Get Rid of  Emotional Clutter: PART 1:  Let Go of the Negative Emotions That Block Your Success & Happiness
 
What is Emotional Clutter?
What is Emotional Clutter? <ul><li>Stockpiles of negative emotions and old beliefs that no longer apply </li></ul>
What is Emotional Clutter? <ul><li>Stockpiles of negative emotions and old beliefs that no longer apply </li></ul><ul><li>...
What Does Emotional Clutter Do? <ul><li>Keeps you from seeing what options and resources you have </li></ul>
What Does Emotional Clutter Do? <ul><li>Keeps you from seeing what options and resources you have </li></ul><ul><li>Preven...
What Does Emotional Clutter Do? <ul><li>Keeps you from seeing what options and resources you have </li></ul><ul><li>Preven...
Why is it important to  do something about it?
If YOU… <ul><li>Feel STUCK </li></ul>
If YOU… <ul><li>Feel STUCK </li></ul><ul><li>Want to be more successful </li></ul>
If YOU… <ul><li>Feel STUCK </li></ul><ul><li>Want to be more successful </li></ul><ul><li>Want to be happier </li></ul>
If YOU… <ul><li>Feel STUCK </li></ul><ul><li>Want to be more successful </li></ul><ul><li>Want to be happier </li></ul><ul...
If YOU… <ul><li>Feel STUCK </li></ul><ul><li>Want to be more successful </li></ul><ul><li>Want to be happier </li></ul><ul...
If YOU… <ul><li>Feel STUCK </li></ul><ul><li>Want to be more successful </li></ul><ul><li>Want to be happier </li></ul><ul...
How Emotional Clutter Is Born
Emotional Clutter is the result of…
Emotional Clutter is the result of… <ul><li>1. Negative emotions from past experiences  </li></ul>
Emotional Clutter is the result of… <ul><li>1. Negative emotions from past experiences  </li></ul><ul><li>AND </li></ul><u...
Emotional Clutter is the result of… <ul><li>1. Negative emotions from past experiences  </li></ul><ul><li>AND </li></ul><u...
Negative Emotions <ul><li>What are they? </li></ul>
Anger
Hurt
Sadness
Fear
Guilt
Anxiety
Our emotions have messages  to send us…
What are those messages?
Messages from Emotions
Messages from Emotions <ul><li>Signal that there is something you need to pay attention to  </li></ul>
Messages from Emotions <ul><li>Signal that there is something you need to pay attention to </li></ul><ul><li>Tell you to t...
Messages from Emotions <ul><li>Signal that there is something you need to pay attention to </li></ul><ul><li>Tell you to t...
Let’s look at some examples…
Anger
Anger What is the message?
Anger What is the message? <ul><li>A boundary has been violated </li></ul>
Anger What is the message? <ul><li>A boundary has been violated </li></ul><ul><li>  OR </li></ul><ul><li>Someone is being ...
Anger What is the action?
Anger What is the action? <ul><li>Set the boundary or enforce the boundary, and the anger will flow through you and disapp...
Hurt
Hurt What is the message?
Hurt What is the message? <ul><li>A boundary has been violated </li></ul>
Hurt What is the message? <ul><li>A boundary has been violated </li></ul><ul><li>You are not being treated respectfully </...
Hurt What is the action?
Hurt What is the action? <ul><li>Set the boundary or enforce the boundary, and the hurt will flow through you and disappea...
Sadness
Sadness What is the message?
Sadness What is the message? <ul><li>There is a loss to be dealt with </li></ul>
Sadness What is the action?
Sadness What is the action? <ul><li>Deal with the loss—grieve it, resolve it by honoring the loss, figure out the positive...
Fear
Fear What is the message?
Fear What is the message? <ul><li>There is danger that needs to be addressed </li></ul>
Fear What is the action?
Fear What is the action? <ul><li>Determine if there is danger and take action to deal with it </li></ul>
Fight or Flight <ul><li>When we feel fear, our bodies are hard-wired to respond with  </li></ul><ul><li>FIGHT </li></ul><u...
Fight or Flight <ul><li>Our body gets us ready to either </li></ul><ul><li>Stand and fight </li></ul><ul><li>OR </li></ul>...
When we stockpile Fear, it can create a 3 rd  response to Danger: FREEZE
Freezing when there is danger  is not a very helpful response!
When you determine if there is danger--and take action— the fear flows through you and disappears.
Guilt
Guilt What is the message?
Guilt What is the message?
Guilt What is the message? <ul><li>You have violated someone else’s boundaries </li></ul>
Guilt What is the message? <ul><li>You have violated someone else’s boundaries </li></ul><ul><li>OR you have violated your...
Guilt What action do you need to take?
Guilt What action do you need to take? <ul><li>Stop violating their boundaries and make amends </li></ul>
Guilt What action do you need to take? <ul><li>OR if it is your own boundaries you are violating,  change your behavior so...
Anxiety
Anxiety What is the message?
Anxiety What is the message?  <ul><li>You are paying attention to something you DON’T want to have happen </li></ul>
Anxiety What action do you need to take?
Anxiety What action do you need to take? <ul><li>Change your focus! </li></ul>
Anxiety What action do you need to take? <ul><li>Stop paying attention to what you DON’T WANT--and start paying attention ...
How do negative emotions get stockpiled? <ul><li>1. We experience a negative emotion in response to some experience we hav...
How do negative emotions get stockpiled? <ul><li>1. We experience a negative emotion in response to some experience we hav...
You don’t need to hang on to  the negative emotion!
The learning is completely separate from the emotion.
The only thing hanging on to the emotion does for you is…
… to remind you to  feel terrible.
Let go of it!
You don’t need to  feel bad.
Figure out the message from the emotion…
Then, figure out what you need  to do about it…
Take appropriate action…
And move on!
Let go of the “emotional clutter”  of negative emotions…
 
