-God designed mankind to feel love, to be loved and also to give love. -Many wounds come from childhood where there has been lack of love, lack of affection and acknowledgment. This lack creates a void in the heart that remains as the years go by. -Usually people try to fill the void with secondary things and therby exposing themselves to serious sin. Many go in to a marriage under this condition thinking the marriage will help them forget what they suffered in childhood. This actually makes things worse. -Wounds of the spirit go beyond memory and are deeper than even a conscious mind can fathom. In most cases, these wounds didn’t even register in our memory because we were probably so young that we don’t remember the events.
Time will not heal, instead years go by and the wounds become even deeper than they were in the beginning. Causes of rejection: -When a pregnant woman doesn’t want her child -When children are born but not accepted because of their gender or due to the financial situation at the home -When the parents show preference to one child over another -When children are publicly embarrassed or shamed
Blaming others: “It’s your fault, you did this to me, you said this to me, you don’t love me, etc. -Don’t blame your parents, spouse, sister or brother, friends, etc. -married couples, parenting depends on both parents and it’s important for each parent to fulfill their proper roll.
-Words can be very powerful as they continue to echo in the minds of people becoming an entrenched wound. The result is that people then become resentful and desire revenge, breaking relationships.
Mark 11:25 “Whenever you stand praying, forgive if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father who is in heaven will also forgive you your transgressions.”
Matthew 13:52 (New Living Translation) 52 Then he added, “Every teacher of religious law who becomes a disciple in the Kingdom of Heaven is like a homeowner who brings from his storeroom new gems of truth as well as old.”
2 Corinthians 5:17 “Therefore is anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come.” -Restore your personal relationship with God.
Colossians 3:13 <ul><li>“ Bear with one another and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” </li></ul>
Proverbs 18:14 <ul><li>“ The human spirit can endure a sick body, but who can bear a crushed spirit?” </li></ul><ul><li>The worst wounds a person can have are the ones affecting the soul. </li></ul>
Common Causes for a Wounded Spirit <ul><li>1. Rejection </li></ul><ul><li>The general cause for rejection is a lack of love. </li></ul><ul><li>The blood that Jesus bled from His heart is to heal our rejection! </li></ul>
2. Anger <ul><li>This is an uncontrolled attitude in someone’s character. It is a sign of weakness. </li></ul><ul><li>“ Let all bitterness & wrath & anger & clamor & slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.” Eph. 4:31-32 </li></ul>
3. Blaming Others <ul><li>This is when people tend to justify themselves and blame others: </li></ul><ul><li>It’s important to acknowledge our own mistakes and ask ourselves where did we go wrong. </li></ul>
4. Hurtful Words <ul><li>Some of the deepest wounds are caused by words spoken many years ago but are still alive in their hearts. </li></ul><ul><li>Forgiveness and canceling hurtful words are imperative for healing. </li></ul>
5. Physical Abuse <ul><li>“ For he has not despised or disdained the suffering of the afflicted one; he has not hidden his face from him but has listened to his cry for help.” Psalm 22:24 </li></ul>
Steps for Emotional Healing <ul><li>1. Forgive others </li></ul><ul><li>If you feel you’ve been offended, forgive with all your heart, even those who have rejected you or wounded you. </li></ul><ul><li>Mark 11:25 </li></ul>
2. Renounce the temptation to keep anything in your heart that may produce bitterness, hatred or rebellion. <ul><li>Matthew 13:52 </li></ul><ul><li>Do a spring cleaning of your soul & take out anything old & keep only the new. </li></ul>
3. Forgive yourself. <ul><li>Romans 8:1 “There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” </li></ul><ul><li>Don’t let your thoughts accuse you nor let the mistakes you made in the past condemn you. </li></ul>
4. Return to Jesus with all your heart. <ul><li>Jesus said in Matthew 11:28, “Come to me all who are weary and heavy laden and I will give you rest.” </li></ul>