What is love?
Love has to do with the heart, and it may appear in a person’s heart for
reasons known or unknown.
Love is a feeling of appreciation from being cared for by someone or
being the caregiver to someone.
Thus a loving relationship is achieved by putting the needs and wants
of others before your own
In love the purposeful aim is to make joy by making others happy at
The desire to give always supersedes the desire to receive. .
This is a great value in Islam and the best method of establishing peace.
4 categories of love
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What is lust?
Lust is the natural desire for intimate relation with
Lust must be controlled and released in the proper
manner allowed in Islam, which is through marriage
Too often people (Muslims included) confuse love
Lust has its place in life. But it is the wrong thing to
base your life around
Falling in Love: Allowed in
In Islam, it is not a sin if you feel a special affinity or inclination
towards a certain individual since human beings have no control
on such natural inclinations.
We are, however, definitely responsible and accountable if we take
specific actions or steps that might be deemed as haram
Islam forbids all forms of ‘dating’ and isolating oneself with a
member of the opposite sex, as well indiscriminate mingling and
Islam encourages us to marry persons for whom we have
special feelings and affinity.
Guard Lustful gaze
Prophet (SAW) saw a young man merely
looking at a young woman, he turned his
head so as to make him look away, then he
said: "I saw a young man and a young
woman, and I did not trust the shaytan not to
5 categories of word Hubb or
love in Quran
The word love, hubb in its various grammatical forms, is
used 69 times in the Qur'an. We can divide these into five
(1) Man's love of material things.
(2) Love for other humans
(3) Man's love for God.
(4) God's love in the negative sense, i.e. "God
loves not ..."
(5) God's love for man.
(1) Man's Love of Things (15
• Use of the word love carries a negative meaning concerning
those who love this material world.
14:3 Those who love [istahib] the life of this world more than the
Hereafter, who hinder (men) from the Path of Allah and seek
therein something crooked: They are astray by a long distance.
16:107 This because they love [istahib] the life of this world better
than the Hereafter: And Allah will not guide those who reject Faith.
Love of the material world
• 75:20 Nay, (ye men!) But ye love [hubb] the fleeting life,
• 76:27 As to these, they love [hubb] the fleeting life, and put
away behind them a Day (that will be) hard.
• 89:20 And ye love [hubb] wealth with inordinate love!
• 100:8 And violent is he in his love [hubb n.] of wealth.
• The above theme is more fully defined in Surah 3:14
• 3:14 Fair in the eyes of men is the love [hubb] of things they
covet: Women and sons; heaped-up hoards of gold and silver;
horses branded (for blood and excellence); and (wealth of)
cattle and well-tilled land. Such are the possessions of this
world's life; but in nearness to Allah is the best of the goals (to
3:92 By no means shall ye attain righteousness unless ye give
(freely) of that which ye love; [hubb] and whatever ye give, of a
truth Allah knows it well.
• Here again is reference to loving wealth and things, but that
righteousness is attained by giving or spending [nafuq] for what
• Thus, these verses come closest to the Biblical injunction "Do
not love the world, nor the things in the world." I John 2:15
Hesitance for battle
Pride and hypocrisy
• 2:216 Fighting is prescribed for you, and ye dislike it. But it is possible
that ye dislike a thing which is good for you, and that ye love [hubb] a
thing which is bad for you. But Allah knows, and ye know not.
• Pride and hypocrisy:
• 3:188 Think not that those who exult in what they have brought about,
and love [hubb] to be praised for what they have not done, -- think not
that they can escape the Penalty. For them is a Penalty grievous
rejection of counsel
• 6:76 When the night covered him over, he saw a star: He said:
"This is my Lord." But when it set, He said: "I love [hubb] not
those that set." (This passage is a reference to Abraham when
he rejected heavenly objects as being divine.)
7:79 So Salih left them, saying: "O my people! I did indeed convey
to you the message for which I was sent by my Lord: I gave you
good counsel, but ye love [hubb] not good counsellors!"
