Well ( insert name here )….Chapter 14 talks about how our strengths can also beour faults.When this happens, honest feedback from an outsideobserver is crucial to “recalibrate” ourselves.
In the past, that role was often taken by a Dutch Uncle.In Randy’s life, longtime Mentor Professor Dam was hisDutch Uncle.With the advice Randy was given, he was able torealize his faults and better himself.
To keep it simple,everybody needs a Dutch Uncle.
A Dutch UncleIt was the first picturethat came up.(We’re sorry.)
All pictures of Mr. T aside, what’s the point of thebook?Actually there are three…
Randy Says:“There is an old expression, "a Dutch uncle," whichrefers to a person who gives you honest feedback”“I tend to say what I’m thinking and what I believe…these traits have mostly served me well. But thereare times when I’ve come across as arrogant andtactless. That’s when those who can help yourecalibrate yourself become absolutely crucial.”
“He was actually saying, "Randy, youre being ajerk." But he said it in a way that made me opento his criticisms, to listening to my hero tellingme something I needed to hear. ““Ive been lucky enough to benefit over theyears from people like Andy, who have caredenough to tell me the tough-love things that Ineeded to hear.”
Now for something very Interesting…Our responses to the questions we whererequired really wanted to answer.
(one)What was it about Dr. van Dam’s delivery andmessage that resonated with Randy?
By sarcastically blaming others perception of Randy asthe problem (as opposed to Randy’s actual actions) Dr.Van Dam’s message was said in a way that allowedRandy to openly listen to his criticisms;
Much more so than if Professor Dam had directlyscolded Randy for his social behaviors.
(two)Who in your own life has told you things aboutyourself that made you reconsider your actionsor behavior?
(Mercy Says)In my own life my brother probably can be myDutch uncle. He is a very truthful critic but canbe a little not as nice, but it does make adifference.
(Andrew Says)I guess my “Dutch Uncle” would my Grandma,because if I didn’t listen to her the first time, I’dhear it over and over and over again.