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The Formula
for Change support?!
1st Keynote @ ONLINE Women in Agile EU 2020
Supporting People through Change

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zHDNfoB_hCw

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Here I showed some screenshots of the video (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zHDNfoB_hCw)
They are not included in the PDF because of copyright.
The key messages of the screenshots in on slide 5.

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Crisis and Change

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(sometimes) people...
● run around headlessly
● use tools to handle the crisis
● break things
● get hurt and hurt others
and there is...
● a lot happening all at once
● a lot of “noise” (versus: clear signals)
When there’s a Crisis...
Here I showed two screenshots of the
video
(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zH
DNfoB_hCw)
They are not included in the PDF
because of copyright.
The key messages are written on the
left hand side on this slide.

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… things get (suddenly) different:
● lots of uncertainty
● appears or IS threatening
And: the need for changes arises.
When there’s a Crisis...
https://unsplash.com/photos/Z9arfr0f248

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e.g.
● over-action or numbing
● trying to “get back” to before
● mitigate “unwanted” things
● uncover new stuff
● respecting change
● inspect & adapt
● ...
… SOME kind of change handling follows
https://unsplash.com/photos/mG28olYFgHI

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Supporting
women, diversity, people
through change

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https://www.agilealliance.org/supporting-people-through-change/

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Supporting
people...
… through change
1. make change handling
a “normal thing”

Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Supporting
people...
… through change
✓ make change handling
a “normal thing”
1. support YOUR SELF first
2. (implicity) skill-up
3. support OTHERS (better)

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https://unsplash.com/photos/Y_kIawhP8gc

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_Support_
Yourself_
_Skill-Up_ _Support_
Others_

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The formula

Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Be present
Be open
Do what matters

Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
(Be)²Do

Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
(Be)²Do

Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Be present
Be open
Do what matters

Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Being present

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Wirbelwind
Support Others

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The “too much” & “too little” cocktail
● too many “pulls”
● too many wonderful opportunities to do… to support others
● too much passion
● too little rest
● too little presence moments
● too few “NOs” to more work
Support Others
https://unsplash.com/photos/eJ9mX6yEbAw

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Change willingness
is worthless
if change capacity
is depleted
https://unsplash.com/photos/Z9arfr0f248

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Being present practises (1)
Consciously...
★ breathing
★ feeling the soles of your feet
(or the palms of your hands)
★ savouring a hot beverage
→ VAKOG (e.g. see, feel, smell)
Support Yourself
& Skill-Up

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“brushing
your
sanity”
Being present practises (1)
Everyday occasions:
★ breathing
★ feeling the body
○ soles, palms, but
★ savouring
○ beverages, food
○ sunlight
Support Yourself
& Skill-Up

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Journaling
Being present practises (2)
Supports you with:
★ keeping track
(work, habits, etc.)
★ retroflecting on change work
★ staying present
★ becoming present again
Tipp: Do it (almost) daily.
Support Yourself
& Skill-Up

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Being open & letting go

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Support Others
we are all
“equal”
thinking

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-“We do NOT learn from experience...-
-we learn from reflecting-
-on experience.” [John Dewey, educationist]-
source:https://unsplash.com/

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Missed a chance to support diversity...
everyone had biases
huge amount of unawareness
too much “to do”
too little time & energy to spend
Support Others

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Supporting
openness
Useful skill-up areas
● learn about biases
→ increases awareness
● truly truly truly listen
○ preferably to those folks
who are NOT like you
○ actively go and search for them!
○ practise open-minded listening
Skill-Up

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being open
is a constant
learning process

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be kind
to yourself and others
someone “messed up”?
try again, do one step better...

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Being open & letting go

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Support Yourself

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Supporting
“letting go”
a mind & body practise
Support Yourself
& Skill-Up

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Supporting
“letting go”
a mind & body practise
Write a limiting belief (or problem)
on a sheet of paper. Then:
1. put it in front of your face
2. sloooowly move it away
3. observe what’s happening
⇒ transition from narrow perspectives
to more, wider headspace (again)
Support Yourself
& Skill-Up

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_“We cannot solve problems_
_with the same thinking we used_
_when we created them.”__[Einstein]_
https://unsplash.com/photos/YU81y4-x0Bw

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Doing what matters

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(Be)²Do

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source:https://unsplash.com/photos/GSeCPc4q-7k

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breathing
practise
listening
limiting beliefs
exercise
perspective changemindful moments
reducing bias

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Doing what
matters to YOU

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It’s about values… YOUR values (1)
Uncovering your own values
and how to live up to them sounds simple
- yet it is not always so easy:
● societal influence
● external “forces” / context
● energy level ( → hamster wheel)
● ...
Support Yourself
& SkillUp

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It’s about values… YOUR values (2)
Our actions are way more sustainable (for ourselves and for others)
if we “do stuff” coherent to OUR values.
Support Others
(& Yourself)

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Uncovering
your values...
… to do what matters to YOU
Some recommendations:
★ Core Values exercise
by Deborah Hartmann Preuss
https://abiggergame.today/bigger-on-the-inside/
★ Using (parts of) the ACT diary
by Dr. Nic Hooper & Dr. Brown
https://www.pavpub.com/mental-health/well-being/act-diary
Support Yourself
& Skill-Up

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Personal Growth
&
Courage

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Connection &
Authenticity

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Support yourself first
and THEN other people
through change

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Supporting
Human
Beings
… through change
✓ see change as a “normal thing”
✓ support OURSELVES first
⇒ (implicity) skill-up
⇒ support OTHERS (better)

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(Be)²Do
the Minion Formula
for Change Support

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Be present
Be open
Do what matters

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YOUR next step?

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Being present

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Three breaths

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Be present

Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Be present
Be open
Do what matters