Disbelief over Iman
• 9:23 O ye who believe! Take not for protectors your fathers and
your brothers if they love [istahib] disbelief above Faith: If any of
you do so, they do wrong.
• 24:19 Those who love [hubb] (to see) scandal published
broadcast among the Believers, will have a grievous Penalty in
this life and in the Hereafter: Allah knows, and ye know not.
Promise of victory
• 61:13 And another (favor will He bestow), which ye do love
[hubb], -- help from Allah and a speedy victory. So give the Glad
Tidings to the Believers.
• The majority of the verses above reflect basically a negative use
of the word love.
• It is used of loving inappropriate or wrong things.
• The sole positive verse concerns loving God's help and favor in
• Things are stated in the negative in order to reinforce a point
2) Human Love
Mawadda - 7
insert - 3
Hubb - 5
love [hubb] in the sense of
• 3:119 Ah! Ye are those who love [hubb] them, but they love [hubb]
you not, -- though ye believe in the whole of the Book. When they
meet you they say, "We believe": But when they are alone, they bite
off the very tips of their fingers at you in their rage. Say: "Perish in
your rage; Allah knows well all the secrets of the heart."
• This is referring to those outside the ranks of believers.
• The believers may show love to them, but this love is not
• 12:8 They said: "Truly Joseph and his brother are loved [ahubb]
more by our father than we: But we are a goodly body! Really
our father is obviously wandering (in his mind)!
• The passage refers to the jealousy of Joseph's brothers who are
disturbed that Jacob loves Joseph and Benjamin more than the
• Here is an instance where fatherly love creates resentment in
• 12:30 Ladies said in the City: "The wife of the (great) Aziz is
seeking to seduce her slave from his (true) self: Truly hath he
inspired her with violent love [Hubb n.]: We see she is evidently
• This refers to Aziz wife.
• Here is an instance where love is described as erotic by
emphasizing that it was violent or intense.
Love for family member
• 28:56 It is true you will not be able to guide every one whom
you love; [hubb] but Allah guides those whom He will. And He
knows best those who receive guidance.
• The occasion of this verse was the death of Abu Talib, an uncle
whom Muhammad (SAW) loved.
• This implies that Muhammad(SAW) would not be able to guide
everyone he loved, nor expect to do so.
• There would be those who would hold to their beliefs in spite of
his own personal desire.
Mawadda for some christians
• 5:82 Strongest among men in enmity to the Believers wilt thou
find the Jews and Pagans; and nearest among them in love
[mawadda] to the Believers wilt thou find those who say, "We
are Christians": Because amongst these are men devoted to
learning and men who have renounced the world, and they are
Mawaddah for idols
29:25 And he said: "For you, ye have taken (for
worship) idols besides Allah, out of mutual love
[mawadda] and regard between yourselves in this life;
but on the Day of Judgment ye shall disown each
other and curse each other: And your abode will be
the Fire, and ye shall have none to help."
Mawaddah among spouses
30:21 And among His Signs is this, that He created for
you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in
tranquillity with them, and He has put love [mawadda]
and mercy between your [hearts]: Verily in that are Signs
for those who reflect.
Mawaddah for kins
• 42:23 That is (the Bounty) whereof Allah gives Glad Tidings to
His Servants who believe and do righteous deeds. Say: "No
reward do I ask of you for this except the love [mawadda] of
those near of kin. " And if any one earns any good, We shall
give him an increase of good in respect thereof: For Allah is
Oft-Forgiving, Most Ready to appreciate (service).
No mawaddah for enemies
• 60:1 O ye who believe! Take not My enemies and yours as friends [or
protectors], -- offering them (your) love, [mawadda] even though they
have rejected the Truth that has come to you, and have (on the
contrary) driven out the Prophet and yourselves (from your homes),
(simply) because ye believe in Allah your Lord! If ye have come out to
strive in My Way and to seek My Good Pleasure, (take them not as
friends), holding secret converse of love (and friendship) [mawadda]
with them: For I know full well all that ye conceal and all that ye
reveal. And any of you that does this has strayed from the Straight
Mawaddah in future
with present enemies
• 60:7 It may be that Allah will grant love (and
friendship) [mawadda] between you and those whom
ye (now) hold as enemies. For Allah has power (over
all things); and Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.
