15 Qualities every Family should see in a Dad


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    1. 1. family month: "be fruitful and multiply. Deut 6:1-12 "Now this is the commandment, and these are the statutes and judgments which the LORD your God has commanded to teach you, that you may observe them in the land which you are crossing over to possess, 2that you may fear the LORD your God, to keep all His statutes and His commandments which I command you, you and your son and your grandson, all the days of your life, and that your days may be prolonged. 3Therefore hear, O Israel, and be careful to observe it, that it may be well with you, and that you may multiply greatly as the LORD God of your fathers has promised you--"a land flowing with milk and honey.' 4"Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one! F8 5You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. 6"And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. 7You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. 8You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. 9You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates. 10 "So it shall be, when the LORD your God brings you into the land of which He swore to your fathers, to Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, to give you large and beautiful cities which you did not build, 11houses full of all good things, which you did not fill, hewn- out wells which you did not dig, vineyards and olive trees which you did not plant--when you have eaten and are full-- 12then beware, lest you forget the LORD who brought you out of the land of Egypt, from the house of bondage.
    2. 2. family month: "be fruitful and multiply. *1 I’m born again and daily walk with God It creates in the family a hunger for God. When the mother of the family is the first person to accept Christ, the rest of the family will convert 17% of the time. When a child is first, the family follows 31% of the time. However, when the father turns to Christ first, the family will follow him 93% of the time. Genesis 6:9 – “These are the records of the generations of Noah. Noah was a righteous man, blameless in his time; Noah walked with God.”
    3. 3. family month: "be fruitful and multiply. *2 I lead my home as a Godly man under Godly principles It teaches children respect for authority; it teaches sons how to be godly leaders as husbands and daughters godly followers as wives. Most Christian parents admit that the church and the Bible do not influence their parenting style. Only 33% of born-again parents cited their faith as the dominant influence on how they relate to their children. Many parents (45%) listed their own upbringing as the main influence, followed by the example of friends and relatives (35%), and printed material on parenting (34%). Nearly 80% said they thought the church should take a more active role in helping people become better parents. 1 Corinthians 11:3 – In a marriage relationship, there is authority from Christ to husband, and from husband to wife. The authority of Christ is the authority of God.
    4. 4. family month: "be fruitful and multiply. *3 I obey the Word in word and deed It will build respect for God’s Word, and it will also build respect in the children for a dad who reads, studies, and obeys God’s Word. “The only Scripture you believe is the one you obey.” Ed Cole Heb 11:30-39 By faith the walls of Jericho fell down after they were encircled for seven days. 31By faith the harlot Rahab did not perish with those who did not believe, when she had received the spies with peace. 32And what more shall I say? For the time would fail me to tell of Gideon and Barak and Samson and Jephthah, also of David and Samuel and the prophets: 33who through faith subdued kingdoms, worked righteousness, obtained promises, stopped the mouths of lions, 34quenched the violence of fire, escaped the edge of the sword, out of weakness were made strong, became valiant in battle, turned to flight the armies of the aliens. 35Women received their dead raised to life again. Others were tortured, not accepting deliverance, that they might obtain a better resurrection. 36Still others had trial of mockings and scourgings, yes, and of chains and imprisonment. 37They were stoned, they were sawn in two, were tempted, F48 were slain with the sword. They wandered about in sheepskins and goatskins, being destitute, afflicted, tormented-- 38of whom the world was not worthy. They wandered in deserts and mountains, in dens and caves of the earth. 39And all these, having obtained a good testimony through faith
    5. 5. family month: "be fruitful and multiply. *4 I live by biblical conviction and principles It will encourage family members, especially the children, to form their own biblical commitments and live by them. “You will never really know what kind of parent you were or if you did it right or wrong. Never. And you will worry about this and them as long as you live. But when your children have children and you watch them do what they do, you will have part of an answer.” - Robert Fulghum Joshua 24:15 – "If you decide that it's a bad thing to worship GOD, then choose a god you'd rather serve--and do it today. Choose one of the gods your ancestors worshiped from the country beyond The River, or one of the gods of the Amorites, on whose land you're now living. As for me and my family, we'll worship GOD."
