Relationships:Is Breaking Up A New Beginning?

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Has your love relationship turned into a bad relationship? Read this article and decide whether ending a relationship is the solution for you. A broken relationship may just be the beginning of a new love relationship for you.

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Relationships:Is Breaking Up A New Beginning?

  1. 1. Copyright © Elsabe Smit 2010 www.TheIntuitionCoach.com Relationships: Is Breaking Up A New Beginning? By Elsabe Smit, Author of It’s Over! Move On And Feel Good About YourselfWhy is it that so many relationships and marriages break up because of what onepartner does or does not do? And even more puzzling: why is it that the same culpritgets into another relationship and becomes the perfect partner to a very happy person?Do people suddenly change their nature overnight?And another puzzle: why is it that some people seem just unlucky in relationships?Serial spouses and celebrities with a string of broken relationships always make a goodread in the popular magazines.Maybe we need to look at these ‘wrong’ relationships with the ‘wrong’ people from adifferent angle.What if these broken marriages and relationships are not ‘wrong’ choices? What if eachone of them is a perfect choice, but we fail to see that, and judge ourselves as failures?Let’s take a step back and work from the assumption that we incarnated into this worldbecause we have particular things to learn about ourselves. We have forgotten thereason why we are here: to live a life that will bring us closer to perfection and to theGod that we were separated from.We have become caught up in man-made and culture-based rules such as that peoplemust be in a relationship for life, or that once married, divorce is a failure.We have forgotten that our lives are pre-planned before we are born, and that wecome here to live a perfectly designed script.Am I saying that it is OK to flit from one relationship or marriage to another? Is it allright to have multiple partners throughout your life?Maybe it is. What if your particular life script was designed so that you learn aboutyourself from having different relationships? And what if someone else’s life script wasdesigned so that they learn different lessons from the same partner over a much longerperiod of time?We have been conditioned to focus on the ‘failures’ of relationships, rather than on thepurpose of a relationship that has come to an end.Because of this focus on ‘failure’, we do not allow ourselves or others the space toCopyright © Elsabe Smit 2010 www.TheIntuitionCoach.com
  2. 2. Copyright © Elsabe Smit 2010 www.TheIntuitionCoach.comcontemplate on what we have learnt from the relationship.It is far easier to show interest in the gossip-worthy history of someone who ‘failed’than to ask what they have learnt from the relationship about themselves.We prefer to ask why the relationship has come to an end, and the reason behind thequestion is often to assign blame or to exonerate oneself. Our legal systems, religionsand cultures have been designed to reinforce this issue of blaming others rather thanunderstanding self.Some people come out of a relationship, have clarity on what they want, and find the‘perfect’ mate. They live happily ever after, but they have other lessons to learn, forexample from colleagues at work or from their children.Other people come out of a relationship, refuse to do any introspection, and repeat thesame pattern in subsequent relationships. And rather than encourage them to look atthemselves in a loving way and become whole, we comment on their inability to have astable relationship. That makes us as ‘guilty’ as they are. But we are all guilty oflacking insight, of nothing else.We often see people being desperately unhappy in a relationship, but staying in it at allcosts, and often against the advice of those that care about them. They stay becausethey are afraid of being out of the relationship and by themselves, or in some culturesbecause of the social judgement that they will face when they leave, or more oftenbecause they simply have no understanding of what it is that they need to deal withbefore they can leave the relationship.Whatever the reason for remaining in a destructive relationship or for having the samekind of relationship with different people over and over again, the bottom-line is thatwe need to understand the dynamic between the people in the relationship, and whatthere is to be learnt from it.The important issue is not the destination, i.e. the end of the relationship, but ratherthe journey, i.e. the spiritual reason why we got involved in a particular relationship inthe first place. Only then can we learn about ourselves and find peace and put therelationship behind us, with gratitude and love towards the person who helped us learnabout ourselves, rather than with all the destructive feelings that we have learnt toassociate with the end of a relationship.If you are struggling to put a bad, controlling, co-dependent or destructive relationship behind you, click on the links below to obtain your FREE e-book How Do I Get Out Of This Relationship? worth £6.97Copyright © Elsabe Smit 2010 www.TheIntuitionCoach.com
  3. 3. Copyright © Elsabe Smit 2010 www.TheIntuitionCoach.com AND A FREE copy of the video Why relationships Never Fail worth £8.87If you really want to put this destructive relationship behind you and get on with yourlife, then click on this link to invest in the e-book It’s Over! Move On And Feel Good About Yourself.Copyright © Elsabe Smit 2010 www.TheIntuitionCoach.com

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