Wadda or friendship
• The word mawadda carries the sense of love and friendship.
• The verbal form wadda is similar to: "to like, be fond of."
• Various other verbal forms convey the idea of becoming friends
or to show affection.
• Thus the usage above conveys those expressions of friendship
• Here is a more positive emphasis to love others.
• There is also the teaching in surah 5:85 that the Christians are
the closest in friendship to the believing Muslim.
• 14:37 "O our Lord! I have made some of my offspring to dwell in
a valley without cultivation, by Thy Sacred House; in order, O
our Lord, that they may establish regular Prayer: So fill the
hearts of some among men with love towards them, and feed
them with Fruits: So that they may give thanks.
• The literal sense here is "induce the hearts of people
• The addition of the word love is by inference, but in keeping with
the sense of the phrase.
Joined hearts in love
• 3:103 And hold fast, all together, by the Rope which Allah
(stretches out for you), and be not divided among yourselves;
and remember with gratitude Allah's favor on you; for ye were
enemies and He joined your hearts in love, so that by His
Grace, ye became brethren; and ye were on the brink of the Pit
of Fire, and He saved you from it. Thus doth Allah make His
Signs clear to you: That ye may be guided. [Interpretive insert]
• It implies that God's favor or grace united their hearts.
7:189 It is He Who created you from a single person, and made
his mate of like nature, in order that he might dwell with her (in
love). When they are united, she bears a light burden and
carries it about (unnoticed). When she grows heavy, they both
pray to Allah their Lord, (saying): "If You give us a goodly child.
We vow we shall (ever) be grateful." [Interpretive insert]
Insertion of love is perhaps added due to the verse context of a
conjugal relationship that results in a child.
(3) Man's Love for God
• (Raghban, anab, uruban - once each, interpretive insert - twice)
• 2:165 Yet there are men who take (for worship) others besides Allah,
as equal (with Allah): They love [hubb] them as they should love
[Hubb] Allah but those of Faith are overflowing in their love [hubb n.]
• This is an interesting verse as the word love [hubb] is used for
idolaters as well as for true lovers of God.
• The implication being that their love is real, but misdirected. True
worshipers are said to be overflowing in their love for God. Here the
noun form is used.
Love of Allah as incentive for
• 2:177 It is not righteousness that ye turn your faces towards the East
or West; but it is righteousness -- to believe in Allah and the Last Day,
and the Angels, and the Book, and the Messengers; to spend of your
substance, out of love for Him, ['ala hubbahu] for your kin, for
orphans, for the needy, for the wayfarer, for those who ask, and for
the ransom of slaves; to be steadfast in prayer, and to practice regular
charity; to fulfill the contracts which ye have made; and to be firm and
patient, in pain (or suffering) and adversity, and throughout all periods
of panic. Such are the people of truth, the Allah-fearing.
Love of horses
• 38:32 And he said, "Truly do I love [hubb] the love [hubb n.] of
Good, with a view to the glory of my Lord," -- Until (the sun) was
hidden in the veil (of Night):
• The reference is to Suleman (AS) who loved fine horses.
• Horses of high breed were brought to him to admire, but he first
sought to make his evening prayers before examining the
• In the Old Testament, mention is made of Solomon's love of
Feeding the poor for love of
• 76:8 And they feed, for the love of Allah, ['ala hubbahu] the
indigent, the orphan, and the captive, -
• 76:9 (Saying), "We feed you for the sake of Allah alone: No
reward do we desire from you, nor thanks.
