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 Any culture that went the way of neglecting the

heterosexual marital norm quickly declined BECAUSE
the children had eve...
From this
Two opposite-sex adults
making a commitment to
work together to fulfil the
RIGHT of their future
biological chil...
What happened was the reverse.
The research shows less
heterosexuals getting married in
the countries where redefinition
h...
Rates of heterosexual
marriage fell sharply –
5% a year
This compares to no
drop in rates of
marriage in
neighbouring
Port...
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5.5
5

Finland
Germany

4.5

Holland (2000)
4

Belgium (2003)
Canada 2005

3.5
3
2000

2005

2011
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




There aren’t any studies done on why, in
marriage redefined countries, do a greater
number of heterosexual couples...
 For thousands of years, marriage has primarily

been about adults creating the best protection
for their biological chil...
Just as ALL species have found their best way of
raising the next generation (e.g.; Matriarchal herds of
elephants; Male d...
 The recent growth in the belief that marriage is

primarily about ‘true love’ between adults, etc
 The social security ...
But these issues cannot hide the research from
around the world that the heterosexual maritalfamily is, on average, the op...
Then, over time, we can expect to see:
 Fewer couples marrying in order to
best protect their future children
 And less ...
Marriage is just
about adults’ rights

Marriage is primarily about
fulfilling the child’s right and
desire to be raised an...
The trouble with this argument is that even if half of all
same-sex marriages have or adopt children - the benefit
to this...
 But there is one issue that

deserves a special note.
 Hidden within the new definition
of marriage there is a social l...
 In redefining marriage the government basically

states in law that ‘Any two same-sex married
parents, or any configurat...
 Though many same-sex couples will probably

invest a lot into their child – a lot more than some
heterosexual parents mi...
 When we look at children who have experienced divorce

we usually find that it is the psychological reaction of not
havi...
 But marriage redefined says that biological

parents are expendable - UNNECESSARY

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Marriage redefined states – in law – that children:
 Don’t have ANY intrinsic right to be raised by their
two biological ...
 Gay couples ‘buying’ a new born child from a far

off land - (Is this the start of children becoming
possessions that ca...
Heterosexual Unions

Same-sex unions

Romantic attraction

Romantic attraction

The core value of fidelity is
absolutely e...
Some of the MANY Faces of Social
Decay due to the breakdown of
the marital family

Thank you for trying to
understand
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 Lecture 3a presents a possible future timeline

based on the conclusions in this lecture
 Lecture 4 moves on to show ho...
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Same-sex Marriage Lecture 3 - In a marriage redefined country heterosexuals find it harder and harder to understand that marriage is primarily about fulfilling the right of children to the best start in life

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Redefining marriage brings about social change. A small part of this change is positive, but it also brings about a lot of negative social outcomes too. In this lecture, we look at how, in a marriage redefined culture, it becomes ever harder for heterosexuals to understand that marriage is primarily about giving their biological children the best possible start in life. Thus more heterosexuals won't marry in order to protect their children and more will divorce. This being so then more children will suffer and future society goes even more into decay.

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Same-sex Marriage Lecture 3 - In a marriage redefined country heterosexuals find it harder and harder to understand that marriage is primarily about fulfilling the right of children to the best start in life

