Use of self and self disclosure  in coaching Marjorie Shackleton & Marion Gillie  AoEC Conference 2010
Our Premise <ul><li>Change happens in relationship:  “self” is a process </li></ul>Use of Self and Self Disclosure in Coac...
Why don’t coaches disclose? <ul><li>Belief that their thoughts / images are not relevant </li></ul><ul><li>Would take focu...
Using self disclosure… <ul><li>To use self disclosure in coaching, consider </li></ul><ul><li>WHAT  to disclose </li></ul>...
So, Use of Self and Self Disclosure in Coaching. Marjorie Shackleton & Marion Gillie 2010 What’s going on for me What’s ha...
Guidelines for practice <ul><li>Tune into yourself </li></ul><ul><li>Selectively disclose </li></ul><ul><li>Trust the vali...
<ul><li>These slides were used as part of a workshop on  Use of Self and Self-Disclosure in Coaching  at the AoEC Conferen...
Use of self and self disclosure in coaching. Marjorie Shackleton & Marion Gillie . AoEC conference, September 2010 Marion ...
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  1. 1. Use of self and self disclosure in coaching Marjorie Shackleton & Marion Gillie AoEC Conference 2010
  2. 2. Our Premise <ul><li>Change happens in relationship: “self” is a process </li></ul>Use of Self and Self Disclosure in Coaching. Marjorie Shackleton & Marion Gillie 2010 How I “show up” is critical All my images / intuitions / thoughts could be relevant
  3. 3. Why don’t coaches disclose? <ul><li>Belief that their thoughts / images are not relevant </li></ul><ul><li>Would take focus away from client </li></ul><ul><li>Don’t know how to do it with skill </li></ul>Use of Self and Self Disclosure in Coaching. Marjorie Shackleton & Marion Gillie 2010
  4. 4. Using self disclosure… <ul><li>To use self disclosure in coaching, consider </li></ul><ul><li>WHAT to disclose </li></ul><ul><li>IF and WHEN to disclose </li></ul><ul><li>HOW to disclose </li></ul><ul><li>HOW MUCH to disclose </li></ul>Use of Self and Self Disclosure in Coaching. Marjorie Shackleton & Marion Gillie 2010
  5. 5. So, Use of Self and Self Disclosure in Coaching. Marjorie Shackleton & Marion Gillie 2010 What’s going on for me What’s happening between us What I observe in my client Then… What of my reaction might be useful to my client?
  6. 6. Guidelines for practice <ul><li>Tune into yourself </li></ul><ul><li>Selectively disclose </li></ul><ul><li>Trust the validity of your disclosure </li></ul><ul><li>Check the impact on the client </li></ul><ul><li>Be prepared to ‘let go’ of your reaction </li></ul><ul><li>Use supervision to talk through your own strong reactions. </li></ul>Use of Self and Self Disclosure in Coaching. Marjorie Shackleton & Marion Gillie 2010
  7. 7. <ul><li>These slides were used as part of a workshop on Use of Self and Self-Disclosure in Coaching at the AoEC Conference 2010. </li></ul><ul><li>A copy of the paper written for the workshop is available at </li></ul><ul><li>http://www.thegilliepartnership.co.uk/Use-of-self-and-self-disclosure-in-coaching-AoEC-conference-workshop.html </li></ul>Use of Self and Self Disclosure in Coaching. Marjorie Shackleton & Marion Gillie 2010
  8. 8. Use of self and self disclosure in coaching. Marjorie Shackleton & Marion Gillie . AoEC conference, September 2010 Marion Gillie www.TheGilliePartnership.co.uk Marjorie Shackleton [email_address]

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