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The Mindful Mediator:
How to Stay Neutral in
Conflict Resolution
What key qualities
must a mediator
have for mediation to
really work?
+ Neutral
+ Impartial
+ Objective
What does it mean to
be neutral?
Neutral
Not supporting
either of two
opposing sides,
impartial.
– Oxford Dictionary
Photo by: Ramón Peco, https://flic.kr/...
Neutral
No bias toward the
parties.
No judgment about
the parties/dispute.
No preference in
the outcome. Photo by: Ramón P...
What does it mean to be
impartial?
Impartial
Treat all alike;
unprejudiced;
fair.
– Oxford Dictionary
Photo by: Palo, https://flic.kr/p/8DKS23
Impartial
Apply rules and
guidelines the
same way to all
similarly-situated
persons;
equidistance
between parties.
Photo b...
What does it mean to be
objective?
Objective
Deal with
outward things
uncolored by
feelings or
emotions.
- Oxford Dictionary
Photo by: Serge Bares, https://f...
Objective
Analyze and
evaluate
positions
based on facts
and evidence.
Photo by: Serge Bares, https://flic.kr/p/c7qWUd
+ Neutral
+ Impartial
- Objective
= UNPRODUCTIVE
+ Neutral
+ Objective
- Impartial
= UNFAIR
+ Objective
+ Impartial
- Neutral
= UNRELIABLE
neutrality is usually
harder to come by
than impartiality or
objectivity….
WHY?
Neutrality
(Pure Awareness)
Objectivity
(Objective Analysis)
Impartiality
(Middle Way Thinking)
Neutrality is natural, but...
Neutrality = a sign of
weakness (?)
“Neutrality is a negative
word. It does not express
what America ought to feel.”
- Woodrow Wilson, 28th President of the U...
“If you are neutral in
situations of injustice, you
have chosen the side of the
oppressor.”
- Desmond Tutu, South African ...
Neutrality = a state of
impossibility (?)
We have biases
We make judgments
We hold preferences
In MEDIATION…
Neutrality = a sign of
strength (!)
In MEDITATION…
Neutrality = a state of
possibility (!)
How does meditation
make neutrality
possible?
MEDITATION creates
mindfulness
MINDFULNESS is
similar to neutrality
What is mindfulness?
Mindfulness is
paying attention
to the present
moment without
bias
judgment
preference
Photo by: Yu, https://flic.kr/p/3Gp...
Photo #1
June 21, 2014,
2:04 p.m.
Photo #2
June 21, 2014,
12:15 p.m.
Photo #3
June 19, 2014,
1:10 pm
Photo #4
June 19, 2014,
5:15 pm
A Mindful (Neutral) Mediator is
like…
THIS NOT THIS
Be the…
SKY NOT THE
CLOUDS
How do you cultivate
mindfulness
(neutrality)?
Meditation in daily life
Photo by: Jelly Druyts, https://flic.kr/p/3pEYdC
Open awareness meditation
Photo by: Hadi Zaher, https://flic.kr/p/nKMo55
Object meditation
Photo by: Mae Chevrette, https://flic.kr/p/bnXATM
Meditation in yoga
Photo by: Aviva West,
https://flic.kr/p/ax3FpV
Meditation in tai chi
Photo by: Brian Robinson,
https://flic.kr/p/daoxi
Mindfulness takes
FEAR out of the
mediation process
Fusion
Enmity
Arrogance
Rejection
Mindfulness puts
CARE into the
mediation process
Curiosity
Appreciation
Respect
Equanimity
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The Mindful Mediator: How to Stay Neutral in Conflict Resolution

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A mediator’s neutrality enables parties to resolve conflicts, develop options and create mutually satisfactory solutions. When the parties have diametrically opposed positions and viewpoints, it’s especially challenging for mediators to remain centered, focused, and impartial. Even skilled mediators must deal with the human tendency to rush to judgment of oneself and others.

Mindfulness encourages you to pay attention to the present moment without judgment. It helps you to engage fully with the mediation process without getting hooked by internal thoughts, perceptions, feelings and emotions that arise. It allows you to respond skilfully to your experience as it is, instead of react according to your personal biases, preferences, opinions, and agenda.

This presentation covers mindfulness techniques including Mindfulness in Daily Life, Object Meditation, Open Awareness Meditation, Breath Work, basic Yoga Postures and simple Tai Chi Movements. These practices help you center yourself, focus effectively, listen deeply, minimize judgmental tendencies, and stay neutral as a mediator.

