5 AMAZING TIPS TO HELPYOUR ALCOHOLIC SPOUSE by Jozzy Scott http://alcoholicspousehelp.com
INTRODUCTIONHaving to cope with an alcoholic spouse can really bea concern. We all care to be the most cherishedobject in our spouses’ life but having an alcoholicspouse can indisputably dash this desire. Analcoholic craves to drink more than any other activityand this creates some sort of friction in therelationship with his/her spouse. However, you donot have to stay as though there isn’t anything youcan do about the situation.This presentation provides five of seven amazing tipsto rescue the situation and save your marriage. Thecomplete article is available on this link
1 HELP YOURSELF FIRSTI know you might be thinking, “help myself?” “I amnot the alcoholic here!”. The fact is that if you havebeen living with an alcoholic spouse, there are hightendencies you have also imperceptibly become sickwith your spouse. So you must understand that allthose abuses, insults and chaos must have driftedyour psychology negatively. If you can’t help yourselfget the right frame of mind, you definitely can’t helphim/her stop drinking.After helping yourself, then you are ready for thesecond step.
2 UNDERSTAND THE SITUATION YOU ARE INYou must have a good awareness of the situation inwhich you find yourself. Alcoholism (alcoholdependence) is a chronic illness marked by dependenceon alcohol consumption. It interferes with physical ormental health, and social, family, or job responsibilities.This addiction can result in liver, circulatory, andneurological problems. According to the U.S. NationalInstitute of Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, about 28% ofAmerican adults drink at levels that put them at risk foralcohol dependence and alcohol-related problems.Like the saying in the Al Anon, "You didnt cause it, youcant control it and you cannot cure it." That passes tosay the success of your effort depends on your spouse’scooperation.
3 INTERACTIONAL GROUP PSYCHOTHERAPYJoining a support group like the AlcoholicsAnonymous (Al Anon) can be of immense help inhelping your alcoholic spouse. Members discuss howto deal with alcoholic spouses and family membersand provide support for each other. Encouragingyour spouse to join this support group can be ofimmense help in helping him/her quit drinking. Itscompletely anonymous, extremely supportive andhealing. You can help him/her make time for supportgroup meetings or drive him/her to counselingappointments and so on. Al-Anon meeting areas canbe found at the AA website
4 DONT COVER HIM/HER UPThere are behaviors and actions that many spousesof alcoholics don’t realize enables their alcoholicspouse to drink more. Several ways in which you maybe enabling your spouse to drink is by buying themalcohol, drinking with them, calling the boss and orfamily members for him/her because he/she is toohung over or too drunk to do it him/herself. Lying tofriends, boss, family and co-workers about him/herand his/her drinking problem will also make him/hermore reluctant to quit drinking. You shouldn’t do thisfor him/her. Alcoholics can promise never to drinkagain just to dodge from responsibility. Giving tosuch antics can enable them to see drinking justokay.
5 DON’T BE JUDGMENTAL OR USE LABELSAlcoholics deal with their emotions by drinking andfor that reason it will be detrimental if you passjudgment on your alcoholic spouse or use labels forhim/her. You must understand that alcoholism is adisease and just like you will not judge or use labelsfor a cancer patient, you are not supposed to do foran alcoholic, though the difference there seem to bebetween alcoholism and cancer is the fact that thealcoholic was responsible for this dis-ease. If you uselabels or try to shame your alcoholic spouse, this willfeed his/her alcoholism and give him/her a reason toreach for the bottle. Most alcoholics do not knowwhat else to do in the face of emotions; particularlyfear and shame.
CONCLUSIONThe tips shared in the preceding slides are intendedto help someone whose marriage is tearing apartdue to alcoholism. However, it can be useful forother purpose like when you are trying to help analcoholic child, sibling and so on. The completearticle describes 7 tips and is available at this link.Good Luck!