STAND UP! SPEAK OUT! -Getting the word out about domestic violence/ sexual assault.Hosted by: Lauren , Christy, Shakaria, &Mariah
• Have you, or anyone close to you (friends/family), been affected by domestic violence/sexual assault?• Do you personally know any women who were victims of domestic violence/sexual assault?• Do you personally know any men who were victims of domestic violence/ sexual assault?• http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WL3rfk2iFwwAnonymous Survey
Sexual Assault: When a person commits an act of sexual penetration by the use of force or threats of force, or when the accused knew the victim was unable to understand the nature of the act or was unable to give knowing consent. Acquaintance rape: A form of rape when the perpetrator is someone who knows the victim/survivor. The perpetrator can be a friend, classmate, relative, or co- worker. Domestic Violence: A pattern of abusive behavior that is used by an intimate partner to gain or maintain power and control over the other partner. Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic, or physiological actions or threats of action that can influence another person. Dating Violence: Violence committed by a person who is or has been in a romantic/intimate relationship with the victim/survivor, and where the existence of such a relationship shall be determined based on length of relationship and type of relationship. Stalking: A pattern of repeated and unwanted attention, harassment, contact or any other course of conduct directed at a specific person that would cause the person to feel fear.Terms : (definitions providedby the women’s resource center)
• Rape is the most frequently committed violent crime in the US. • The Surgeon General reported that in the US, domestic violence causes more injury to adult women than cancer, heart attacks, or strokes. • FBI stats state that every 15-18 seconds a woman is battered in the United States. • 80% of the time, a rape is committed by someone the victim knows and nearly half occur in the victim’s own home. • 25% of women and 7.6% of men are raped or physically assaulted by their spouse, partner, or dating partner by the end of their lifetime. • Women between the ages of 20-24 are most likely to become victims of domestic violence. • 3 MILLION children witness domestic violence every year. • 1 in 3 women killed by homicide are murdered by their current or former partner.ShockingStatistics (PRWEB.com)
• As a whole, society doesn’t treat male victims of sexual assault/domestic violence as compassionately as they do with women, which is why our action project for our women’s study class was to touch on this societal issue. • In society, men are “supposed to” be able to protect themselves. • Unfortunately in most cases, the male that is being sexually assaulted is a young boy who cannot defend himself, and because of the way society creates grandeur expectations, he might feel embarrassed to admit to being a victim and not being able to defend himself. • Physically, males respond to stimulation of their reproductive organs by having erections. Because of this, the perpetrator may say that the victim was “asking for it” or the victim might be ashamed because of the way their body responded to the trauma. This is simply a physical reaction and it doesn’t mean the person enjoyed it, or in a scenario with a child, understands what’s going on.Society and Myths aboutMale Victims
• Males significantly have a tougher time down the road than girls because it is not socially acceptable to seek help and they are expected to “man up” and “deal with” what has happened to them.• The most disturbingly common myth is that boys, who were sexually abused, go on to sexually abuse other boys. This is a horrible stigma that is set up and the child may not want to admit to what happened to them because of this stigma alone.Society and Myths aboutMale Victims
• Hospital Call• Dad• Sexual Assault and the Gay CommunityExamples From Lauren’sInternship/ PersonalExperience
• Male victim’s aren’t allowed to stay in domestic violence/sexual assault shelters because they only allow women and children. Most men would rather return to the unsafe situation then have to turn to a homeless shelter.• Male victims are underreported by the police because they aren’t taken seriously.• The most common types do domestic abuse men experience are economical and mental, which are much harder to prove.• Young boys experiencing sexual assault may not be able to get the help necessary if their parent is the perpetrator.Common Issues for MaleVictims
• LISTEN!!! It’s important to listen any time a survivor confides in you about their past trauma. Actively listen and be compassionate.• ENCOURAGE them to seek therapy/ counseling: Two great resources here in Dekalb are Safe Passage: (815) 758-7922 and the Women’s Resource Center: (815)753-0320. Safe Passage has a 24 hour hotline, and both facilities offer counseling/therapy free of charge for victims and their families. Therapy is important because many mental illnesses are trauma based, and it’s hard to move on from a traumatic event alone without support.• USE GOOD JUDGMENT when out or even within romantic relationships. A good rule of thumb is “if it feels wrong, it probably is.” Mental abuse is still abuse. And in cases of sexual assault, it’s important to use good judgment and stay in populated areas whether or not you know the people you’re out with. We strongly encourage women AND men to carry pepper pray. Doing this doesn’t make you weak, it makes you smart. It truly doesn’t matter how strong you are, a sexual assault can happen in seconds and it’s important to protect yourself.• ANYONE can be a victim. To treat a male victim differently than a female victim is sexism. Men have every right to feel safe and every right to talk openly about their past traumas. It’s important to remember that because society shuns men for being a victim, when in reality abuse and assault can happen to anyone at any time.• GET THE WORD OUT about sexual assault/domestic violence. Tell everyone you can! The more people that are educated, the more people can take the proper precautions to protect themselves. Where there is knowledge, there is room for change.What can we do to helpfemale/male victims?
• Questions/ Comments?!• StatsThank you for your time!Get the word out!