING the other Destructive offensive, names, sarcasm, violent = scarring Disagreement REACTING issue Harsh defensive, personalities arise = separating Normal dialogue RESPONDING each other Kind attentive, encouraging = supporting13 © Mass Ignition
  14. 14. “SPIRITUAL EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE” CIRCUMSTANCE THOUGHTS EMOTIONS Hurt, Fear, Want, Joy 3 sec. with self with God REACT RESPOND “FLESH” “SPIRIT”14 © Mass Ignition
  15. 15. CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS REACT: “STAND OFF” REACT: “TELL OFF” RESPOND “GRACE & TRUTH” REACT: “GIVE UP” REACT: “HOLD ON ”15 © Mass Ignition
  16. 16. CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS REACT: “STAND OFF” REACT: “TELL OFF” Listen Clarify Thoughts Identify Feelings Right Tone, Time, Words Find Compromise REACT: “GIVE UP” REACT: “HOLD ON ”16 © Mass Ignition
  17. 17. RESPONDING in GRACE & TRUTH “slowing down, staying centered” EARS = Listening (3 levels) HEAD = Clarifying Thoughts HEART = Identifying Feelings MOUTH = Choosing Right Words, Tone, Time HANDS = Praying, Compromising, Forgiving17
  18. 18. HOMEWORK: CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS -awareness and action 1. See attached homework packet Bonus: Within the next 6 weeks, write a note of recommitment18 © Mass Ignition

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