Bloom Module #2 -- Cherish and Respect

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Bloom Module #2 -- Cherish and Respect

  1. 1. Bloom! A 5-WEEK TUNE-UP FOR ANY MARRIAGE1 © Mass Ignition
  2. 2. Whether you are fully aware of it or not, you are in one cycle or the other Doom Vs. Bloom Cycle Cycle2 © Mass Ignition
  3. 3. WHY WE DOOM “ONENESS BROKEN” Finances Passions/Hobbies Family Health Kids Career Loss Addictions Friends Culture Your desire will be for your husband and he will rule over3 you…through painful toil…all the days… Gen. 3
  4. 4. HOW WE BLOOM “ONENESS SUSTAINED” Finances Passions/Hobbies Family Health Kids Career Loss Addictions Friends Culture …they will become one flesh Gen. 2:244 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Eph. 5:21
  5. 5. WHY WE MUST BLOOM God patterned them after Himself. Gen. 1:275 …so that we can be mirrors that reflect His glory 2Cor. 3:18
  6. 6. HOMEWORK: A COMMITMENT PLAN -to sacrificially love daily, yearly, & seasonally 1. Find your vows and verses. Decide what to do with them. 2. Clarify your top 2 love languages and list 5 ways it can be met 3. Determine what are the top 3 threats to your oneness 4. List the top 5 reasons you married the other 5. Discuss how you will handle your future anniversaries Bonus: Within the next 6 weeks, write a note of recommitment6 © Mass Ignition
  7. 7. What it takes to BLOOM! The 5 key nutrients: •Commit to Love •Cherish & Respect •Be Gracious & Forgive •Choose the Right Words •Seek a Greater Purpose7 © Mass Ignition
  8. 8. DOOMING Myth #2: Most spouses know the other’s core need BLOOMING Truth #2: Most spouses’ core needs are unidentified and go unmet8 © Mass Ignition
  9. 9. CORE NEED OF WOMAN/MAN WOMAN MAN CHERISHED RESPECTED relationship-oriented task-oriented nurturers fixers “The One” “The Hero”9 © Mass Ignition
  10. 10. CORE PROBLEM OF WOMAN/MAN “Our ability to cherish and respect one another is hampered by the sin in us and the sin we see in others.”10 © Mass Ignition
  11. 11. CORE SOLUTION FOR WOMAN/MAN Ephesians 5 21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ… 33 However, each one of you (husbands) also must love (cherish) his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.11 © Mass Ignition
  12. 12. CHERISH & RESPECT However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Eph. 5:33 with cherish she “DOOM” he responds responds without respect with respect he she reacts reacts“BLOOM” © Mass Ignition without12 cherish
  13. 13. C&R SIMPLE ACTION Commit to love the other in their love language and they will feel cherished or respected. LL=CR13 © Mass Ignition
  14. 14. C&R SIMPLE COMMUNICATION Husbands to Wives: “Lately, I have felt disrespected by you, what have I been doing to not make you feel cherished.” Wives to Husbands: “Lately, I have not felt cherished by you, what have I been doing to not make you feel respected.”14 © Mass Ignition
  15. 15. HOMEWORK: CHERISH & RESPECT 1. Husband asks the following: What have I done or failed to do to make you feel uncherished? What are some things I can do to make you feel cherished? 2. Wives ask the following: What have I done or failed to do to make you feel disrespected? What are some things I can do to make you feel respected? 3. Together reflect back on your love language lists to see how the cherish and respect needs relate. 4. Pray daily asking God’s help to cherish/respect your spouse.15 © Mass Ignition

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