The selfie paradox was introduced in a 2017 study by Diefenback and Christoforakos. This paradox addresses how people seem to dislike other people’s selfie photos, yet several people seem to take selfies. The research identified that selfies are associated with narcissism and non-authenticity.
The proliferation of social media continues to redefine norms and values, while threatening the ethical baseline. To what extent has a self-obsessed, narcissistic, ‘selfie’ way of life saturated and subverted the highest levels of ethical leadership and governance?
The Great Gasby Gordon Gekko in Wall Street Nicole Kidman’s character in To Die For etc…
With this list, it’s easy to see how very young children can feel this way, with their parents at their every beck and call… but then we grow up, and sometimes hang on to these childhood expectations.
As I look at this list, I can see some of these traits in myself. Can you see any of these traits in yourself, or perhaps in your colleagues? We might call that the narcissism paradox…
The question is what’s the tipping point, where it is no longer healthy?
The last one on the list is interesting in that it goes right to the heart of narcissism, where there’s no regard (or love) for other people.
Speaking of boundaries, I noticed in last year’s World Economic Forum global risks report that migration & interstate conflict featured prominently on the list… I’ll quickly show the top 10 global risks…
US Psychiatrists Hotchkiss, Sandy & Masterson, James F. Why Is It Always About You?: The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism (2003)
Shamelessness: Shame is the feeling that lurks beneath all unhealthy narcissism, and the inability to process shame in healthy ways.[clarify] Magical thinking: Narcissists see themselves as perfect, using distortion and illusion known as magical thinking. They also use projection to "dump" shame onto others. Arrogance: A narcissist who is feeling deflated may "reinflate" their sense of self-importance by diminishing, debasing, or degrading somebody else. Envy: A narcissist may secure a sense of superiority in the face of another person's ability by using contempt to minimize the other person or their achievements. Entitlement: Narcissists hold unreasonable expectations of particularly favorable treatment and automatic compliance because they consider themselves special. Failure to comply is considered an attack on their superiority, and the perpetrator is considered an "awkward" or "difficult" person. Defiance of their will is a narcissistic injury that can trigger narcissistic rage. Exploitation: Can take many forms but always involves the exploitation of others without regard for their feelings or interests. Often the other person is in a subservient position where resistance would be difficult or even impossible. Sometimes the subservience is not so much real as assumed. Bad boundaries: Narcissists do not recognize that they have boundaries and that others are separate and are not extensions of themselves. Others either exist to meet their needs or may as well not exist at all. Those who provide narcissistic supply to the narcissist are treated as if they are part of the narcissist and are expected to live up to those expectations. In the mind of a narcissist, there is no boundary between self and other.
AAPAE 2018 Dayo Sowunmi II - Beyond The Selfie Paradox Sep2018
25th Annual AAPAE Conference:
Ethics in a Crowded World
Dayo Sowunmi II
7 September 2018
Beyond The Selfie Paradox:
Does Social Media Define Our New
The First ‘Selfie’?
Narcissus by Caravaggio (1590s)
Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism
1. Shamelessness (inability to process healthily)
2. Magical thinking (“I am perfect”)
3. Arrogance (leading to debasing others)
4. Envy (false sense of superiority)
5. Entitlement (“I am special”)
6. Exploitation (disregard for others’ feelings)
7. Bad boundaries (“people there to serve me”)
Hotchkiss, Sandy & Masterson, James F. Why Is It Always About You?:
The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism (2003)
Top 5 Global Risks
In Terms of Likelihood AND Impact
1. Extreme weather events
2. Natural disasters
3. Large-scale involuntary
4. Terrorist attacks
5. Interstate conflict
..Source: World Economic Forum
Global Risks Report 2017
Maintaining Healthy Ethical Baseline
“The illusion of choice…”
Why are we doing things the way
we do now?
Maintaining Healthy Ethical Baseline
How To Maintain Healthy Ethical Baseline?
• Interested citizens must meet qualification
criteria to be selected
• Lottery system to select (not elect) officials
• Underlying theme: need more equitable
solution to current method of electing people
who govern our countries.
Next time someone uses social media to get under
our skin, we’ll remember those hedgehogs and take
a moment to review our ethical baseline, before we
respond (or choose not to respond)