For more information about how to clear out YOUR emotional clutter…
Go to http://www.EmotionalClutter.com
This slideshow was brought to you by Linda Pucci, Ph.D. Psychologist & Life Coach Inner Resource Center, LLC www.InnerReso...
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We sabotage our success and happiness every day by hanging on to "emotional clutter"--those negative emotions and limiting beliefs formed from past experiences. This slideshow helps you understand how negative emotions turn into emotional clutter and how to change that by paying attention to the messages from your emotions.

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Get Rid of Emotional Clutter: Part 1--Let Go of the Negative Emotions That Block Your Success & Happiness

  1. 1. Get Rid of Emotional Clutter: PART 1: Let Go of the Negative Emotions That Block Your Success & Happiness
  2. 3. What is Emotional Clutter?
  3. 4. What is Emotional Clutter? <ul><li>Stockpiles of negative emotions and old beliefs that no longer apply </li></ul>
  4. 5. What is Emotional Clutter? <ul><li>Stockpiles of negative emotions and old beliefs that no longer apply </li></ul><ul><li>Anything that clutters up your life </li></ul>
  5. 6. What Does Emotional Clutter Do? <ul><li>Keeps you from seeing what options and resources you have </li></ul>
  6. 7. What Does Emotional Clutter Do? <ul><li>Keeps you from seeing what options and resources you have </li></ul><ul><li>Prevents you from moving forward </li></ul>
  7. 8. What Does Emotional Clutter Do? <ul><li>Keeps you from seeing what options and resources you have </li></ul><ul><li>Prevents you from moving forward </li></ul><ul><li>Keeps you STUCK </li></ul>
  8. 9. Why is it important to do something about it?
  9. 10. If YOU… <ul><li>Feel STUCK </li></ul>
  10. 11. If YOU… <ul><li>Feel STUCK </li></ul><ul><li>Want to be more successful </li></ul>
  11. 12. If YOU… <ul><li>Feel STUCK </li></ul><ul><li>Want to be more successful </li></ul><ul><li>Want to be happier </li></ul>
  12. 13. If YOU… <ul><li>Feel STUCK </li></ul><ul><li>Want to be more successful </li></ul><ul><li>Want to be happier </li></ul><ul><li>Want more satisfying relationships </li></ul>
  13. 14. If YOU… <ul><li>Feel STUCK </li></ul><ul><li>Want to be more successful </li></ul><ul><li>Want to be happier </li></ul><ul><li>Want more satisfying relationships </li></ul><ul><li>Want to be able to live your Life’s Purpose </li></ul>
  14. 15. If YOU… <ul><li>Feel STUCK </li></ul><ul><li>Want to be more successful </li></ul><ul><li>Want to be happier </li></ul><ul><li>Want more satisfying relationships </li></ul><ul><li>Want to be able to live your Life’s Purpose </li></ul><ul><li>You need to get rid of your Emotional Clutter!! </li></ul>
  15. 16. How Emotional Clutter Is Born
  16. 17. Emotional Clutter is the result of…
  17. 18. Emotional Clutter is the result of… <ul><li>1. Negative emotions from past experiences </li></ul>
  18. 19. Emotional Clutter is the result of… <ul><li>1. Negative emotions from past experiences </li></ul><ul><li>AND </li></ul><ul><li>2. Beliefs that are really no longer true. </li></ul>
  19. 20. Emotional Clutter is the result of… <ul><li>1. Negative emotions from past experiences </li></ul><ul><li>AND </li></ul><ul><li>2. Beliefs that are really no longer true </li></ul><ul><li>AND </li></ul><ul><li>3. Failure to enforce boundaries. </li></ul>
  20. 21. Negative Emotions <ul><li>What are they? </li></ul>
  21. 22. Anger
  22. 23. Hurt
  23. 24. Sadness
  24. 25. Fear
  25. 26. Guilt
  26. 27. Anxiety
  27. 28. Our emotions have messages to send us…
  28. 29. What are those messages?
  29. 30. Messages from Emotions
  30. 31. Messages from Emotions <ul><li>Signal that there is something you need to pay attention to </li></ul>
  31. 32. Messages from Emotions <ul><li>Signal that there is something you need to pay attention to </li></ul><ul><li>Tell you to take action </li></ul>
  32. 33. Messages from Emotions <ul><li>Signal that there is something you need to pay attention to </li></ul><ul><li>Tell you to take action </li></ul><ul><li>Once you take action, emotion flows through you and is gone </li></ul>
  33. 34. Let’s look at some examples…
  34. 35. Anger
  35. 36. Anger What is the message?
  36. 37. Anger What is the message? <ul><li>A boundary has been violated </li></ul>
  37. 38. Anger What is the message? <ul><li>A boundary has been violated </li></ul><ul><li> OR </li></ul><ul><li>Someone is being phony with you </li></ul>