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The Mindful Mediator: How to Stay Neutral in Conflict Resolution

  1. 1. www.dyanwilliams.com (612) 323-1859 dyan@dyanwilliams.com The Mindful Mediator: How to Stay Neutral in Conflict Resolution
  2. 2. What key qualities must a mediator have for mediation to really work?
  3. 3. + Neutral + Impartial + Objective
  4. 4. What does it mean to be neutral?
  5. 5. Neutral Not supporting either of two opposing sides, impartial. – Oxford Dictionary Photo by: Ramón Peco, https://flic.kr/p/4uhQee
  6. 6. Neutral No bias toward the parties. No judgment about the parties/dispute. No preference in the outcome. Photo by: Ramón Peco, https://flic.kr/p/4uhQee
  7. 7. What does it mean to be impartial?
  8. 8. Impartial Treat all alike; unprejudiced; fair. – Oxford Dictionary Photo by: Palo, https://flic.kr/p/8DKS23
  9. 9. Impartial Apply rules and guidelines the same way to all similarly-situated persons; equidistance between parties. Photo by: Palo, https://flic.kr/p/8DKS23
  10. 10. What does it mean to be objective?
  11. 11. Objective Deal with outward things uncolored by feelings or emotions. - Oxford Dictionary Photo by: Serge Bares, https://flic.kr/p/c7qWUd
  12. 12. Objective Analyze and evaluate positions based on facts and evidence. Photo by: Serge Bares, https://flic.kr/p/c7qWUd
  13. 13. + Neutral + Impartial - Objective = UNPRODUCTIVE
  14. 14. + Neutral + Objective - Impartial = UNFAIR
  15. 15. + Objective + Impartial - Neutral = UNRELIABLE
  16. 16. neutrality is usually harder to come by than impartiality or objectivity…. WHY?
  17. 17. Neutrality (Pure Awareness) Objectivity (Objective Analysis) Impartiality (Middle Way Thinking) Neutrality is natural, but not habitual
  18. 18. Neutrality = a sign of weakness (?)
  19. 19. “Neutrality is a negative word. It does not express what America ought to feel.” - Woodrow Wilson, 28th President of the United States, 1913 - 1921
  20. 20. “If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor.” - Desmond Tutu, South African cleric and activist
  21. 21. Neutrality = a state of impossibility (?)
  22. 22. We have biases We make judgments We hold preferences
  23. 23. In MEDIATION… Neutrality = a sign of strength (!)
  24. 24. In MEDITATION… Neutrality = a state of possibility (!)
  25. 25. How does meditation make neutrality possible?
  26. 26. MEDITATION creates mindfulness
  27. 27. MINDFULNESS is similar to neutrality
  28. 28. What is mindfulness?
  29. 29. Mindfulness is paying attention to the present moment without bias judgment preference Photo by: Yu, https://flic.kr/p/3GpaL
  30. 30. Photo #1 June 21, 2014, 2:04 p.m.
  31. 31. Photo #2 June 21, 2014, 12:15 p.m.
  32. 32. Photo #3 June 19, 2014, 1:10 pm
  33. 33. Photo #4 June 19, 2014, 5:15 pm
  34. 34. A Mindful (Neutral) Mediator is like… THIS NOT THIS
  35. 35. Be the… SKY NOT THE CLOUDS
  36. 36. How do you cultivate mindfulness (neutrality)?
  37. 37. Meditation in daily life Photo by: Jelly Druyts, https://flic.kr/p/3pEYdC
  38. 38. Open awareness meditation Photo by: Hadi Zaher, https://flic.kr/p/nKMo55
  39. 39. Object meditation Photo by: Mae Chevrette, https://flic.kr/p/bnXATM
  40. 40. Meditation in yoga Photo by: Aviva West, https://flic.kr/p/ax3FpV
  41. 41. Meditation in tai chi Photo by: Brian Robinson, https://flic.kr/p/daoxi
  42. 42. Mindfulness takes FEAR out of the mediation process
  43. 43. Fusion Enmity Arrogance Rejection
  44. 44. Mindfulness puts CARE into the mediation process
  45. 45. Curiosity Appreciation Respect Equanimity
  46. 46. www.dyanwilliams.com (612) 323-1859 dyan@dyanwilliams.com Photo by: Toni Verdu Carbo, https://flic.kr/p/267df3

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