Have supported professionals in ﬁnding their true calling since
2002, as both a coach and organizational development
Have worked closely with Millennials since 2008 as a career
coach and professor
Have worked in HR and as a manager have hired dozens (and
sadly ﬁred) dozens of people over the course of my career
100% of my clients get hired if looking for work
100% of my clients get promoted if wanting a promotion
Era of Choices
It’s hard for people to see what’s changed...
If you’re 40 something, you’re busy with your own life
If you’re 20 something, it’s how life has always been
If you’re 60 something, you’re focused on other things
I get to see it as a professor and what stands out is that a whole
new set of skills are required to succeed in today’s world... if you
are young, have a modicum of talent, experience, and passion
there are almost endless opportunities waiting for you
Lots of Choices, Lots of Decisions
Specialization Rules -- 10,000 Quality Hours to be
Proﬁcient (Not Genius Level)
Reach and Expertise vs. Experience and Credentials
Dysfunctional Systems, Traps, and Talent Thieves
Abound... especially in “Default Decision Making”
Healthy Relationships + Talent Determines Success
It’s an old truth, but formalized classes never match the challenges you’re about to face
in the “real” world
Breaking Up, Endings and Saying Goodbye -- To know when you’ve truly outgrown
something/someone vs. when you’ve made it/them too small for you to live
Fight Club -- The Five Conﬂict Styles & How Conﬂicts Can Serve You
Defense Against the Dark Arts -- Dealing with A-Holes, Broken, and “Evil” People
Learning to Say “Yes” and “No” Effectively -- Head, Heart, Gut Alignment
Basic Visioning Skills -- How to create a future you want to live
Decision Making -- inﬁnite opportunities, can’t do them all, shared promises and
sacriﬁce being the essential building blocks of all relationships
Your Body/Your Wisdom -- The Mind/Body Connection
Additional Skills to
A Voracious Desire to Learn -- We love to be the expert, strive for
it, but the novice mindset is the best prepared to fully live in this
ever changing world... Always Be Learning
Embrace Failure and Pain -- Fail often, speed up the process of
failure, don’t repeat your failures (learn) and face the hard things
as default decision making will eat you alive
Embrace Transitions -- Learn to “Welcome The Unknown”
Ability to Toggle Between Being Present Today and Long Term
Goals -- We may never arrive at our long term goals, but long term
goals are what give meaning to our lives
What Will Determine
Your Success (or Failure)
Your basic orientation towards external authority -rebels and princesses don’t last long
Your ability to network and build relationships -reputation matters
Your Trustworthiness -- Based on How People See
Your: Competency, Consistency, Character,
Commitment and Conﬁdence
Your Comfort Level With Power
What Will Determine
Your Career Success
Forgiveness and Gratitude -- Cornerstones of Resilience
Finding Your Inner Authority -- Is directly related to your
relationship with your own shadow: Unwanted anger, sexual
desires, neediness, and insecurities
The Embrace of Pain and Discomfort -- Two kinds of fear, two
kinds of pain (Both say stop, but one of them is lying to you)
Toggle Back And Forth -- Internal/External, Horizon/
Immediate Surroundings, Strategic/Compassionate, You/
Other, Big Picture/Small Details
To have heartfelt, soulful coaching that is also
effective and efﬁcient begins with meeting the client
where they are and illuminating their journey
As a self-employed career coach, I don’t have the
luxury of time, nor am I distracted by a focus on
metrics or career development theory, as the only
way I succeed is if my clients ﬁnd work
What’s Your Passion?
It’s the ﬁrst question I ask every client
I work from the basic premise that we all want something -- a
deep and abiding passion that compels us forward even if
work is just a job and simply a means to an end
I also believe that each of us has a unique gift or talent that
may or may not have been nurtured
Maybe the most important consideration is how our very ﬁrst
career aspirations were met... It’s how we respond to internal
and external calls
Past, Present, & Future
Does Impact our Present and Future
The Challenges We Face Today Took Root In Days Past
Some of the Challenges We Face Go Deeper Than The Recent Past -- Multigenerational
The Steps We Take Now Matter
Distorted Thinking and Faulty Decision Making Impact Choice
99% of What We Do is Mostly Unconscious Behavior -- Expand Consciousness
Must Consider Inﬂuences -- Who We Allow to Speak Into Our Lives?
Can We Name and Confront Our Worst Fears of the Future?
Can We Sincerely Commit to Our Best Dreams of the Future?
Realize the Role of Complacency and Familiarity in Keeping Us Stuck
The Future Truly is Unwritten -- It’s Up for Grabs
The Essential Questions
Where Your Vocation
Meets Your Avocation
What is one thing that people
will pay you for regardless of
What jobs could you apply for
and have a reasonable shot at
getting right now?
Make a list of your deepest
What turns you on?
How can you develop multiple
streams of income?
How in demand are your skills
and experience right now?
Are you currently doing what
you want to be doing?
What’s worth the sacriﬁce?
If you could be doing anything
right now, what would it be?
What do you daydream the
What is your body telling you?
What do you love to practice?
What can you do better than anybody else?
Describe one of the best decisions you’ve made in your life.
What is satisfying about your current job or situation?
If ten people who know you well were asked to write down the one adjective
that they feel best describes you, what would be the most common words used
to describe you?
If you could teach everyone in the world one skill, what would you teach them?
Where could you work less
and achieve more?
Is this what I want to be doing?
What is an activity that brings
you fully alive?
(What We Want To Do)
There are two basic challenges that come with Passion
If our passions are not met with success, what does that mean?
That we should give up?
That we’re not talented enough?
That we need to keep working at it and for how long?
If we follow our passions and they are met with success,
How do we ﬂow with our success and not self sabotage?
Prepare ourselves for the next level of challenges
(What We Can Do)
The truth about developing competencies is that
there’s always a massive potential for growth
When you think about it, there really is no limit to
developing yourself and your competencies
Strengths are always in a developmental process
and evolution, same with weaknesses
A difﬁcult truth to face is that our passions don’t
always match our talent
(What People Will Pay Us To Do)
This is where the “Dreamers” and “Realists” battle it out over...
What’s possible vs. what’s probable
The future is not set in stone, anything is possible
The Dreamer will tell you that your only limitations come
from fear and a lack of imagination
There is however a speciﬁc market for talent and expertise
The Realist will tell you that the reason you are miserable
is that 99.9% of everything you think, and everything you
do, is for your “Self” and there isn’t one
The 90 Day Plan
In 90 days you should see results from any form of
coaching. The goal is simple... multiple job offers
coming in at the same time
You become an Application and Networking
40 Applications Sent, 20 New People In Your
Network, and 10 Networking events per month
Past issues are resolved, present is the focus, future is
My thoughts on what makes a great career coach:
They Are Managers -- They’ve actually had P&L responsibilities and hired/
They Are Networked -- They are well connected in a diversity of industries
and are aware of what the business community is asking for from
They Are Recruiters -- They are more than willing to act as a recruiter and
head hunter for you
They Are Certiﬁed Coaches -- The therapeutic model is more passive and
designed for developing diagnosis and treatment plans, coaching is
primarily designed for accountability and action