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  2. 2. Everyone has known a “nice girl”. She is the woman who will over compensate, giving everything a man she barely knows, without him having to invest much in the relationship. She is the woman who gives blindly because she wants so much for her attentions to be reciprocated, she is the woman who goes along with what she thinks her man will like or want because she wants to keep the relationship at all costs. Every woman, at some point, has been there. Why does a man run from a woman who chases him? He runs because of woman’s behavior doesn’t suggest that she places a high value on herself. The fact that she is willing to overcompensate to a virtual stranger immediately suggests one of the things. He either assumes she is desperate or he’ll assume she’s willing to sleep with all men right away or both. What gets lost is his appreciation for her extra effect. A dream girl, and the other hand, won’t kill herself to impress anyone. This is why the woman he really fall in love with doesn’t serve a four-course meal and won’t see her breaking out the fancy China, either. She’ll start out cooking him a one-course meal (popcorn or chips) no fancy doilies. Six months later, the same woman throws together a meal and puts down a hot plate in front of him and what does he say to himself? “Man! I’m special!” It doesn’t matter if it is rich with tomato sauce, he’ll say, “this is the best rice I have ever had in my life”…! Now he feels like a king. And the only difference is the amount of time and effort he had to invest, first he didn’t get it all right up front and he appreciated it more. 2
  3. 3. This isn’t about how to play a game or how to manipulate someone. This is about whether you are genuinely needy, or whether you can genuinely show him that u will be an equal partner in the relationship. It’s about whether you are capable of holding your own in a relationship. What would happen if you let him know from day one that you are willing to bend over backward? He would think you are desperate, and he would want to see just how far u would be willing to bend. It is a basic human nature. The more malleable u would be become, the more he would expect you to bend. He will instantly perceive you as a Duracell battery, as in, “just how far she will go? How much can I get out of her? Nice girls need to know what a bitch understands. Overcompensating or being too eager to please will lessen a man’s respect; it will give the kiss of death to his attraction, and it will put a time limit on the relationship. The nice girl makes the mistake of being available all the time. “I don’t want to play games” she says. So, she let him see how afraid she is to be without him and he soon come to feel as though he has a 100% hold on her. This is often the point when women begin to complain “He doesn’t make enough time for me. He is not as romantic as he used to be”. While the bitch is more selective about her availability, she is available sometimes; other times she’s not. But she is nice. Nice enough, that is, to consider his preference for when he would like to see her so that she can sometimes accommodate them. Translation? No 100% hold. 3
  4. 4. Your time with him is telling. The nice girl sits in a chair after a week of knowing the guy, bored out of her mind as he does something that interests him. He may be watching sports on TV, cleaning his fishing gear, or drinking with his buddies, she is miserable but does not say a peep, instead, she tries to make the best of it and twiddle her thumbs politely, just so she can be in his company. But the bitch, on the other hand, makes plenty of peeps. In fact she is bitching the whole way through. This is not a bad thing, because then he knows he can’t walk all over her. But remember, a mental challenge has little to do with being verbally combative. It has to do with your actions and how much of yourself you are willing to give up. A man’s love comes from his stomach,” they say. That is true, but no one said to slave for six hours to feed him. Whether he eats out or your order takes out, the stomach is full, and there is plenty of love to go around. Rule of thumb, if it is warm, he will eat it. The rest is wasted effort. Women are conditioned to give themselves away. I have yet to see a man’s magazine with an article on how to cook a woman a four-course meal. I raised the issue of cooking because it is one of many ways women overcompensate. This doesn’t mean you should forgo cooking altogether perhaps it is your anniversary, and you have been together a whole year or perhaps it is his birthday, and you want to do something special for him. 4