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  2. 2.  Any culture that went the way of neglecting the heterosexual marital norm quickly declined BECAUSE the children had ever poorer outcomes.  They were then over-run by their healthier, marriage valuing neighbours  Because of this, at the start of the 20th century, EVERY major world culture most minor cultures were heterosexual marriage centred cultures. The stronger marriage valuing cultures won the day. 2
  3. 3. From this Two opposite-sex adults making a commitment to work together to fulfil the RIGHT of their future biological children to the best possible start in life To this Any two adults making a commitment to each other based on mutual, sexual attraction Weaken the understanding of heterosexuals that marriage is primarily about creating the best outcomes for their biological children Which in turn leads to poorer outcomes for everyone 3
  4. 4. What happened was the reverse. The research shows less heterosexuals getting married in the countries where redefinition happened – higher rates of decline than one would expect to see. 4
  5. 5. Rates of heterosexual marriage fell sharply – 5% a year This compares to no drop in rates of marriage in neighbouring Portugal – a country that suffered the same economic downturn Number of Heterosexual marriages 220,000 200,000 180,000 160,000 140,000 120,000 100,000 2006 2011 5
  6. 6. 6 5.5 5 Finland Germany 4.5 Holland (2000) 4 Belgium (2003) Canada 2005 3.5 3 2000 2005 2011 6
  7. 7.    There aren’t any studies done on why, in marriage redefined countries, do a greater number of heterosexual couples decide to turn away from marriage as an aspiration. The two issues may not be linked at all. What we can say is that same-sex marriage absolutely DOESN’T strengthen the social norm of marriage 7
  8. 8.  For thousands of years, marriage has primarily been about adults creating the best protection for their biological children.  Marriage is mankind’s way of connecting with Mother Nature’s circle of life. We see two opposite sex birds; they have sex, and then stay together to raise their kids because this ensures best outcomes for the next generation. This is what heterosexual marriage mirrors 8
  9. 9. Just as ALL species have found their best way of raising the next generation (e.g.; Matriarchal herds of elephants; Male dominated harems for lions and walruses) – for humans - two opposite sex parents making a lasting commitment in order to best fulfil their responsibility to their biological children - has become OUR WAY of gaining nature’s best blessings and protection. Marriage fundamentally is about fulfilling the RIGHT of the biological child to the best start in life 9
  10. 10.  The recent growth in the belief that marriage is primarily about ‘true love’ between adults, etc  The social security system prevents many of the more terrible outcomes of single parenting. If this didn’t exist it would be plainly evident that being married was the best way to protect children.  No fault divorce - a poorly designed law - created the social illusion that marriage was about adult RIGHTS to happiness – not about child’s rights  Birth control – many couples don’t have children 10
  11. 11. But these issues cannot hide the research from around the world that the heterosexual maritalfamily is, on average, the optimal place to give children the best start in life. It is this ESSENTIAL CORE VALUE: – that we marry to best protect our children – and we stay together during the natural tough times in our marriage in order to bring about best outcomes for our biological children This CORE value encourages the majority of heterosexual couples TO marry and STAY married during the natural difficult moments 11
  12. 12. Then, over time, we can expect to see:  Fewer couples marrying in order to best protect their future children  And less couples staying together during the natural difficult moments in their marriage for the sake of their children 12
  13. 13. Marriage is just about adults’ rights Marriage is primarily about fulfilling the child’s right and desire to be raised and loved by both biological parents Some heterosexual couples will see the new definition of marriage and place more weight on adult’s rights when thinking about marriage We can say for sure such thinking will not strengthen the heterosexual marital-family 13
  14. 14. The trouble with this argument is that even if half of all same-sex marriages have or adopt children - the benefit to this very small number of children is completely negated by the poorer outcomes for FAR GREATER numbers of children raised without the protection of both biological parents because of the law change. We will look more deeply at this in a future lecture 14
  15. 15.  But there is one issue that deserves a special note.  Hidden within the new definition of marriage there is a social lie – a lie that is potentially so dangerous that it is really hard to guess its negative effects on future society. 15
  16. 16.  In redefining marriage the government basically states in law that ‘Any two same-sex married parents, or any configuration of group married parents, can do just as good job of raising children as the biological parents can’.  Just get yourself the title – ‘We’re married’ – and instantly you become, on average, as good as biological parents are. 16
  17. 17.  Though many same-sex couples will probably invest a lot into their child – a lot more than some heterosexual parents might – there are other aspects of parenting that they will have no control over  The same-sex couple cannot provide opposite-sex interaction role modelling, nor provide gender role modelling for half the children, nor opposite-sex sexual role modelling. 17
  18. 18.  When we look at children who have experienced divorce we usually find that it is the psychological reaction of not having their biological father or mother there that is MOST LIKELY to cause the child to experience poorer outcomes. Sentences such as ‘My dad doesn’t care’, ‘why did my mum leave me,’ etc – often de-motivate the distressed child and lowers their sense of self-worth.  See www.frc.org/issuebrief/homosexual-parent-studysummary-of-findings. 18
  19. 19.  But marriage redefined says that biological parents are expendable - UNNECESSARY 19
  20. 20. Marriage redefined states – in law – that children:  Don’t have ANY intrinsic right to be raised by their two biological parents and  They also don’t have any natural desire to be raised by their two biological parents. They are happy to be raised by anyone!  We have NO IDEA where such a lies, if believed, will lead society in the years ahead.  We just know such lies WILL absolutely lead to poorer outcomes for children See Youtube Video: Which Parent Don't I Need, My Mom or My Dad? 20
  21. 21.  Gay couples ‘buying’ a new born child from a far off land - (Is this the start of children becoming possessions that can be bought and sold?)  Children being exchanged - a gay male provides sperm for a lesbian couple – the first child belongs to the lesbian couple, the second to the gay couple. Who knows where this might lead?  It is these lies that allow countries to move so quickly to legalize group marriages – ANY group of ‘married’ people can do. Fantasy land. 21
  22. 22. Heterosexual Unions Same-sex unions Romantic attraction Romantic attraction The core value of fidelity is absolutely essential The core value of fidelity is not essential The core value of marrying and staying together during the tough times in order to fulfil the right of the biological children is essential The core value of fulfilling the rights of biological children doesn’t apply. Most don’t have children, and if they do, the child’s right to be raised by its biological parents has already been lost. By calling three forms of union ‘marriage’ – the values that are essential for heterosexual marriage become weakened 22
  23. 23. Some of the MANY Faces of Social Decay due to the breakdown of the marital family Thank you for trying to understand 23
  24. 24.  Lecture 3a presents a possible future timeline based on the conclusions in this lecture  Lecture 4 moves on to show how, in a marriage redefined world, it is not only the heterosexual adults that struggle more. The 98% of heterosexual children are also ever more persuaded that same-sex sex is OK, fun, and progressive – even if in the real world this means that many more will eventually struggle with their sexual identity and, as such, they will find it harder to build the lasting relationships they actually desire (lecture 4 – light green lecture) 24

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