• This refers to the righteous and their deeds of caring for the
Calling Allah with love
• 21:90 So We listened to him: And We granted him Yahya: We cured
his wife's (barrenness) for him. These [three] were ever quick in
emulation in good works: They used to call on Us with love [raghban]
and reverence, and humble themselves before Us.
• This refers to Zacharia, his wife and Yahya (AS).
• The expression literally means "torn between greed and fear," or
"between desire and fear."
• Thus they called on God because they desired Him, which desire was
tempered with respect.
Turn to Allah with love
• 31:15 "But if they strive to make thee join in worship with Me things of
which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not; yet bear them
company in this life with justice (and consideration), and follow the
way of those who turn to Me (in love): In the End the return of you all
is to Me, and I will tell you the truth (and meaning) of all that ye did."
• The expression means, "to turn repentantly to God." Or "to visit
• In the context it means to join those who have rejected idols and
turned to God.
( equal in age]
• 56:37 Beloved [`uruban] equal in age, -- (companions of the
right hand in paradise) [interpretive]
• The passage refers to those enjoying the pleasures of paradise
and the delights of the companions who are virgins.
• It is composed of only two Arabic words. `uruban atraban.
"Beloved (by nature)"
• Maulana Muhammad Ali in his translation renders the phrase
loving, equals in age.
Love the truth
• 4:69 All who obey Allah and the Apostle are in the company of those on whom is the
Grace of Allah, -- Of the Prophets (who teach), the Sincere (lovers of Truth),
[sadiqiyeen] the Witnesses (who testify), and the Righteous (who do good): Ah! What a
beautiful Fellowship! [Interpretive insert]
• 57:19 And those who believe in Allah and His apostles -- they are the Sincere (lovers
of Truth), [sadiqiyeen] and the Witnesses (who testify), in the eyes of their Lord: They
shall have their Reward and their Light. But those who reject Allah and deny Our Signs,
-- they are the Companions of Hellfire. [Interpretive insert]
(4) Negative - God Does Not
Love The ... (22 times)
• Here in this selection of verses we notice again the
Arabic preference for the negative to state an opposite.
• While the following do not state that God hates, it
certainly enforces the idea that the love of God is
withheld from those who practice certain deeds or are
described as manifesting a certain character.
• Several of the verses are repetitious and so we have
the following categories
1. God does not love the al-mu'tadeen.
• Those who are overstepping the boundaries or limits.
• 2:190 Fight in the cause of Allah those who fight you, but do not
transgress limits; for Allah loves not transgressors
• 5:90 O ye who Believe! Make not unlawful the good things
which Allah hath made lawful for you, but commit no excess: For
Allah loves not those given to excess
• 7:55 Call on your Lord with humility and in private: For Allah
loves not those who trespass beyond bounds.
2. God does not love the al-fasideen
• There is the type of man whose speech about this world's life
may dazzle you and he calls Allah to witness about what is in
his heart; yet is he the most contentious of enemies.
• When he turns his back, his aim everywhere is to spread
mischief through the earth and destroy crops and cattle. But
Allah loves [hubb] not mischief. [alfsad]
Allah does not love
• 5:64 The Jews say: "Allah's hand is tied up." Be their hands tied up
and be they accursed for the (blasphemy) they utter. Nay, both His
hands are widely outstretched: He gives and spends (of His bounty)
as He pleases. But the revelation that cometh to thee from Allah
increases in most of them their obstinate rebellion and blasphemy.
Amongst them We have placed enmity and hatred till the Day of
Judgment. Every time they kindle the fire of war, Allah doth
extinguish it; but they (ever) strive to do mischief on earth. And Allah
loves [hubb] not those who do mischief [al-mufsideen]
Allah does not love
• 28:77 "But seek, with the (wealth) which Allah has bestowed on
you, the Home of the Hereafter, nor forget your portion in this
world: But do good, as Allah has been good to you, and seek
not (occasions for) mischief in the land: For Allah loves not
those who do mischief."
• The Arabic word conveys the stronger idea of corruption, decay,
• In the moral sense it becomes depravity, iniquity, perversion and
in today's usage implies immorality.
