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David Kinnear: 4 Tips to Motivate Your Kids

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Motivation, like parenting, is complex and hard to quantify. However, it is possible to become better at it. Whether you’re persuading your toddler to eat her vegetables, want your teenaged son to study for the SATs, or trying to get your 20- something to move out of the house, David Kinniear includes 4 tips to keep in mind.

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David Kinnear: 4 Tips to Motivate Your Kids

  1. 1. 4 TIPS TO MOTIVATE YOUR KIDS B Y D A V I D K I N N E A R E M O T I O N A L I N T E L L I G E N C E & P A R E N T I N G
  2. 2. MOTIVATION, LIKE PARENTING, IS COMPLEX AND HARD TO QUANTIFY.
  3. 3. HOWEVER, IT IS POSSIBLE TO BECOME BETTER AT IT...
  4. 4. D A V I D K I N N E A R I N C L U D E S T H E S E 4 T I P S T O K E E P I N M I N D . . .
  5. 5. w w w . s c i e n t i f i c a m e r i c a n . c o m / a r t i c l e / t h e - s e c r e t - t o - r a i s i n g - s m a r t - k i d s 1 / P a r e n t s s h o u l d p r a i s e t h e i r k i d s ’ e f f o r t , a s o p p o s e d t o i n n a t e t a l e n t , r e s e a r c h s u g g e s t s . #1. PRAISE EFFORT RATHER THAN INTELLIGENCE OR SUCCESS.
  6. 6. T o f o s t e r h e a l t h y e m o t i o n a l a n d p s y c h o l o g i c a l g r o w t h i n t h e i r c h i l d r e n , p a r e n t s a r e b e t t e r o f f c o m m e n d i n g t h e i r k i d s ’ h a r d w o r k , r a t h e r t h a n f l a t t e r i n g t h e i r k i d s ’ c o g n i t i v e g i f t s .
  7. 7. S t u d i e s s u g g e s t t h a t c h i l d r e n w h o a r e p r a i s e d f o r b e i n g s m a r t m a y s h o w l e s s r e s i l i e n c e a s a d u l t s a n d m a y b e m o r e l i k e l y t o a v o i d c h a l l e n g e s .
  8. 8. OPEN HOUSE ON MAY 3, 2019 W h i l e i t ’ s t e m p t i n g t o t e l l y o u r k i d s h o w s m a r t t h e y a r e , i t ’ s i m p o r t a n t t o b e m i n d f u l o f y o u r p a r e n t - c h i l d i n t e r a c t i o n s a n d h o w t h e y a f f e c t y o u r k i d s ’ d e v e l o p m e n t a n d s e n s e o f s e l f .
  9. 9. I t ’ s e a s y t o b e c o m e o v e r l y - i n v e s t e d i n y o u r k i d ’ s e d u c a t i o n a n d a c a d e m i c l i f e ; a s p a r e n t s , w e k n o w h o w i m p o r t a n t e d u c a t i o n i s t o f u t u r e s u c c e s s . #2. TAKE YOURSELF OUT OF THE EQUATION.
  10. 10. P a r e n t s w h o p u t p r e s s u r e o n t h e i r k i d s t o e x c e l a c a d e m i c a l l y a r e o f t e n m o t i v a t e d b y t h e i r o w n f e a r s a n d a n x i e t i e s s u r r o u n d i n g t h e i r c h i l d ’ s f u t u r e s u c c e s s .
  11. 11. R E M E M B E R T O K E E P T H E B I G P I C T U R E I N M I N D .  
  12. 12. R a t h e r t h a n e m p h a s i z e y o u r c h i l d ’ s g r a d e s i n s c h o o l , h e l p h e r b a l a n c e s c h o o l w o r k w i t h f r i e n d s h i p s , v o l u n t e e r w o r k , a n d f a m i l y a c t i v i t i e s .  
  13. 13. OPEN HOUSE ON MAY 3, 2019 H e l p h e r c u l t i v a t e h e r o w n m o t i v a t i o n s a n d p a s s i o n s . P r e s s u r i n g y o u r c h i l d i s c o u n t e r p r o d u c t i v e a n d u s u a l l y m a k e s t h i n g s w o r s e .
  14. 14. A m o u n t i n g b o d y o f e v i d e n c e s u g g e s t s t h a t f e e l i n g a s e n s e o f c o n n e c t i o n – a s e n s e o f b e l o n g i n g – c a n b e e x t r e m e l y m o t i v a t i n g f o r c h i l d r e n , e s p e c i a l l y f o r t h o s e w h o ’ v e e x p e r i e n c e d a d v e r s i t y . #3. MAKING A CONNECTION IS IMPORTANT.
  15. 15. I f y o u w a n t p e o p l e t o d e v e l o p p e r s i s t e n c e , o r t o s t i c k w i t h a p r o j e c t o v e r t h e l o n g t e r m , y o u n e e d t o m a k e t h e m f e e l t h e y h a v e a s e n s e o f p u r p o s e .  
  16. 16. OPEN HOUSE ON MAY 3, 2019 C u l t i v a t i n g a s e n s e o f p u r p o s e a n d e n g a g e m e n t i s h a r d t o d o w i t h s i m p l e m a t e r i a l r e w a r d s a n d p u n i s h m e n t s .
  17. 17. W e p a r e n t s a r e n ’ t g r e a t a t u n d e r s t a n d i n g w h a t m o t i v a t e s ( o r d e - m o t i v a t e s ) o u r c h i l d r e n .   #4. HELP THEM CULTIVATE THEIR OWN MOTIVATION.
  18. 18. F i g u r i n g o u t w a y s t o g e t y o u r k i d s t o t u n e i n t o t h e i r o w n m o t i v a t i o n i s k e y , s a y s D a n A r i e l y , a p r o f e s s o r o f p s y c h o l o g y a n d b e h a v i o r a l e c o n o m i c s a t D u k e U n i v e r s i t y .  
  19. 19. P a r e n t s c a n s t i m u l a t e t h e i r c h i l d ’ s i n n a t e i n t e l l e c t u a l c u r i o s i t y b y e n c o u r a g i n g h i m o r h e r t o p u r s u e i n t e r e s t s o u t s i d e o f s c h o o l .
  20. 20. OPEN HOUSE ON MAY 3, 2019 I t c a n b e d i f f i c u l t t o r e l i n q u i s h c o n t r o l , b u t g i v i n g c h i l d r e n a m p l e l a t i t u d e t o f i n d t h e i r o w n p a s s i o n p a y s o f f .
  21. 21. ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED ON DAVIDKINNEAR.NET
  22. 22. FOLLOW DAVID KINNEAR F O R T H E L A T E S T F I N A N C E N E W S & U P D A T E S ! @KinnearDavid Linkedin.com/in/David- Kinnear Facebook.com/David Kinnear4

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