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ANU MEHTA
presents:
The Healing
Journey:
Choices and
Solutions
after abuse
MOVIE: UNHEARD SCREAM
I could see the broken soul,
The tears in her eyes,
The fear in her heart,
She wanted to trust,
She wanted to believe,
She...
She held her moms hand and asked her,
Where did I go wrong?
Did I do something wrong?
Mom promptly put a finger on her
dau...
If you tell people what happened,
They will make you feel ashamed,
They will call you a brave heart,
And they will fight t...
LIVE, MY CHILD,
BUT BE SILENT TODAY, TOMORROW
and FOREVER,
That’s the only way to live,
That’s is the only way to live.
I ...
I wanted to be understood,
not ridiculed,
I wanted to be loved,
not called a brave heart,
I wanted to belong, not be condo...
What is abuse?
AB + USE
AB = About
BEING USED
TYPES OF ABUSE
• Physical abuse
• Emotional abuse
• Verbal Abuse
• Economic Abuse
• Mental Abuse
• Sexual Abuse
• Self abu...
WHO CAN BE ABUSED?
ANYONE
BOY /GIRL
Is it really about
ARE WE AWARE THAT
WE ARE ABUSING?
ABUSE HAS BECOME
PART OF OUR SYSTEM
•In the name of
discipline
•In the name of love
•In the name of trust
Discipline
Power assertion:
“Spare the rod and spoil the Child.”
Love withdrawal: threatening to
with - hold love
Verbal a...
WHO IS AN ABUSER?
ANYONE
Sexual abuse-
Some one you trust
The abuser may be a:
father
stepfather
sentimental partner
of the mother
mother or
the ba...
WHY ABUSE CONTINUES
• Fear of rejection
• Fear of isolation
• Fear of shame
• Fear of what will people say
• Fear of a tar...
THINKING POINTS
“Is it a coincidence that less than 100
years ago girls married at the age of 12
years and today girls les...
I was only six years
old at that time.
Childhood should
be carefree,
playing in the sun,
not living a
nightmare in the
dar...
My abuser was old enough to be my
grandfather. He was my fathers uncle.
My father was
in between jobs
MY MOM WAS PREGNANT
I was separated from my parents
My abuse started when I went back to visit my family
Life became a
question mark
Why did my mother not choose to see anything?
Am I not important?
Its happening in front of th...
Don’t tell your husband.
He will throw you out
of the house.
I BROKE MY SILENCE
BUT
TODAY
I am fearless
because
I am honest.
No, its not easy
to forget or forgive
Family Patterns
Pattern repeated again in
the next generation and in
older generation before
These are incomplete
stories that nature trie...
“Abuse is a ‘huge silent killer’.
It is a precursor
to many health issues
e.g. bipolar disorder,
Parkinson's disease, poly...
Awareness
Acceptance
Action
WHY - Why do you want the change?
HOW - How will you take responsibility?
WHAT - What will you do?
ACTION
What action will...
Awareness :
What is abuse?
Who can be abused?
How does an abuser look and
behave?
How does a victim behave?
How can we mak...
Acceptance:
Acceptance means taking responsibility
to tackle a problem.
This comprises of making:
Choices
Changes
Chances
Victim has to know what responsibility to take:
Unanswered can create conflict
Why he/she got abused?
What was her/his fau...
IF I KNOW THE WHY?
I can take responsibility
Action:
means the process of doing something,
typically to achieve an AIM, which needs
Courage
Compassion
Connection
Iamnotavictim
Itwasn’tmyfault
Icantrust
Iamempowered
Iamsupported
Iwillalwaysbesafe
“So many unheard screams,
in silence screams spoke louder than
words could ever speak.
Today together let us take a pledge...
“Everyone has the right
to be treated like a
human being.”
Anu Mehta
META-health Master trainer
Anumehta.co.in
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Healing Journey – Choices & Solutions After Abuse

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Healing Journey – Choices & Solutions After Abuse By Ms. Anu Mehta.

Healing journey - Choices and solutions after abuse.


The panic that surrounds when we talk about abuse, the queasy feeling
associated with it, the gripping of anxiety and discomfort on reading
the morning headlines instantly instills fear and in some way revives
the memories otherwise subdued or suppressed long back.


Before we talk about “abuse” let us understand what ‘abuse’ really
means. On breaking the word abuse into “Ab” and “use”, “Ab” means
“about” while use refers to “being used”. Hence Abuse literally means
being used in a way that is not acceptable”. This may be of various
types emotional, physical, mental, verbal, substance, sexual and
economic, abuse are some of them. All of the above types are equally
damaging. Abuse could be inflicted by self or others. ‘Self abuse’
means behavior that causes damage or harm to one-self.