  38. 39. Anger What is the action?
  39. 40. Anger What is the action? <ul><li>Set the boundary or enforce the boundary, and the anger will flow through you and disappear. </li></ul>
  40. 41. Hurt
  41. 42. Hurt What is the message?
  42. 43. Hurt What is the message? <ul><li>A boundary has been violated </li></ul>
  43. 44. Hurt What is the message? <ul><li>A boundary has been violated </li></ul><ul><li>You are not being treated respectfully </li></ul>
  44. 45. Hurt What is the action?
  45. 46. Hurt What is the action? <ul><li>Set the boundary or enforce the boundary, and the hurt will flow through you and disappear. </li></ul>
  46. 47. Sadness
  47. 48. Sadness What is the message?
  48. 49. Sadness What is the message? <ul><li>There is a loss to be dealt with </li></ul>
  49. 50. Sadness What is the action?
  50. 51. Sadness What is the action? <ul><li>Deal with the loss—grieve it, resolve it by honoring the loss, figure out the positive learning from it--and the emotion flows on through you </li></ul>
  51. 52. Fear
  52. 53. Fear What is the message?
  53. 54. Fear What is the message? <ul><li>There is danger that needs to be addressed </li></ul>
  54. 55. Fear What is the action?
  55. 56. Fear What is the action? <ul><li>Determine if there is danger and take action to deal with it </li></ul>
  56. 57. Fight or Flight <ul><li>When we feel fear, our bodies are hard-wired to respond with </li></ul><ul><li>FIGHT </li></ul><ul><li>or </li></ul><ul><li>FLIGHT </li></ul>
  57. 58. Fight or Flight <ul><li>Our body gets us ready to either </li></ul><ul><li>Stand and fight </li></ul><ul><li>OR </li></ul><ul><li>Run away and flee </li></ul><ul><li>(All animals have this instinct) </li></ul>
  58. 59. When we stockpile Fear, it can create a 3 rd response to Danger: FREEZE
  59. 60. Freezing when there is danger is not a very helpful response!
  60. 61. When you determine if there is danger--and take action— the fear flows through you and disappears.
  61. 62. Guilt
  62. 63. Guilt What is the message?
  63. 64. Guilt What is the message?
  64. 65. Guilt What is the message? <ul><li>You have violated someone else’s boundaries </li></ul>
  65. 66. Guilt What is the message? <ul><li>You have violated someone else’s boundaries </li></ul><ul><li>OR you have violated your own boundaries </li></ul>
  66. 67. Guilt What action do you need to take?
  67. 68. Guilt What action do you need to take? <ul><li>Stop violating their boundaries and make amends </li></ul>
  68. 69. Guilt What action do you need to take? <ul><li>OR if it is your own boundaries you are violating, change your behavior so that it is in tune with your values </li></ul>
  69. 70. Anxiety
  70. 71. Anxiety What is the message?
  71. 72. Anxiety What is the message? <ul><li>You are paying attention to something you DON’T want to have happen </li></ul>
  72. 73. Anxiety What action do you need to take?
  73. 74. Anxiety What action do you need to take? <ul><li>Change your focus! </li></ul>
  74. 75. Anxiety What action do you need to take? <ul><li>Stop paying attention to what you DON’T WANT--and start paying attention to what you DO WANT. </li></ul>
  75. 76. How do negative emotions get stockpiled? <ul><li>1. We experience a negative emotion in response to some experience we have. </li></ul>
  76. 77. How do negative emotions get stockpiled? <ul><li>1. We experience a negative emotion in response to some experience we have. </li></ul><ul><li>2. We think we need to hang onto the negative emotion in order to remember some important lesson. </li></ul>
  77. 78. You don’t need to hang on to the negative emotion!
  78. 79. The learning is completely separate from the emotion.
  79. 80. The only thing hanging on to the emotion does for you is…
  80. 81. … to remind you to feel terrible.
  81. 82. Let go of it!
  82. 83. You don’t need to feel bad.
  83. 84. Figure out the message from the emotion…
  84. 85. Then, figure out what you need to do about it…
  85. 86. Take appropriate action…
  86. 87. And move on!
  87. 88. Let go of the “emotional clutter” of negative emotions…
  88. 90. For more information about how to clear out YOUR emotional clutter…
  89. 91. Go to http://www.EmotionalClutter.com
  90. 92. This slideshow was brought to you by Linda Pucci, Ph.D. Psychologist & Life Coach Inner Resource Center, LLC www.InnerResourceCenter.com
  91. 93. Watch for Get Rid of Emotional Clutter Part 2 Let go of limiting beliefs that block your success & happiness

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