    6. 6. family month: "be fruitful and multiply. A Father’s Guide to Making a Delinquent Child 1. Begin at infancy to give the child everything he wants. In this way he will grow up to believe the world owes him a living. 2. When he picks up bad words, laugh at him. That will make him think he’s amusing. 3. Never give him any spiritual training. Wait until he’s 21 and then let him decide for himself. 4. Pick up everything he leaves lying about – books, shoes, clothes; do everything for him so that he will be experienced in throwing all responsibility onto others. 5. Quarrel frequently in his presence. In this way he will not be too shocked when the home is broken later. 6. Give the child all the pocket money he wants. Never let him earn his own. Why should he have things as tough as you had them? Satisfy his every craving for food, drink and comfort. Denial may lead to harmful frustration. 8. Take his side against neighbours, teachers, policemen. They are all prejudiced against your child anyway. 9. When he gets into serious trouble, apologize for yourself by saying, “I could never do anything for him.” 10. Prepare for a life of grief. You are bound to have it. [Houston Police Dept.]
    7. 7. family month: "be fruitful and multiply. *5 I love unconditionally It builds acceptance and a sense of self-worth. Ways to Say “I Love You” for Dads 1. Begin each day by hugging your wife and each child, and telling them you love them... 19. End each day by hugging your wife and each child, and by telling them you love them. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 – Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn't want what it doesn't have. Love doesn't strut, Doesn't have a swelled head, 5Doesn't force itself on others, Isn't always "me first," Doesn't fly off the handle, Doesn't keep score of the sins of others, 6Doesn't revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, 7Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end. 8Love never dies.
    8. 8. family month: "be fruitful and multiply. *6 I display my love for their mother It builds security in the life of the family. “How can a woman be the glory of the man unless that man is becoming the glory of God by being conformed to the image of Christ?” Ephesians 5: 25 – Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church--a love marked by giving, not getting.
    9. 9. family month: "be fruitful and multiply. *7 I exercise godly discipline in love It builds a sound relationship with the children for future responsibilities and relationships. The father must bring the discipline in the home. Fathers raise sons. Mothers raise daughters. Ephesians 6:4 –Fathers, don't exasperate your children by coming down hard on them. Take them by the hand and lead them in the way of the Master.
    10. 10. family month: "be fruitful and multiply. *8 I have a servant spirit It builds a family attitude of humility and willingness to serve others just like dad. The father must bring the discipline in the home. Fathers raise sons. Mothers raise daughters. Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.
    11. 11. family month: "be fruitful and multiply. The Beatitudes of a Godly Man 1. Blessed is the man who puts God’s business above all other business. 2. Blessed is the man who brings his family to church rather than sending them. 3. Blessed is the man who gives to God cheerfully rather than withholding selfishly. 4. Blessed is the man who has a passion to help rather than be helped. 5. Blessed is the man who can see his own faults before he sees the faults of others. 6. Blessed is the man who, when wrong, can say, “I’m sorry.” 7. Blessed is the man who is willing and desirous to be a right example to every boy he meets. 8. Blessed is the man who considers success in God’s eyes more valuable than success in the world’s eyes. 9. Blessed is the man who is most concerned about winning souls for Christ, beginning with his own family. 10. Blessed is the man to whom God can say, “Well done, my good and faithful servant.”
    12. 12. family month: "be fruitful and multiply. *9 I confess my failures and am willing to say, “I’m sorry, I was wrong” It creates openness and respect by the children towards dad. In a survey done by family-life specialist Delmer Holbrook, three things are said most often by fathers in responding to their kids; 1. “I’m too tired.” 2. “We don’t have enough money.” 3. “Keep quiet.” James 5:16 – Confess to one another therefore your faults (your slips, your false steps, your offenses, your sins) and pray [also] for one another, that you may be healed and restored [to a spiritual tone of mind and heart]. The earnest (heartfelt, continued) prayer of a righteous man makes tremendous power available [dynamic in its working].
    13. 13. family month: "be fruitful and multiply. *10 I have a forgiving spirit It creates the security of genuine love and needed assurance for your children. You will never forgive anyone as much as God in Christ has already forgiven you! Ephesians 4:32 – Be gentle with one another, sensitive. Forgive one another as quickly and thoroughly as God in Christ forgave you.
    14. 14. family month: "be fruitful and multiply. *11 I am a worshipper full of thanksgiving & gratitude It builds an attitude of gratitude in the family, and fosters joy and thankfulness. A false sense of entitlement comes from the thinking that everyone should be doing everything for me because I am disadvantaged. “Timing is the essential ingredient in success: Being the right man, at the right time, in the right place.” Col 3:15 Let the peace of Christ keep you in tune with each other, in step with each other. None of this going off and doing your own thing. And cultivate thankfulness.