3. God loves not the al-kafireen,
2:276 Allah will deprive usury of all blessing, but will give increase for
deeds of charity: For He loves not creatures ungrateful and wicked. [kul
• 3:32 Say: "Obey Allah and His Apostle": But if they turn back, Allah
loveth [hubb] not those who reject Faith. [al kafireen]
• 30:45 That He may reward those who believe and work righteous
deeds, out of His Bounty. For He loves [hubb] not those who reject
4. God loves not the ad-dalemeen,
• The word is related to darkness, gloominess and by extension to the
heinous oppressor, the unjust tyrant. Thus the one who practices
• 3:57 "As to those who believe and work righteousness, Allah will pay
them (in full) their reward; but Allah loveth [hubb] not those who do
• 42:40 The recompense for an injury is an injury equal thereto (in
degree): But if a person forgives and makes reconciliation, his reward
is due from Allah: For [Allah] loveth [hubb] not those who do wrong.
God loves not the
• 3:140 If a wound hath touched you, be sure a similar wound
hath touched the others. Such days (of varying fortunes) we
give to men and men by turns: That Allah may know those
that believe and that He may take to Himself from your ranks
martyr-witnesses (to Truth). And Allah loveth [hubb] not
those that do wrong. [ad-dalemeen]
5. God loves not the
• 6:141 But waste not by excess: For Allah loveth [hubb] not the
• 7:31 O Children of Adam! Wear your beautiful apparel at every
time and place of prayer: Eat and drink: But waste not by
excess, for Allah loveth [hubb] not the wasters. [al-musarifeen]
6. God loves not the
31:18 "And swell not thy cheek (for pride) at men, nor walk in
insolence through the earth; for Allah loves not any arrogant
57:23 In order that ye may not despair over matters that pass you
by, nor exult over favors bestowed upon you. For Allah loves not
any vainglorious boaster, --
God loves not the
• 4:36 Serve Allah, and join not any partners with Him; and do
good -- to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, those in need, neighbors
who are near, neighbors who are strangers, the Companion by
your side, the wayfarer (ye meet), and what your right
handspossess: For Allah loveth not the arrogant, the
7. God loves not the arrogant.
• 16:23 Undoubtedly Allah doth know what they conceal,
and what they reveal: Verily He loves not the
8. God loves not those who
exult in riches.
• 28:76 Qarun was doubtless, of the people of Moses; but he
acted insolently towards them: Such were the treasures We had
bestowed on him, that their very keys would have been a
burden to a body of strong men. Behold, his people said to him:
"Exult not, for Allah loves not those who exult (in riches). [al-fraheen]
9. God loves not the
• 8:58 If thou fearest treachery from any group,
throw back (their Covenant) to them, (so as to
be) on equal terms: For Allah loves not the
10. God loves not those who commit
crime and speak evil
• 4:107 Contend not on behalf of such as betray their own souls;
for Allah loves not one given to perfidy and crime;
• 4:148 Allah loves not that evil should be noised abroad in public
speech, except where injustice has been done; for Allah is He
who hears and knows all things
(5) God's love for humans with certain
qualities (10 times)
• We find here a few categories of individuals
who are recipients of God's love because of
• One would think these positive statements of
God's love would bring us a revelation of the
personal and infinite love of God to mankind.
• What we find instead are statements of
conditional love based on human activity.
