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““Soul Mates”Soul Mates”
• “A couple who encounter
their very first sex
encounter together,
mutually orgasm
simultaneously, and their
baby is born out of that
time are truly “Soul-
mates” for life.(a)
and,..
• ..if that couple bonds with
each other, falls deeply in
love,...
• ….and is the happiest they
have ever been in their
entire lives – just being with
each other are “Soul-
mates”(b)
and,…
• ..if as a couple they are
formally ‘married’ and truly
“equallyoked” i.e., of the
‘same’ or ‘very similar’
“civil-identities.”..they are
life time “Soul-mates.” (a,b,c),
(IBID)
- Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology

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Social Mores:Social Mores:
• …is a sociology term that has evolved -now-
referring to ‘true’ social mores, consisting of:
• values…i.e., moral values expressed out/socially.
• good social conduct – out in public –
– proper manners when out and about in society
– polite social etiquettes in meetings
– Standards/or customs within a neighborhood or public
• any social health habits that comprise behaviors that
contribute to living a healthy lifestyle and pursuing
happiness and longevity (differing
amongst different groups).(37)
Social
Psychology

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SocialSocial IdentityIdentity && Civil IdentityCivil Identity
“Social Identity”
• A person’s sense of belongingness to a
variety of important identified social
categories/groups such as;
• Citizenship: a Nation
• Residency: Location of home, etc
• Property: OWNERship or co-Ownership in
Real estate, e.g., homes, vacation homes,
office buildings, land, and may include motor
homes, RVs, cars, boats, planes, etc.
• Profession: trade, vocation, skill, craft boards
or unions, etc
• Education: Credentials, degrees, diplomas,
certifications, and also documentation of
registration and licenses, etc.
• Titles: clubs, associations, organizations, etc.
• Socio-economic CLASS: Amount of money in
bank, in stocks and bonds investments, in
bank notes and certificates, tax classification,
etc.1,2,3
“Civil Identity”
A term first introduced in Social Psychology
- describing a collective of features
concerning an individual’s present
• Ethnicity: Ancestry/Language
• Political party: Membership
• Race: DNA features
• Color: Skin
• Religious: Beliefs/Membership
• Disability/ Handicap:
• Age/ Generation:
• Sex/ Gender
• Sexual (Pleasure preference)
Orientation:
• Marital Status:1
- Social Psychology: SocPsy 202

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““Civil Identity”Civil Identity”
• Ethnicity
• Disability
• Mental
• Physical
• Race
• Color
• Age
• Gender
• Political Party
• Familiar Status
• Marital Status
• Religion
• Beliefs
• Creed
• Sexual (Pleasure
Preference) Orientation
- Components of “CIVIL IDENTITY”
(33)

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An Example of “Equallyoked”An Example of “Equallyoked”
• Ethnicity
• Political Party
• Race
• Color
• Religion
• Age
• Sex (Male)
• Marital Status
Sexual (pleasure preference) orientation
Civil Identity #
1
- Sociology 101: “Civil Identity”
• Ethnicity
• Political Party
• Race
• Color
• Religion
• Age
• Sex (Female)
• Marital StatusSexual (pleasure preference) orientation
Civil Identity #
2
(58)

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Philosophy of EquallyokedtarianismPhilosophy of Equallyokedtarianism
Equal Rights
Separate
but
‘Equal’
‘True’ Equality
Three Components
Three Premises
Used by Permission
The Philosophies of
Equallyokedtarians, 2001
(58)

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Beliefs: EquallyokedtarianismBeliefs: Equallyokedtarianism
Premise #
1 – ‘Equal’ Rights
– Inherently people --- everywhere --- all people are
considered ‘equal’ under and subject to the physical
laws, the social laws, and even the spiritual laws.
Premise #
2 - Separate and ‘Equal’
– Each person is equal as an unique individual with a
distinctly different personal identity and set of beliefs.
Premise #
3 - True ‘Equality’
– Each set of pairs-pairing off as a couple – truly equal –
according to each individual’s own ‘civil identity’ (20)
Three Premises:
“The Philosophies of Equallyokedtarians”- 2001

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Online Survey:Online Survey: Social IssuesSocial Issues
• Abortion
– Medical/surgical killing of fertilized eggs/fetuses
based on unplanned for/unwanted/unloved baby.(4)
• Unequally yoked
– Violation of social mores – An indifference to the
family ethics in community – matching by civil identity.
• Bullying (public school)
– World majorities using lies and intimidation to
racketlunch money of children and young teenagers.
• Disabled US Veterans
– Mental and/or physical wounds from war trauma and
injuries unable to provide for family and support home
- SocPsy444
(7)
(IBID)
(5,6)

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HappinessHappiness
• In a survey of couples – both equally yoked and
unequallyoked-happiness ranked up among the
most important thing in a coupleship values.
• The equally yoked couple scored better on
periods, level, and kinds of happiness then did
other types of coupleships.
• Also, noted was that couples who were actually
successful at achieving happiness, did so,
based upon the selection and choice of their
coupleship (whether equally-yoked or
unequally-yoked).(8)
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ChangeChange
• A field project study of upper division students
on a liberal arts college-campus; inquired into
the degree of ‘positive’ changed measured of
equally yoked couples and those of unequally
yoked couples after one semester.
• Equally yoked couples and unequally yoked
were rated end of the semester according to the
amount of ‘positive change’ that had occurred.
• The findings were simply that the ‘positive
change’ rated significantly higher in the ‘equally
yoked’ couples as compared with those in the
unequally yoked.(17)
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The Equally YokedThe Equally Yoked
CoupleshipCoupleship
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Dx: r/t the “Unequally-yoked”
• Impulse control disorders and aggression
– examined cases: challenge to sexually conquer a mate.
• ADHD (Attention-deficit/Hyperactivity disorder)
– situational evidence: incidences of emotional sexual attraction.
• Brain injury: Major neurocognitive disorders
– school age undiagnosed: coupleships formation.
• Anxiety, depressive, and bipolar disorders
– adults: college age, & high school graduates pursuing a mate.
• Autism spectrum disorders (ASDs)
– jurispurdence/penal authorities: report of gang related activities.
• High risk and self-injury actions
– military school/military service: weekend pass/or liberty.
- SocPsy666
(35)