    15. 15. family month: "be fruitful and multiply. *12 I listen The family gains a sense of personal value and importance. Cornell University conducted a study of the amount of time middle class fathers spent with their small children each day. The result averaged out at 37.7 seconds a day. And yet, before the test, the fathers guessed they spend something like 40 minutes. James 1:19-21 Post this at all the intersections, dear friends: Lead with your ears, follow up with your tongue, and let anger straggle along in the rear. 20God's righteousness doesn't grow from human anger. 21So throw all spoiled virtue and cancerous evil in the garbage. In simple humility, let our gardener, God, landscape you with the Word, making a salvation- garden of your life.
    16. 16. family month: "be fruitful and multiply. The Greatest Man The greatest man I never knew lived just down the hall And every day we said, “Hello,” though we never touched at all. He was in his paper and I was in my room. How was I to know he thought I hung the moon. The greatest man I never knew, I guess I’ll never know. He worked late almost every night He never had too much to say, too much was on his mind. Now it seems so sad that everything he gave us took all he had. Days faded to years and the memories to black and white. He grew cold like an old winter wind that blew across my life. The greatest words I never heard, I guess I’ll never hear. The man I thought would never die has been dead almost a year. He was good at business, but there was business left to do. He never said he loved me; guess he thought I knew. - Reba McIntyre
    17. 17. family month: "be fruitful and multiply. *13 I keep my word It builds faithfulness, truthfulness, and responsibility in the children. “The path to destruction is denial – deception – distraction – dislocation – disruption – destruction.” “Every man is limited by three things in life: The knowledge in his mind, the worth of his character, the principles upon which he is building his life.” Prov 6:16-19 Here are six things GOD hates, and one more that he loathes with a passion: 17eyes that are arrogant, a tongue that lies, hands that murder the innocent, 18a heart that hatches evil plots, feet that race down a wicked track, 19a mouth that lies under oath, a troublemaker in the family.
    18. 18. family month: "be fruitful and multiply. A Christian Father’s “10 Commandments” 1. Thou shalt hold no other group more important than the family unit, in all thy ways being faithful to it. 2. Thou shalt teach thy sons and daughters to love, respect, and obey their parents. 3. Thou shalt be a loving and considerate husband. 4. Thou shalt not speak in a manner unbecoming to a Christian gentlemen. 5. Thou shalt make Sunday a day set aside for God and worship as a family. 6. Thou shalt provide for thy family – spiritually and physically. 7. Thou shalt promote and lead family worship in thy home. 8. Thou shalt be honest in all thy dealings. 9. Thou shalt respect the desires and freedoms of thy family as individuals. 10. Thou shalt be the head of thy household while leading it with love.
    19. 19. family month: "be fruitful and multiply. *14 I pray for and with my children It will teach the family to trust in and depend on God to meet their needs. “The absence of prayer is testimony to your ability; the presence of prayer is testimony to God’s ability.” James 4:1-3 – Where do you think all these appalling wars and quarrels come from? Do you think they just happen? Think again. They come about because you want your own way, and fight for it deep inside yourselves. 2You lust for what you don't have and are willing to kill to get it. You want what isn't yours and will risk violence to get your hands on it. You wouldn't think of just asking God for it, would you? 3And why not? Because you know you'd be asking for what you have no right to. You're spoiled children, each wanting your own way.
    20. 20. family month: "be fruitful and multiply. A survey was taken of twenty-five Christian professional people to ascertain the most important activities and behaviours fathers could engage in with their children. The survey revealed these activities/ behaviours to be most important in the opinion of these Christian professionals: 1) hug/kiss 2) attend church/Sunday School together 3) pray together 4) counsel with child 5) have child sit on father’s lap 6) have deep conversations 7) have father attend school activities 8) discuss sexual issues 9) read Bible together 10) work on a hobby together
    21. 21. family month: "be fruitful and multiply. *15 One who is spirit-filled and seeking to be like Jesus It will give the family a visible example of a godly, Christ-like individual. For that example to be the husband/father would be most pleasing to our Lord and Saviour. “A little girl followed her father in newly-planted clumps of St. Augustine grass. She stepped exactly where he stepped. She said, “Daddy, if you don’t get mud on your feet, I won’t get any mud on me!” Gal 5:22-23 But what happens when we live God's way? He brings gifts into our lives, much the same way that fruit appears in an orchard--things like affection for others, exuberance about life, serenity. We develop a willingness to stick with things, a sense of compassion in the heart, and a conviction that a basic holiness permeates things and people. We find ourselves involved in loyal commitments, 23not needing to force our way in life, able to marshal and direct our energies wisely.