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Bloom webinar 021611 session 3

  1. 1. Bloom! A 5-WEEK TUNE-UP FOR ANY MARRIAGE1 © Mass Ignition
  2. 2. Whether you are fully aware of it or not, you are in one cycle or the other Doom Vs. Bloom Cycle Cycle2 © Mass Ignition
  3. 3. WHY WE DOOM “ONENESS BROKEN” Finances Passions/Hobbies Family Health Kids Career Loss Addictions Friends Culture Your desire will be for your husband and he will rule over3 you…through painful toil…all the days… Gen. 3
  4. 4. HOW WE BLOOM “ONENESS SUSTAINED” Finances Passions/Hobbies Family Health Kids Career Loss Addictions Friends Culture …they will become one flesh Gen. 2:244 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Eph. 5:21
  5. 5. WHY WE MUST BLOOM God patterned them after Himself. Gen. 1:275 …so that we can be mirrors that reflect His glory 2Cor. 3:18
  6. 6. HOMEWORK: A COMMITMENT PLAN -to sacrificially love daily, yearly, & seasonally 1. Find your vows and verses. Decide what to do with them. 2. Clarify your top 2 love languages and list 5 ways it can be met 3. Determine what are the top 3 threats to your oneness 4. List the top 5 reasons you married the other 5. Discuss how you will handle your future anniversaries Bonus: Within the next 6 weeks, write a note of recommitment6 © Mass Ignition
  7. 7. HOMEWORK: CHERISH & RESPECT 1. Husband asks the following: What have I done or failed to do to make you feel uncherished? What are some things I can do to make you feel cherished? 2. Wives ask the following: What have I done or failed to do to make you feel disrespected? What are some things I can do to make you feel respected? 3. Together reflect back on your love language lists to see how the cherish and respect needs relate. 4. Pray daily asking God’s help to cherish/respect your spouse.7 © Mass Ignition
  8. 8. What it takes to BLOOM! The 5 key nutrients: •Commit to Love •Cherish & Respect •Be Gracious & Forgive •Choose the Right Words •Seek a Greater Purpose8 © Mass Ignition
  9. 9. DOOMING Myth #3: Certain things cannot be forgiven BLOOMING Truth #3: Grace and forgiveness is possible in all situations and vital to sustain a healthy marriage9 © Mass Ignition
  10. 10. Without G&F With G&F “oneness lost” “oneness gained”10 © Mass Ignition
  11. 11. WHY WE NEED G&F? Each of us are imperfect people who make mistakes (sin) and need grace and forgiveness Otherwise, our self-worth is destroyed by guilt and/or shame.11 © Mass Ignition
  12. 12. BE GRACIOUS & FORGIVE Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:13 Grace leaves Forgiveness space releases for error “an attitude” “a process”12 © Mass Ignition
  13. 13. BE GRACIOUS But where sin increased, grace increased all the more. Rom. 5:20 Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt. Col 4:6 …the one and only Son…full of grace and truth. John 1:14 • To show unmerited favor • To bear with one another • To give what is undeserved • Grace = Gift13 © Mass Ignition
  14. 14. AM I GRACIOUS? REACT: “STAND OFF” REACT: “TELL OFF” RESPOND “GRACE & TRUTH” REACT: “GIVE UP” REACT: “HOLD ON ”14 © Mass Ignition
  15. 15. FORGIVE Bear with one another and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:13 • An act of mercy • To give up resentment • To release another15 © Mass Ignition
  16. 16. RECONCILIATION Past PROCESS Ownership Present “I am sorry for…” Forgiveness Future Takes one “Would you please Trust forgive me?” “How are we Takes two doing?” Takes time16 © Mass Ignition
  17. 17. 5 LANGUAGES OF APOLOGY What is yours? -Regret “I am sorry” -Responsibility “I was wrong” -Restitution “What can I do?” -Repentance “I will try not do that again.” -Requesting Forgiveness “Will you forgive me”17 © Mass Ignition
  18. 18. G&F IS LINKED TO THE CROSS Only graced people give grace. Only forgiven people forgive.18 © Mass Ignition
  19. 19. Bitter Better19 © Mass Ignition
  20. 20. HOMEWORK: BE GRACIOUS AND FORGIVE -assess and get a plan of action (see attached) 1. 4 key questions on Grace 2. 6 key questions on Forgiveness Bonus: Within the next 6 weeks, write a note of recommitment20 © Mass Ignition

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