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Depression is part of life


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DEPRESSION IS PART OF LIFE: It is wise to know how to stay with depression-know the steps of MANAGEMENT

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Depression is part of life

  1. 1. It is wise to know how to stay with depression-know the steps of MANAGEMENT Dr Rupa Talukdar, chief Executive Counsellor Of Mind’s Eye
  2. 2.  Depression is like a war, you either win or die trying  Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning how to dance in the rain  Worthless, pointless, useless ,pathetic and depressed- that is me.
  3. 3. Body becomes squeezed and bent forward- totally loosened depending on the degree of depression; typical gesture head down and rest on the folded knee. In the morning before leaving the bed the person sits on the bed being hopeless and nothingness; no enthusiasms has been found in his eyes/motion rather he becomes motionless –in any case head is always down- this is the first symptoms of depression- head seems to be weighty to the depressed soul-they try to find any kind of resting place for it: shoulder of friends, own knee or if not anything is there, it is jutted forward with a downward leaning.
  4. 4.  It is not usual that you will be always in happy emotion throughout your life; if a person expects so s/he will be immediately advised to come out from this way of thinking because it has no justification; look out in the nature-if there is birth, there is death also-if birth brings happiness, death obviously brings sorrow-if sunrise exists sunsets must be there-it’s simply a calculation- happiness is so attractive only because the other part of it is depression-so people needs not to be very serious of it- rather they should know how to stay when there is depression  Irrespective of nature of human being depression happens to be there in emotion –it does not depends whether you expect or not-it is a cyclic process-like seasonal change of climate-if summer represents happiness, winter represents depression in country where cold persists in most of months in a year. In our land (India) winter represents the joy of the life-it is the festival, summer/rainy day is for usual way of living: continuous work, study and sometimes expanded existence of any season directs an emotion towards depression.
  5. 5. If you failed in doing something, cannot succeed/crack exam or face some unexpected heart breaking result either you became depressed or felt something unusual which is not like depression: you can take it as challenge or may become more powerful for the next attempt, start working hard for achieving expected outcome being more confident and determined. One’s depression is other’s way to reach the goal being more oriented towards the target. No’ sounds differently:  No = negative, brings hopelessness  No = makes some one more oriented  No = in disguise ‘yes’-it’s a courtesy  No = danger= makes people cautious So, it’s not the event, it’s the personality, which makes you depressed, so it is essential to know your nature-that will help you lifelong to step out in outer world.
  6. 6. to spot the depression s/he can able to find it in a happiest person of the world also- because it is natural- no one is above the feelings of depression at least once in his/her life. So it is wise not to be worried about it, rather,  Spot the cause of it  Analyses it  Try to tackle the source of depression  Know the techniques how to manage the depression  Once you know the causes , try to either fight with it or stay along with it as it is the inevitable part of your nature being attentive to other part of your life step by step
  7. 7. If they are the perpetrator, what to do-nothing! But only due to this no one can ruin him/herself, depressive emotion needs regular life coaching on how to lead an assertive way of living. If family members find it early in any child during boyhood s/he must make alert call to the well wishers (parents/teacher/close members of family/siblings) of the child - early detection always develops better coping skill in the child.
  8. 8. The symptoms of depression in children vary. It is often undiagnosed and untreated because they are passed off as normal emotional and psychological changes that occur during growth. Early medical studies focused on "masked" depression, where a child's depressed mood was evidenced by acting out or angry behavior. While this does occur, particularly in younger children, many children display sadness or low mood similar to adults who are depressed. Parents are the first vigilant for spotting the signs that may indicate that their child is at risk only because of depression
  9. 9.  Irritability or anger  Continuous feelings of sadness and hopelessness  Social withdrawal  Increased sensitivity to rejection  Changes in appetite -- either increased or decreased  Changes in sleep -- sleeplessness or excessive sleep (“insomnia” or “hypersomnia”)  Vocal outbursts or crying  Difficulty concentrating  Fatigue and low energy  Physical complaints (such as stomachaches, headaches) that don't respond to treatment  Reduced ability to function during events and activities at home or with friends, in school, extracurricular activities, and in other hobbies or interests  Feelings of worthlessness or guilt  Impaired thinking or concentration  Increased acting-out of undesirable behaviors (sexual/behavioral)  Increased risk-taking behaviors  Frequent accidents  Substance abuse  Focus on morbid and negative themes  Talk about death and dying  Increased crying or reduced emotional expression  Giving away possessions
  10. 10. Treatment options for children with depression are similar to those for adults, including psychotherapy(counseling) and medication. The role that family and the child's environment play in the treatment process is different from that of adults. Child’s doctor may suggest psychotherapy first, and consider antidepressant medicine as an additional option if there is no significant improvement. The best studies to date indicate that a combination of psychotherapy and medication is most effective at treating depression. Other medications may be chosen if there are other coexisting illnesses contributing to the depression.