1. God loves those who do good.
• 2:195 And spend of your substance in the cause of Allah, and
make not your own hands contribute to (your) destruction; but
do good; for Allah loves those who do good. [al-muhasneen]
• 3:134 Those who spend (freely), whether in prosperity, or in
adversity; who restrain anger, and pardon (all) men; -- for Allah
loves those who do good; -- [al-muhasaneen]
1. God loves those who do
• 3:148 And Allah gave them a reward in this world, and the
excellent reward of the Hereafter. For Allah loves those who
do good. [al-muhasaneen]
God loves those who do
5:13 But forgive them, and overlook (their misdeeds): For Allah loves
those who are kind. [al-muhsaneen]
• 5:96 On those who believe and do deeds of righteousness there is
no blame for what they ate (in the past), when they guard
themselves from evil, and believe, and do deeds of righteousness, -
- (or) again, guard themselves from evil and believe, -- (or) again,
guard themselves from evil and do good. For Allah loveth those
who do good. [al-muhsaneen]
2. God loves the pure and
• 2:222 Allah loves those who turn to Him constantly and He
loves those who keep themselves pure and clean. [al-mutahreen]
• 9:108 Never stand thou forth therein. There is a mosque whose
foundation was laid from the first day on piety; it is more worthy
of thy standing forth [for prayer] therein. In it are men who love
to be purified; and Allah loves those who make themselves
3. God loves those who are
• 3:76 Nay. -- Those that keep their plighted faith and act aright, --
verily Allah loves those who act aright. [al-mutaqeen]
• 9:4 (But the treaties are) not dissolved with those Pagans with
whom ye have entered into alliance and who have not
subsequently failed you in aught, nor aided any one against
you. So fulfill your engagements with them to the end of their
term: For Allah loves the righteous. [al-mutaqeen]
God loves those who are
• 9:7 How can there be a league, before Allah and His Apostle, with
the Pagans, except those with whom ye made a treaty near the
Sacred Mosque? As long as these stand true to you, stand ye true
to them: For Allah doth love the righteous. [al-mutaqeen]
• 19:96 On those who believe and work deeds of righteousness, will
(Allah) Most Gracious bestow love. [Interpretive insert, the thought
is that God will bestow benevolence]
4. God loves those who are just and
• 5:42 (They are fond of) listening to falsehood, of
devouring anything forbidden. If they do come to thee,
either judge between them, or decline to interfere. If
thou decline, they cannot hurt thee in the least. If thou
judge, judge in equity between them. For Allah loveth
those who judge in equity. [al-muqsiteen]
God loves those who are just
• 49:9 If two parties among the Believers fall into a quarrel, make ye peace
between them: But if one of them transgresses beyond bounds against the
other, then fight ye (all) against the one that transgresses until it complies
with the command of Allah; but if it complies, then make peace between
them with justice, and be fair: For Allah loves those who are fair (and just).
• 60:8 Allah forbids you not, with regard to those who fight you not for [your]
Faith nor drive you out of your homes, from dealing kindly and justly with
them: For Allah loves those who are just [al-muqsiteen]
5. God loves those who trust Him:
• 3:159 It is part of the Mercy of Allah that you deal gently with
them. Were you severe or harsh hearted, they would have
broken away from about you: So pass over (their faults), and
ask for (Allah's) forgiveness for them; and consult them in affairs
(of moment). Then, when you have taken a decision, put your
trust in Allah. For Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him).
6. God loves the persevering or patient:
3:146 How many of the Prophets fought (in
Allah's way), and with them [fought] large bands
of godly men? But they never lost heart if they
met with disaster in Allah's way, nor did they
weaken [in will] nor give in. And Allah loves
those who are firm and steadfast. [as-sabreen]
7. God loves those who love Him and
follow the Prophet:
• 3:31 Say: "If ye do love Allah, follow me: Allah
will love you and forgive you your sins: For
Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
8. God Himself will produce a people He
• 5:57 O ye who believe! If any from among you turn back from
his Faith, soon will Allah produce a people whom He will love
as they will love Him, -- Lowly with the Believers, Mighty
against the Rejecters, Fighting in the Way of Allah, and never
afraid of the reproaches of such as find fault. That is the Grace
of Allah, which He will bestow on whom He pleases. And Allah
encompasses all, and He knows all things.
9. God loved Moses:
• 20:39 "Throw (the child) into the chest, and throw (the chest)
into the river: The river will cast him up on the bank, and he will
be taken up by one who is an enemy to Me and an enemy to
him': But I cast (the garment of) love over thee from Me: And
(this) in order that thou mayest be reared under Mine eye.
