What are Boundaries?
is your understanding of
are they important to you?
Definition of Boundaries
boundaries are guidelines, rules
or limits that a person creates to identify
for him- or herself what are reasonable,
safe and permissible ways for other
people to behave around him or her and
how he or she will respond when
someone steps outside those limits.”
Definition of Boundaries (cont.)
are an important issue for all
peer support programs. Participants need
to understand that our interactions and
levels of responsibility differ according to
the nature of relationships.”
“Setting boundaries helps both people know what
Clear boundaries keep our relationships healthy.
As a peer educator, both you and your student
will have boundaries
Setting boundaries is an important way for peer
educators and peers to be clear about what to
“The process of you setting limits and honoring your
boundaries is the most healing behavior you can
present to self and others.”1
Knowing when to refer students to pro staff and
“The behavior you express is an important aspect of
Any more reasons?
“Know the limits of the peer support relationship.
Be clear about your role.
Encourage peers to be responsible for their
problems, decisions and actions.
Accept that others may not be ready to face
problems or make changes.
Do not take on too much or try to „save‟ peers by
solving their problems.
personal support if impacted or
stressed by helping a peer.
peers‟ problems with them, rather
than „taking the problems home‟ with
Choose a partner.
Make two parallel lines and stand across from
I will explain the rest.
When we go back to seats we will discuss.
asses your personal beliefs, morals
and feelings. Without knowing these
things you will not be able to establish
and think before you take action.
Even if it is for a second. Reflect on your
beliefs, morals, and feelings.
Limit the amount of personal things you share
about your life.
“As a peer leader it is important to set
physical boundaries including the use to
touch, meeting up between or after class as
well as how to handle flirting.”
Establish how you want to communicate
through social media with your students.
behavior you want your students to
have. If you don‟t do it, they won‟t do it.
from every experience you have.
Not one person is perfect and we will
mistakes, but it is important to learn from
Just say no.
No is not a taboo word.
“By saying „No‟ to more things you have the
time, energy and resources to get really good
at the things you want to say „yes‟ to.
If you find it hard to say „No‟ you won‟t allow
others to step up to the plate and find their
If you don‟t learn how to say „No‟, others will
take you for granted and lose respect for
skills is important to establish
boundaries. People give you signals, both
verbal and nonverbal as to what they are
comfortable or uncomfortable with. You
must learn how to listen to pick these up.
Boundaries are not easy, even for seasoned
Don‟t be afraid to talk to pro-staff about
boundaries if you are in a questionable
Boundaries are important to have an
effective relationship with the students you
are going to be leading.
“There are fine lines while being a Peer
Leader that we need to be aware of. We are
qualified to be a peer and are not trained as
We are not here to be their counselor,
therapist, or anything else above what we are
qualified to do. However as a peer leader we
can guide them in the right direction as to
who they should talk to so they may seek help
(i.e. send them to Health Services or the
Counseling and Wellness Center)”
a partner (someone who you did
not work with in other activities today)
down specific boundaries you as
peer leaders should set and why (Short
hand is fine)
Group Activity. (cont.)
Group 1,3,5.”One of the students that you have
recently helped in your peer supporter capacity has
taken a liking for you. S/he walks to class with you and
emails you often. One day s/he confesses romantic
feelings and asks you out on a date. How would you
feel and think, and what would you do?”
Groups 2 +4 “A few weeks after college commenced,
a first year student came to you with a small personal
problem. You helped him explore it and he resolved
the problem with good results. Since then, he seems
to have become over-dependent on you. He
constantly stops by your room to hang out, brings you
sweets, and talks as if he is your new best friend. How
would you feel and think, and what would you do?”