  5. 5. 4. THE BIGGEST VARIABLE BETWEEN A BITCH AND A WOMAN WHO IS TOO NICE IS FEAR. THE BITCH SHOWS THAT SHE’S NOT AFRAID TO BE WITHOUT HIM Margaret Atwood said, “Fear has a smell as love does” it is said that excitement and fear come from the same part of the brain. When a man is slightly afraid of losing a woman, his excitement is picked. His psyche is like a plant. It needs water but also air to breathe. To give a man too much reassurance too soon is the same as over watering a plant it kills it. One of the things women have to get out of their mindset is the notion of what a bitch is. A bitch is nice, she is as sweet as a Georgia peach, she smiles and she is feminine, she just doesn’t make decisions based on the fear of losing a man. The difference between the bitch and the nice is not so much in their personalities or in their demeanor. It has nothing to do with how abrasive a woman is. A bitch is bitch with her actions, because she is not willing to give herself up. 5
  6. 6. 5. IF THE CHOICE IS BETWEEN HER DIGNITY AND HAVING A RELATIONSHIP, THE BITCH WILL PRIORITIZE HER DIGNITY ABOVE ALL ELSE The bitch remains the person she is throughout her relationship with a man., she doesn’t lose her friends, she doesn’t give up her career or her hobbies. She doesn’t give up all of her time or bend over backward and unlike the nice girl she is not too tolerant of disrespect. She also keeps her edge and has enormous self respect; she holds the conviction that her self-worth governs her decisions. Because she is not afraid, ironically he becomes afraid to lose her. Because she is not needy, he starts to need her. Because she is not dependent on him, he begins to depend on her. It’s like a reverse magnet. The person who is least dependent on the outcome of the relationship will automatically draw the other person in. 6
  7. 7. I will conclude this presentation by re-defining the word Bitch Think of it as a “term of endearment”. A bitch is not a woman who speaks in a harsh tone of voice or nags. It is not a woman who is abrasive or undue. She is polite but clear, she communicates directly with a man, in much the same way men communicate with one another. In this way, it’s easier for a man to deal with her than with a woman who waffles or appear too emotional. The bitch knows what she likes and has an easier time expressing it directly. As a result, she usually gets what she wants. 7
  8. 8. 8 1. She maintains her independence It doesn’t matter if she is the CEO of a company or a waitress at a bar. She earns an honest living, she has honour, and she isn’t standing there with her hand out. 2. She doesn’t pursue him The moon and the sun and the stars don’t revolve around him. She doesn’t make her date with him when her horoscope advices that his big Mercury is about to retrograde in her little Venus. She doesn’t chase him or keeps tabs on him. He is not the centre of the world. 3. She is Mysterious (unpredictable) There is a difference between honesty and disclosure. She is honest butt does not reveal everything; she isn’t verbally putting her cards on the table. Familiarity breeds contempt and predictability breeds boredom. 4. She leaves him wanting She doesn’t see him every night or leave long messages on his machine. She isn’t on a first-name basis with his secretary in one week. Men equate longing with love, longing is good. 5. She doesn’t let him see her sweat She Keeps communication from getting messy and avoids communication when upset. When she clears her head, she is succinct and speaks in a “bottom line” way. 6. She remains in control of her time She takes it slowly, especially when he wants to hurry. She moves to her rhythm not his, preventing him from taking control of her. 7. She maintains a sense of humor A sense of humor lets him know she is detached. However, she doesn’t treat disrespect as a laughing matter.
  9. 9. 9 8. She place a high value on herself When he gives her compliments, she says thank you. She doesn’t talk him out of it; she doesn’t ask what the ex looked like and doesn’t compete with other women. 9. She is passionate about something other than him When he feels he isn’t the “be all and end all” of her existence, it makes her more desirable. Staying busy ensures she isn’t resentful if he is unavailable. He doesn’t have a monopoly on the rent space in her head. He doesn’t get park space, and he doesn’t get boardwalk. He gets one of those little purple properties next to GO. 10.She treats her body like a finely tuned machine She maintains her appearance and health. A person’s self-respect is reflected in how he or she maintains physical appearance. If he tells her he doesn’t like red lipstick, she wears it anyway if it makes her feel good.

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