10. God loves those who fight in His
• 61:4 Truly Allah loves those who fight in His
Cause in battle array, as if they were a solid
8 Types of love in Quran
1. And among His Signs is this that He created for you mates from
among yourselves that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them and
He has put love and mercy between your (hearts); verily in that
are Signs for those who reflect
2. Love Mawaddah is the kind of love-passionate, burning .
3. People who have a love mawaddah, they wish they were always
together, reluctant to part
4. Always wanted to quench the thirst of love.
5. He wants to monopolize her love, and the other could barely
• Rahmah love is kind , gentle, ready to sacrifice,
and ready to protect.
• People who have a love more attention to this kind of mercy
their loved ones than to yourself.
• For him the important thing is happiness of his beloved though
he had to suffer.
• Husband is very understanding.
• They always forgive mistakes
• Included in love mercy is the love between blood relatives (,
al Arhaam, zawi al Arhaam) especially parents love for their
children , and vice versa.
• It is called the womb relationship (from common bondage of
• Furthermore, among those who have blood ties are encouraged
to always maintain relations (sil-at-urrahim)
• Husband and wife are bound by love mawaddah & rahmah
faithful to each other physically and spiritually
3- Love "Mail"
• Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women even if it is
your ardent desire: but turn not away (from a woman) altogether so
as to leave her (as it were) hanging (in the air). If ye come to a
friendly understanding and practice self-restraint Allah is Oft-
Forgiving Most Merciful. 4:129
• Love Mail, is the kind of love that for a while very emotional ,
so it takes all the attention from other things
• Love mail in the Qur'an is mentioned in the context of polygamy
• In this relation, husband shows more love to younger wife (an
tamilu kulla al mail) and tends to ignore the older one.
• Ladies said in the City: "The wife of the (great) `Aziz is
seeking to seduce her slave from his (true) self: truly has he
inspired her with violent love: we see she is evidently going
• Love Shaghaf is a very deep love, natural, original and
• People who develop love shaghaf can be like insane
person, forget themselves and hardly realize what is being
• Qur'an uses term shaghaf here to show how Zulaikha, wife of
• The woman and the man guilty of adultery or fornication flog each
of them with a hundred stripes: let not compassion move you in
their case in a matter prescribed by Allah if ye believe in Allah and
the Last Day. 24:2
• Love Ra'fah, means a having deep love to overlook the norms
• Example is of pity on a sleeping child so the mother does not
dare to wake him for prayer and defend him even if he is
• The Qur'an reminds us that this “Ra’fah” may cause people
to not enforce the law of God, in cases of punishment for
He said: "O my Lord! the prison is more to my liking than that
to which they invite me: unless thou turn away their snare from
me I should (in my youthful folly) feel inclined (ASBO) towards
them and join the ranks of the ignorant. 12:33
• Sobwah, is blind love which perverts and encourages
sinful behavior which one is not able to avoid.
• The Prophet Yusuf (AS) preferred to be imprisoned than to
be afflicted with this inclination.
• He was scared of the enticing tactics of the ladies to him
For those whose hopes are in the meeting with Allah (in the Hereafter let
them strive); for the Term (appointed) by Allah is surely coming: and He
hears and knows (all things) 29:5
• The sentence was later explained in the longing
prayer from the Hadith narrated in Nasai
• According to Ibn al Qayyim al Jawzi in the book Raudat al Muhibbin
wa Nuzhat al Mushtaqin,
• “Shauq (miss) is the longing of the heart for the lover
(traveling al qalb ila al mahbub) and the fire of love keeps blazing in
the heart of the lover.
On no soul does Allah place a burden greater than it can
• Kulfah, which is accompanied by feelings of love to
educate , to raise awareness, to bring improvement
• Example is of a parent who sends his son to
sweep his room clean even though there are
servants in the house. .