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Healing Journey – Choices & Solutions After Abuse

  1. 1. ANU MEHTA presents: The Healing Journey: Choices and Solutions after abuse
  2. 2. MOVIE: UNHEARD SCREAM
  3. 3. I could see the broken soul, The tears in her eyes, The fear in her heart, She wanted to trust, She wanted to believe, She wanted to live, But she had trusted earlier, and paid heavily for the trust she had laid in people she loved, She deserved to live and really live, Not die everyday, She had dared trust and paid heavily.
  4. 4. She held her moms hand and asked her, Where did I go wrong? Did I do something wrong? Mom promptly put a finger on her daughter’s lips, And said SHHHHHHHHHHHH… Don’t say anything to anyone, People don’t want to hear you, You will become a part of newspaper clippings only, You need to live.
  5. 5. If you tell people what happened, They will make you feel ashamed, They will call you a brave heart, And they will fight their abuse through you, They will kill you with words, looks and fear.
  6. 6. LIVE, MY CHILD, BUT BE SILENT TODAY, TOMORROW and FOREVER, That’s the only way to live, That’s is the only way to live. I have also lived in hiding, I also went through what you went through in silence, For people are still not ready to deal with broken souls.
  7. 7. I wanted to be understood, not ridiculed, I wanted to be loved, not called a brave heart, I wanted to belong, not be condoned, Today I give you my silence to protect you, In silence we understand each other perfectly, Our souls belong to the souls of the children of silence. Anu Mehta
  8. 8. What is abuse? AB + USE AB = About BEING USED
  9. 9. TYPES OF ABUSE • Physical abuse • Emotional abuse • Verbal Abuse • Economic Abuse • Mental Abuse • Sexual Abuse • Self abuse
  10. 10. WHO CAN BE ABUSED? ANYONE BOY /GIRL
  11. 11. Is it really about
  12. 12. ARE WE AWARE THAT WE ARE ABUSING?
  13. 13. ABUSE HAS BECOME PART OF OUR SYSTEM •In the name of discipline •In the name of love •In the name of trust
  14. 14. Discipline Power assertion: “Spare the rod and spoil the Child.” Love withdrawal: threatening to with - hold love Verbal abuse: calling names - “I WISH YOU HAD NEVER BEEN BORN.”
  15. 15. WHO IS AN ABUSER? ANYONE
  16. 16. Sexual abuse- Some one you trust The abuser may be a: father stepfather sentimental partner of the mother mother or the baby sitter
  17. 17. WHY ABUSE CONTINUES • Fear of rejection • Fear of isolation • Fear of shame • Fear of what will people say • Fear of a tarnished image • Fear of being alone
  18. 18. THINKING POINTS “Is it a coincidence that less than 100 years ago girls married at the age of 12 years and today girls less then 12 years are getting abducted, raped and sold for flesh trade? Have things really changed?” Anu Mehta META-Health Mater trainer Anumehta.co.in
  19. 19. I was only six years old at that time. Childhood should be carefree, playing in the sun, not living a nightmare in the darkness of the soul.” Abuse only ended when I was 11 years old
  20. 20. My abuser was old enough to be my grandfather. He was my fathers uncle.
  21. 21. My father was in between jobs
  22. 22. MY MOM WAS PREGNANT
  23. 23. I was separated from my parents
  24. 24. My abuse started when I went back to visit my family
  25. 25. Life became a question mark Why did my mother not choose to see anything? Am I not important? Its happening in front of them, do they approve of it? Should I tell them anything? Am I a bad girl? Did I do something wrong?
  26. 26. Don’t tell your husband. He will throw you out of the house.
  27. 27. I BROKE MY SILENCE BUT
  28. 28. TODAY I am fearless because I am honest.
  29. 29. No, its not easy to forget or forgive
  30. 30. Family Patterns
  31. 31. Pattern repeated again in the next generation and in older generation before These are incomplete stories that nature tries to complete by repeating the pattern
  32. 32. “Abuse is a ‘huge silent killer’. It is a precursor to many health issues e.g. bipolar disorder, Parkinson's disease, polycystic ovaries, obesity, thyroid, endometriosis, pimples, infertility, skin issues, and the list goes on.” Anu Mehta META-health Master trainer Anumehta.co.in
  33. 33. Awareness Acceptance Action
  34. 34. WHY - Why do you want the change? HOW - How will you take responsibility? WHAT - What will you do? ACTION What action will you take? Emotional Freedom Techniques Advanced Clearing Energetic
  35. 35. Awareness : What is abuse? Who can be abused? How does an abuser look and behave? How does a victim behave? How can we make her/him safe? Who can she/he seek help from?
  36. 36. Acceptance: Acceptance means taking responsibility to tackle a problem. This comprises of making: Choices Changes Chances
  37. 37. Victim has to know what responsibility to take: Unanswered can create conflict Why he/she got abused? What was her/his fault? What made him/her create this story in their life? Am I a bad child? Do I deserve punishment? Or was it past life karma?
  38. 38. IF I KNOW THE WHY? I can take responsibility
  39. 39. Action: means the process of doing something, typically to achieve an AIM, which needs Courage Compassion Connection
  40. 40. Iamnotavictim Itwasn’tmyfault Icantrust Iamempowered Iamsupported Iwillalwaysbesafe
  41. 41. “So many unheard screams, in silence screams spoke louder than words could ever speak. Today together let us take a pledge to speak up so that this never happens again. Break your silence; and save the child in you.” Anu Mehta META-health Master trainer Anumehta.co.in
  42. 42. “Everyone has the right to be treated like a human being.” Anu Mehta META-health Master trainer Anumehta.co.in

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