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The promise of fidelity – and the social
expectation that married couples should ideally
seek fidelity - is one o...
From this
Two opposite-sex adults
making a commitment to
work together to fulfil the
RIGHT of their future
biological chil...
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That legalizing same-sex marriage wouldn’t
lead to polyamorous marriages of 3 or more
people
That, once married, ...
We saw the first group marriage in
Brazil in 2012, and the Netherlands in
2013. The governments did nothing to
stop them.
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When group marriages are eventually accepted in law
as a socially healthy possibility, then their group
sexuality...
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This might happen through
mutual consent or through
the controlling, abusive will
of one partner

Even if just 2% of...
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Same-sex couples do not have to worry about infidelity
leading to an unwanted child. Studies show that fidelit...
Fidelity
Not important
Gay men, when
married, have a
better chance to
move towards fidelity

Fidelity
Very important
Some ...
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Gay Married Men
and Group
marriages = about
1% of population

Heterosexual world

Fidelity is not so important.
Extra-mari...
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If heterosexuals believe that their
future marriages will not be
protected by the social expectation
of fidelity – t...
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We have seen very clearly over the
last 50 years that when the
heterosexual marital-family
struggles, the children a...
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With children suffering poorer
outcomes – social problems rise
and so do national debts
Governments are elected to
s...
When marriage is solely about an adult’s right to
express their sexuality in any way they want to … the
child’s RIGHT to b...
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Redefining marriage once opens
it up to be redefined again
When group marriages become
legal, their group sexuality
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Some of the
MANY Faces
of Social
Decay

Thank you for trying
to understand

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Lecture 2a presents a future timeline how
infidelity slowly but surely grows within
heterosexual marriages. (On slid...
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Same-sex Marriage Lecture 2. In a marriage redefined society - fidelity - an essential core value that holds heterosexual marriages together becomes ever more weakened

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Redefining marriage brings about social change. A small part of this change is positive, but it also brings about a lot of negative social outcomes too. In this lecture we look at the core value of fidelity - an essential building block of heterosexual marriage. We find that in a marriage redefined society this value becomes ever-more weakened. Without this core value in place as a social expectation fewer heterosexuals marry and more end up divorcing. More children suffer a childhood without the love of both biological parents - and future society struggles even more with social decay.

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Same-sex Marriage Lecture 2. In a marriage redefined society - fidelity - an essential core value that holds heterosexual marriages together becomes ever more weakened

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  2. 2.    The promise of fidelity – and the social expectation that married couples should ideally seek fidelity - is one of the two main core values that allow for heterosexual pair-bonding If the social expectation of fidelity died, many heterosexuals would see no reason to marry. Why would I marry someone if he or she then felt free to sleep with other people – maybe have children with them, catch AIDS from them, etc? 2
  3. 3. From this Two opposite-sex adults making a commitment to work together to fulfil the RIGHT of their future biological children to the best possible start in life To this Any two adults making a commitment to each other based on mutual, sexual attraction Weaken the norm of fidelity within heterosexual marriages Leading to poorer outcomes for heterosexuals themselves, their children and for society (which in includes same-sex unions too) 3
  4. 4.    That legalizing same-sex marriage wouldn’t lead to polyamorous marriages of 3 or more people That, once married, male homosexual partners would be as sexually loyal to their partners as heterosexual partners are. In the years since same-sex marriage was legalized in various countries we have found both of these statements to be untrue. 4
  5. 5. We saw the first group marriage in Brazil in 2012, and the Netherlands in 2013. The governments did nothing to stop them.     Group marriages are typically associated with poorer outcomes for women and children (e.g.; many are formed by controlling men forcing insecure women into them, rich men creating jealousy based harems, etc). This is a consequence of a politicians stating that marriage is solely about the sexual attraction between adults (E.g. See www.scoop.co.nz/stories/PO1303/S00189/dutchmp-admits-polygamy-group-marriage-next.htm) 5
  6. 6.    When group marriages are eventually accepted in law as a socially healthy possibility, then their group sexuality will be seen as a healthy possibility too. Soap operas and movies WILL start to show this ‘marital’ group sex will be seen on television every evening. This will spread to pre-marital sex too What is seen as pornography today becomes evening entertainment for everyone – teens too 6
  7. 7.   This might happen through mutual consent or through the controlling, abusive will of one partner Even if just 2% of heterosexual married couples each year start involving themselves in group sex, after 20 years we can expect to see some 40% of married couples participating in some form of group sex. 7
  8. 8.     Same-sex couples do not have to worry about infidelity leading to an unwanted child. Studies show that fidelity is not so important for gay married men. In legalising same-sex marriages in the USA, we eventually expect to see soap operas showing gay married men discussing their extramarital affairs, joking about them, and discussing who they want to have an affair with next. All this will look like fun and harmless. This too will weaken the social expectation of fidelity in heterosexual marriages. E.g.: See www.mercatornet.com/articles/view/open_monogamy 8
  9. 9. Fidelity Not important Gay men, when married, have a better chance to move towards fidelity Fidelity Very important Some heterosexual couples look at the greater opportunities for infidelity that gay and group marriage allow for – and believe they can do it too. Whilst infidelity is not a big deal for the majority of gay men – IT IS A BIG ISSUE FOR HETEROSEXUALS – because they might have children to be responsible for, or their infidelity leads to unwanted children and many other negative issues 9
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  11. 11. Gay Married Men and Group marriages = about 1% of population Heterosexual world Fidelity is not so important. Extra-marital sex can be fun. Having three in bed can be enjoyable 11
  12. 12.   If heterosexuals believe that their future marriages will not be protected by the social expectation of fidelity – then fewer will marry. Also, more heterosexuals will divorce after they do marry because infidelity in one form or another is more likely to enter the marital home. 12
  13. 13.   We have seen very clearly over the last 50 years that when the heterosexual marital-family struggles, the children are often the ones who suffer the most They often experience more challenging childhoods, have less to be grateful for, many live at far below their potential, and many struggle to build marriages of their own. Is this FAIR for future children? 13
  14. 14.   With children suffering poorer outcomes – social problems rise and so do national debts Governments are elected to strengthen society, not weaken it for future generations 14
  15. 15. When marriage is solely about an adult’s right to express their sexuality in any way they want to … the child’s RIGHT to be raised by their two biological parents get ever more denied – either because fewer parents marry because there is no strong expression of fidelity or because more break up because of infidelity. In a marriage redefined world more children suffer poorer outcomes and society goes into decay. 15
  16. 16.   Redefining marriage once opens it up to be redefined again When group marriages become legal, their group sexuality becomes acceptable, and infidelity rates WILL rise dramatically in heterosexual marriages and children will suffer. 16
  17. 17. Some of the MANY Faces of Social Decay Thank you for trying to understand 17
  18. 18.   Lecture 2a presents a future timeline how infidelity slowly but surely grows within heterosexual marriages. (On slideshare – click Familyman2 below – Yellow lecture) Lecture 3 moves on to show how, in a marriage redefined world, fewer heterosexuals marry in order to protect their biological children and how fewer will stay married during the natural difficult moments in their marriage in order to bring about best outcomes for their children. (Black and purple lecture) 18

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