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PMAPMA
• The prevalence of a PMA (Positive Mental Attitude)
within volunteer dyads (in the home) was the focus
of research studies on one college campus.
• A mutual diary was place in the home of certain
married couples – both/either equally yoked and/or
unequally yoked and compiled after 100 days.
• The outcome was that more incidences of
negative mental attitudes and less positive mental
attitudes were recorded by those in unequally
yoked dyads. Equally yoked dyads recorded
comparatively more PMAs.(24)
- SocPsy444

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“…“…by a show of hands…”by a show of hands…”
• In a seminar on successful dyadic relationships
with a rather mixed audience the presenter
simply popped the question-asking, “…by a
show of hands, how many here are ‘in’ or would
like to be ‘in’ an equally yoked coupleship?”
• Almost all hands in the audience went up (…that
was more than 98% of all in attendance), i.e.,
responding positively with a raise of hands.
• Generally speaking, within the academia
community, the equally yoked coupleship has
been identified as the preferred one the of
choice.(31)
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““Presence”Presence”
• In a clinical dyadic study, emotional presence of
equally yoked couples (volunteers) were
compared to those unequally yoked.
• The degree to which the different couples felt
emotionally connected with one another was
measured* by calibrated psychometric testing.
• Both, ‘online’ and ‘face-to-face’ were included in
the research. The findings were surprising to the
investigators - the equally yoked couples
measured only ‘slightly’ - not significantly - more
emotionally present than the unequally yoked.
More studies were suggested in the future. (15)
- SocPsy333- SocPsy333* self reported

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Unequally-yoked Couples
• Reports of 50-70% without any insight, nor
personal experience, nor understanding of
equallyoked coupling/coupleships.
• Studies: reported individuals’ reading and math
skills at about 3rd-6th grade levels-concerning
equallyoked coupling and coupleships.
• Recorded: no unusual physical signs and yet
seemingly sslower than normal in understanding
what comprises an equallyoked coupleship.
• Observations: daily practical social skills in
relationships and identifying ‘civil identity.’(4)
- SocPsy333

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““Love”Love”
• One study of upper division students on a liberal
arts college-campus; the ‘depth’ of love was
measured of equally yoked couples and those
of unequally yoked couples all in only platonic
relationships (nonsexual unions).
• Equally yoked couples and unequally yoked
were scored at the end of the semester after all
relationships had grown and developed.’
• The results were that the ‘depth of love’ rated
highest in the ‘equally yoked’ couples when
compared with the unequally yoked.(35)
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Is it LoveIs it Love oror Lust?Lust?
• Marriage couples: a record was kept one school
year (any year) of couple’s incidents of ‘lust’ vs
‘love’ and evaluated in order to investigate ‘lust’.
• Selected couples in study was based upon
whether they were Equally yoked or Unequally
yoked. The investigators target was ‘lust’.
• Each individual in the coupleship was asked to
rate their sexual encounters/or potential
incidents either ‘lust’ verses ‘love’ motivated.
• Investigators: Equally yoked couples scored
less ‘lust’ events at the end of the study.
Researchers plan to look into the ‘love’ more.(5,6)
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A Psychosocial StudyA Psychosocial Study::
Equally Yoked Unequally Yoked
Trusting (hopefulness) Mistrustful of people
Sense of will power Skeptical/doubtful
Self motivated Feelings of Inadequacy
Sense of competence* An inferiority complex
A clear self identity A sense of role confusion
Sexual intimacy achieved Sexually isolated/unhappy
A sense of busy-ness Workaholism(a)
*Also, “Coupleship satisfaction” - The Equally Yoked pair rated the highest
level of relationship satisfaction over all. Although both types of coupleships shared in
about the same level of ‘practical wisdom.’
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ScoresScores
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Therapy: Un/Equallyoked CouplesTherapy: Un/Equallyoked Couples
Coupleships: text assist with daily relationships.
• Education: coupleship teaching and training.
• Counseling: finding and maintaining suitable
gainful employment and career planning.
• Readings/video education: r/t interpersonal
communication and dyadic relationships.
• Group Living: an equallyoked savvy mileau.
• 12 Step group support to solve dyadic problems.
• Risk assessment: suicide ideation & pre-actions.(26)
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An ‘Equally Yoked’ Dyad
• An ‘equally yoked dyad may very well represent a well
balanced close relationship architecture, however,
investigators are in search of much more...
• Equally yoked couples play a major role in shaping,
attitudes, feelings, thoughts, habits and lifestyles.
Researchers describe how these close relationships
effect one another and just how important are equally
yoked coupleships anyway.
• Dyadic psychologists study how these interpersonal
relationships affect ‘equally yoked’ and ‘unequally
yoked’ people alike - looking at sexual attraction,
bonding and attachment, love, marriage, and family life.
- SocPsy220
(22)

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