  11. 11. Teach kids problem-solving skills from a very early age. If your child has developed problem solving skills but lost access to them because they are depressed periodically, you have to help them regain access to those skills. Here are some suggestions for ways to help you coach your child through it.
  12. 12. When you ask a teen or pre-teen, “What are your coping skills,” if he can say, “Oh, I go to my room. I listen to some music, I count to ten,” that’s good because he understands that coping is a skill, not an art or magic. And once you teach kids behavior is a skill, the next step is to get them to identify problems and develop the behavioral tools to deal with them. And so it becomes, “You’re feeling sad, you’re feeling depressed, what can we do about that problem? What would you find helpful?” It gives you a place to stand where you can both begin talking about how to solve the problem of feeling sad.
  13. 13. When you ask a teen or pre-teen, “What are your coping skills,” if he can say, “Oh, I go to my room. I listen to some music, I count to ten,” that’s good because he understands that coping is a skill, not an art or magic. And once you teach kids that behavior is skill, the next step is to get them to identify problems and develop the behavioral tools to deal with them. And so it becomes, “You’re feeling sad, you’re feeling depressed, what can we do about that problem? What would you find helpful?” It gives you a place to stand where you can both begin talking about how to solve the problem of feeling sad.
  14. 14. When people are depressed, kids as well as adults, they still have to meet their responsibilities. Again, I’m not talking about kids who are so clinically depressed they’re immobilized. For everyone else, one of the most important treatments for depression is to get the person up off their butt to do the dishes, make the bed, and take a shower. It doesn’t have to be done in a harsh manner, but you should be firm. If your child can’t handle a complex task, give them simple ones, but keep them busy. Depressed people should not be allowed to lie in bed under the covers, because it just makes the situation worse.
  15. 15. As far as responsibilities go, I don’t think a lot of special consideration should be given to kids who are episodically depressed. Rather, maintain the same expectations. They will probably need more support to perform at the same level. Know that you have to give them more opportunities to regroup. Be more available to them when they start feeling overwhelmed, but don’t let them avoid their responsibilities. You can say, “We understand you’re down, but you still have to do your homework.” You may want to ease them into tasks by having them do the dishes with you in the kitchen, do their homework while you work nearby, or go to the store with you. Again, get them out and moving about. Remember, a good parenting style for kids who are depressed is like a coaching style. Coach your child to learn new skills. During a time of episodic depression in your child’s life, I would recommend that you use more coaching and less limit setting
  16. 16.  Children who are depressed often exhibit distractibility and impaired concentration, so it’s important to get them in a soothing environment. Don’t try to have a talk with them about their behavior or about their coping skills when a lot of other distractions are present. In a school setting, if you’re in a special education class where there’s a lot of noise in the classroom, an upset child will not be able to engage in a conversation in a way that’s helpful. That’s why many schools have a “quiet room” where kids can go to calm down. Once that happens, the adult in charge can talk with them about whether or not they’re angry, whether or not they’re depressed, what the problem is and how they can solve it. The same goes for kids at home. If possible, take your child into a room where there are no distractions and let them calm down before opening a conversation about why they’re upset. And let your child know that you’re willing to listen to them and talk with them about what’s making them sad. You can say, “We won’t force you to talk if you don’t want to, but we’re here.”
  17. 17. We all go through moods, adolescents especially, and parents have to be understanding of that. The idea here is, “Yes, we tolerate moods, but you still have to do your homework.” You can say, “All right, so you can be moody, you can feel irritable, you can be down, you can be sad. We’ll talk with you about it if you want to, but you’ve got to get your homework done either way.” You can also do a bit more coaching with moody kids around this. Try saying, “Hey, you seemed okay yesterday, what happened? Did something happen in school?” You can probe it a little bit more, but don’t let your child avoid responsibilities through these mood states.
  18. 18. Let your child know that we all have periods of feeling down, that problems can seem overwhelming to everyone at times. Feelings of sadness are a part of depression, but they’re also very human. Even intense feelings of sadness can be experienced without it being considered unhealthy or abnormal. And for most kids, the depression they go through is a period of sadness, a period of being down; a time when something’s going wrong and they don’t know what to do about it. Parents can talk that through with their kids. And they can use the teaching style and a coaching style to help them manage those feelings and learn more skills.
  19. 19. When a person has depression s/he develops some psychosomatic symptoms:  Sleep problems  Chest pain  Fatigue and exhaustion  Muscle aches and joint pain  Digestive problem  Headaches  Changes in appetite and weight gain  Back pain  Agitation and restlessness  Sexual problem
  20. 20.  Tackle manageable problems  Set solution-oriented goals.  Keep track of your progress in a journal.  Express yourself:  Don’t spend too much time alone.  Writing, dancing and visual art and other types of art  Don’t afraid to express  Nourish your spiritual side  Try meditation
  21. 21.  Spends extra time outside  If it is either too hot or too cold to stay outside, let the nature come inside by either organize your curtain and light of room inside or natural light flood your house.  During the darker winter months or cloudy rainy seasons light therapy products can help replace the sun’s rays.  Stay busy  Make a list of the chores  Take responsibilities  Exercise everyday
  22. 22.  Eat food with antidepressant properties  Try supplements.  Green Tea.  Cut alcohol and drugs.  See a Therapist.